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Question

i need to know if my husband is cheating on me. should i have him followed to the bar when he goes out every friday with out me? lately he has been looking at online profile pages like yahoo personals. does this mean he could be thinking about finding someone new? guys: if u did this and u was married for 3 years does it mean that u are sick of ur wife? girls: what would u do in this situation? would u throw a fit or sit back and wait to see what happens?
someone give me some answers please!!!!!!!! i am going crazy over here!

i forgot to mention thati have asked him if i could come with him and he always uses the kids as an excuse. who's gonna watch the kids. u know tha baby is gonna cry. i cant have fun knowing my baby is crying. for every thing that i tell him he always has an excuse. sometimes he even says he doesn't have any money but still goes out. one time i asked him why come u don't ever invite me and he said that i don't need an invitation i am always welcome to come. but that sounded like a line to me. it just didn't sound real. anywayz i think he is full of it.

Answer 1

Dear Rastafarimama,

Okay. What do you do? My ex husband, and dad to my kids, did this to me. And after we broke up I made some observations.

1- his current girl throws big fits. I didn't, and it seems to work to a certain degree. Though keep it from nagging.

2- she goes out, all the time, and leaves him home with the kids. lol. This I think is the biggest secret here. You need to go out and have some fun. Call some girl friends, go to someone house if you don't have $, watch a video there, but go out, don't take your cell, leave it at home charging .... and HAVE SOME FUN.

Right now, you are boring and predictable .... if you want to have his attention, don't be his mommy, be a desirable woman. To be a desirable woman, you have to take care of you. Go out and have fun. When he asks what time you'll be home, say ... not sure, some time after 10 or 11pm. BIngo, he's paying attention to you, now.

Oh, yeah, he's going to complain. My ex complains to me now and then. And I just smile, big. But, he has become a better provider, more affectionate to her than he was to me, and he admits, now that he wasn't as good as he could have been.

Give him a chance to fall for you again.

good luck,
green terra

ps- don't ask to go out with him. Bag form girl, bad form. Makes him think your desperate. You are a Woman, not desperate! You are the best thing he's got. Did you watch the Incredibles, and the scene where he is looking for his supper suit .... that's your line.

Answer 2

Your husband shouldnt be goin to the bar every weekend without you, and no he should not be checkinout profiles online. First, you should ask him last minute if u could go with him to the bar or if you could go out to dinner or a movie instead and see how he reacts. If he gets nervous or seems like hes making excuses then I would follow him or have him followed and see whats really going on. Dont just sit back and see what happens...this is yur life, this is you husband and this is your marriage!!!
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Ok, i didnt realize yall have kids together too! You REALLY need to put your foot down! He is NOT being agood husband or father by leaving you home with the kids while hes out at the bar! It is not ok. Even if he isnt cheating, you have got to put a stop to this soon! You deserve so much better!

Answer 3

If I thought my man was cheating, or looking to cheat, the first question I would ask myself is WHY? Am I neglecting him? What is he seeking from other women that he's not getting at home. If I can see that somehow I'm not that great to come home to, don't tell him how important he is, don't make him feel manly and desired, don't take care of him sexually, then I would start a full out campaign to change my ways. If I found that I already do all those things, I would hire a detective to have some proof in order to confront him. A guy who would cheat just for the heck of it, who has a good home life, he's probably not worth fighting for.

Answer 4

One thing I have learn being in a relationship for five years is that you never blow your cover until you have all the evidence that you need because if you do have your stuff together a man or some men will lie to the end in your case he might be seeing someone because ain't nothing in a club but single women looking for another woman's man I know from experience. This is what you do the next Friday he wants to go out you get ready and you go with him if you can if he is hesitate about you coming or he allows you to come with him but he tries to take you to another club and not the club he usually goes to best believe he is seeing some one who goes to the club. So keep your mouth close gather your evidence and then approach the your man. Keep you head up

Answer 5

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Answer 6

Why is he going out without you? In my opinion, i do think that you are on to something, and I would follow him tomorrow night to see where he is going.....now you will probably need the help of a friend and some sexy wigs, but I would follow him and see where he is going and wait patiently until the time is right o confront him......take a camera if you can, this way you will have solid proof to show him. But he would be taking me to the bar too.

Answer 7

Guys have 3 states of mind, they are cheating, they are thinking about cheating or they are thinking about the consequences of cheating. It has nothing to do with you. Mene are biologically polygamous. Society, almost unversally, was polygamous for thousands of years. That upstart religion 1000 years ago made it a sin under pain of being boiled in oil. That will not change the biology fo the situation. It has nothing to do with you either. He would be doing that if her were shacking up with a porn star. Its just the way it is. There is a very good reason why divorce is 50% except with swingers and it is 5%.

Answer 8

If he is looking at profile and personals then his is not happy at home or he is looking for some else! You should confront him and ask him if he is happy. Make sure he has no reason to go anywhere else! Instead of going out every Friday be himself he should be taking you. If he's not and he' looking at profiles he might be meeting other women!!

Answer 9

Girl the only way to find out is to follow him you'r self and dont let him see you ...go in a friends car and have one of them get down and spy on him??? I think that a woman tryly knows and should listen to her intuition when you'r heart is telling you something that you wish wasn't true????

Answer 10

Get a babysitter. Don't tell him. Then show up at the bar in your own car, without warning.