ok i just found out my husband watches porn behind my back. he apologized i said i forgive u. but inside i am hurt and betrayed because rather than asking me to watch with him he enjoyed it when i wasn't there. i mean he would not talk abt a naked person in front of me. now i am so mad and jealous. we just had new set of channels with playboy and other porn ****. i feel like he will watch it behind my back but not when i am there. its so annoying.i am going to get mad now even if i am there and he puts it on. how can i get over it. he would be mad at me too if he secretly sees me watching nude men.we are both the same but he likes to lie and do behind my back i just don't find other men attractive since i have to picture him and have him to reach ORgasm. i think of no other man when i am in love. iits all of them or nothing. how can i get over this issue. i don;t want to hear o i shuld be glad he is not doing it. when sumone wants to see that. they prolly want to do it only if they....
2007-08-02 11:57:42 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
only if they culd get sum. mostly its prolly those blondes don't want these men. but if they make themselves available i bet these men would go running to fu"K them.there is no difference in men and women. we all have needs. usually men say we are visual creatures. its so old. tell me sumthing new
2007-08-02 11:59:51 · update #1
First of all you may be a little over the top. I think its a trust issue and he should be willing to watch it with you. Tell him how you feel about this and that you would like to watch it with him. If you don't like porn and he feels he needs to watch it then perhaps you need to seek out a marriage therapist. But PLEASE calm down about the situation. Its not as big a deal as somethings. Try to be calm with him and work this out.
2007-08-02 12:09:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get that stick out of your butt. Its a MOVIE.
How would you feel if someone told you you can't see romantic comedies because they give a false image of what love is. Or you can't watch historical movies because they don't represent all points of view of the time period. Or Actions movies because they encourage violence. How about no movies at all because they just aren't real.
You seem to be dead set on curt-tailing your husbands rights. the Nazis were very good at getting rid of pornography of course that was only the beginning. How many millions of people do you want to die to make you feel safe.
Feelings only tell you what you feel, but they don't tell you the truth. If you are going to focus on your feeling then everyone has a right to focus on their feelings and that would include serial killers and murders and rapist. What makes your feeling more valid than theirs?
Now do you understand its just a movie and you are focusing way too much on yourself. Hell, its a beautiful day go out side and take a walk and enjoy these last seven weeks of summer.
2007-08-02 19:20:32 · answer #2 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
watch it together, and do something UNEXPECTED... like act out something that you are watching... if its done sexy enough, he light look forward to you in bed as he once did. Maybe he is trying to send you a message.
I hear this all too often that married women say that their husbands are obsessed with porn watching... Deal with the problem together. It's not worth loosing the 2 of you over.
Hope this helps
2007-08-03 16:59:24 · answer #3 · answered by rc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't really have a good answer but i am going through something similar. my husband is going to these online profile places like yahoo personals and sh** like that and it really pisses me off! i have seen a few xxx porn sites online too that he was looking at however i haven't confronted him about those. the one thing i told him about was the yahoo personals thing and he tried that bullshi* line about how it was like going to a car show. u know u aint going to have one of those cars but its fun to dream and imagine that u do. now aint that the dumbest thing u ever heard? he knows how i feel about it yet he continues to go online to these websites. i will never understand why men do stupid stuff like that when they have a woman who is willing to do the things that they see in the porno! why would they rather sit there and watch it when they could be doing it? i just think that guys aren't too bright sometimes... sorry i couldnt help with a good answer but i just wanted u to know that u aren't the only one having issues!!
2007-08-02 19:15:49 · answer #4 · answered by malaika 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look don't feel so bad its a male thing, men are more curious than women when it comes to sex. sometimes men watch porn to learn and try something new. next time he is watching, watch with him and see if theres is something you like in there that you want to do with him. tell him lets try that or what he thinks about it, relationships are about sharing the goods and the bads, who knows your sex life may just get better.
2007-08-02 19:10:03 · answer #5 · answered by gunda m 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's probably watching it and j*cking off and he'd be to embarrassed to do that with you?
If it's such a huge issue, then cancel the channels.
2007-08-02 19:09:41 · answer #6 · answered by **Llola** 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm tired of people saying my husband watches porn...Most men do and there is nothing wrong with them watching it..
haven't you ever watched porn..I have..we are all adults and understand that we do these things
get over it people
2007-08-02 19:04:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
So what if he watches that crap. Who really cares? Isn't it better that he just watch than be an active participant?
2007-08-06 18:59:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get the Vchip and blck the channels out.
2007-08-02 19:01:22 · answer #9 · answered by uberconfused2much 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u should just tell him how u feel. try to let him catch you watching it and ask him how he feels.
2007-08-02 19:00:58 · answer #10 · answered by pepperland 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋