This question is for MARRIED MEN !?

Question

This question is for MARRIED MEN just because i've dated two men in my life who ended up being married ..... WTF!

Yes men .. I am a bit bitter, just because I feel as if I was F* used !

If you are married .. why do you cheat? Why dont you just leave your wife if you are not happy.
One guy said bk he has kids, I can understand that so why cheat ?

Please please answer with honesty

Answer 1

The biology of the male of the species is polygamous. Females are serially monogamous. That is biology. Men, by force of nature need variety. Topless bars, the net or hookers or affairs. For thousands of years society, virtually universally, was polygamous. About 1000 years ago that upstart religion made monogamy the standard under threat of being boiled in oil. It is un-natural. Prostitutes, not street walkers, but higher class hookers will tell you that they have saved or extended more marriages than any marriage counsellor. It has nothing to do with wanting to leave anyone. It has to do with biology that society has forced in an un-natural direction. It is not surprizing that the divorce rate is 50% to 60% except amoung swingers where it is 5% to 10%. There is a resaon for that. I am sorry you went through what you did, but it is not because the guy was an a**. He may have been one, but he did not do it because he was trying to hurt some one.

Answer 2

From what I just read, you were actually saying that if a man had kids it was alright for him to cheat. It is never good for a man to cheat, but the wandering eye has a habit of being a bear claw and trapping the man in a world of hurt. Most men cheat because they are missing something. It does not always have to do with sex. It could be companionship, could be a fetish that his partner does not embrace, but more times than not it is because it is the thrill of doing something they know is wrong and not getting caught. They feel invincible and they feel good in a fragile shell until it comes crashing down. They will almost always get caught if not by the a person but by guilt. For the cheatee, as I would like to call it, they are or as much as a victim as the wife/girlfriend if they are left in the dark. This only really goes true if they truly did not know he was already in a relationship.

Answer 3

First let me say I dont believe you didnt know these men were married....C'Mon ....Your not fooling anybody here. Now let me answer your question. Men cheat for different reasons. I think the majority of men cheat because they are bored at home and want a little fling on the side but they love there wife and would never leave them. Its kinda F**ked up but thats the way it is. I dont know why you set yourself up for this, these men dont love you....they use you because you let them. Do you know what "Self Respect"
is? Have a little.

Answer 4

Ok, honestly here it comes...

I wanted to try certain things with my wife, positions etc...nothing to bad or disgusting..she said no NEVER. I quit asking after a couple of No's...I'm a sexual guy, I would like sex 1-2 times per day, my wife is not sexual whatsoever, she gets upset if i ask for sex once a month...everytime I ask i get rejected so i quit asking because it was starting to make me feel bad about myself. I would try new things to, i'd try to be romantic that never worked, I tried the whipped cream and strawberries, that didn't work...she just doesn't care for sex...

I can't leave because i do have a child with her and that child is my world, I would give my last breath for my kid...i can't stand the thought of not seeing my kid on a daily basis...

i hope that helps clear things up a little...it doesn't make cheating right mind you but there you have my answer.

Answer 5

Mostly because they are looking for something that's missing in their marriage. It could be sex, companionship, feeling of being stuck in current relationship, happiness & some just to cheat, but it takes two ! so why do women end up having affairs with married men when they know that they are married ?

Answer 6

People do what they think they can get away with.
Its the stupid ones that try to get away with even more than they should.

I drive a sports and I speed every day, but do I have any speeding tickets? No Why? Because I only go a few miles over the speed limit. Not a lot, but enough to make me happy.

Answer 7

why do I cheat ,?
well because I have found a lady that is prepared to have a no complications affair with me and asks for only my company in bed .
why don't I leave my wife?
because other than her repulsion for intimate contact we have a loving and close relationship she is my best friend and partner
I love my wife but lust after the affection the other woman supplies me with ,
I know its wrong but as you have been there you will know forbidden fruit can be sweet ,
you asked for an honest answer
I know I wont be liked for the answer but its honest

Answer 8

Im a woman but I would say men cheat because they have no respect for thier wife and its easy to do when that is the issue.

Answer 9

I am married, and I DON"T cheat. Do you honestly believe that all men are willing to trade in there integrity, decency, and self respect for that little piece of fluff you have between your legs? If you do, I can see why your ignorant and naive enough to date married men.

Answer 10

It's not your fault that you ended up hooking up with men who in the long run were married. You didn't know...

Men will do WHATEVER it takes to get what they want...even lie...so trust me...you shouldn't be bitter. Don't let them get the best of you ..your way better than that...just be more careful on who you choose.