and now wanted to go overseas to stop then come back but to a different state, because they are afraid they cant resist temptation, what would you do?
2007-08-02 11:45:08 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
and now wanted to go overseas to stop then come back and move to a different state, because they are afraid they cant resist temptation, what would you do?
i don't do drugs, never have. i do love him.
2007-08-02 11:56:33 · update #1
we don't have children. we are quite young. (22) he has been doing it for about 3 years now. I found out 2 years ago. at first it was experimental then it was daily usage of $25, it has now escalated to $100 daily. I won't be going with him o/s. I think he is serious about quitting, normally it's me and his brother that pushes him to quit. He decided to do it himself this time. he said to me he knows if he doesnt do it this time, he will never do it. he will be going to a place o/s where he can't speak the language, he will have a guardian type person there and i think when he comes back, he should not stay here, because of the "friends" he has here. because of the drugs, he has lost all the friends that weren't into it. so if he moves and i go with him, we will have to start right over.
2007-08-02 12:58:42 · update #2
It makes sense that it should happen this way
That the sky should break, and the earth should shake
As if to say: Sure it all matters but in such an
unimportant way
As if to say:
Fly away, sweet bird of prey
Fly fly away
Nothing can stand in your way
Sweet bird, if you knew the words
I know you'd say: fly, fly away
It makes sense that it should hurt in this way
That my heart should break, and my hands should shake
As if to say: Sure it don't matter except in the most
important way
As if to say:
Fly away, sweet bird of prey
Fly fly away
I won't stand in your way
Sweet bird, if you knew the words
I know that you'd say: fly, fly away
It makes sense that it should feel just this way
That you slowly fade and yet still remain
As if to say: Everything matter in such an invisible way
As if to say: It's O.K.
Fly...away
2007-08-02 11:53:06 · answer #1 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, he needs to get help to get off the drugs. Then he needs to choose NEW friends as the old ones I'm sure would get him right back on them as the temptation and ease of getting them is there. Moving and starting over may or may not help, but running away from "the problem" won't. He has to learn how to control his addiction because regardless of where he lives, drugs are all around. You have to remember that there is always the possibility of relapse. You also have to make sure that you, yourself, are not an enabler. If this is something that he doesn't get help for or relapses and doesn't continue treatment then the best thing to do is leave him, especially if you have children together. Some have to hit rock bottom before they wake up. Others stay rock bottom just to get their next fix as the addiction controls them. Remember, addictions to serious drugs do not go away over night or even in a month. He needs to go into an inpatient treatment program for several months. If worse comes to worse, it will be time for an intervention w/ yourself, his family, etc. If he has friends to talk to (clean friends) that will help support him in his recovery it will be of good help. Keep him AWAY from those that enable him! They will only hinder treatment.
2007-08-02 19:12:52 · answer #2 · answered by wasntme012002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Knowing him for seven years is a good thing. Hopefully you can tell if he really really wants to quit. I know from personal experience that moving away CAN help. It did! My husband has never touched drugs away from where he grew up. But every time we go back to visit everyone...sure enough...it happens. All his friends are into it. He still never does it anywhere but there. There are also people like my husband's friend. He came to visit us during the holidays and during that short time he left by himself and went and found drugs in a place he had never been. It can go both ways. I guess it depends on the person, their situation, what they really want in life. This is a very tough decision to make. Do you have children? Does he want YOU to go with him overseas? Will he still have lots of contact with people from where you are right now...friends, family, etc. Do you think he is really capable of doing this? He IS making the step of saying he has a problem and he obviously wants to quit. I really hope everything works out for you two. Don't give up hope too quickly. He WANTS to quit.
2007-08-02 19:29:59 · answer #3 · answered by Karen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would depend on many things, if I loved him, if I had children and if I was taking drugs too.
If I loved him I would support him, but running away to a different state wont help, drugs are all over the world.
If I had children I would leave him, I wouldnt want my kids to be doing the same.
If I was taking drugs too Id get help and stop.
2007-08-02 18:52:39 · answer #4 · answered by Lindy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, If it was me I would care less what you did. Because he no longer would be my friend or partner.
2007-08-02 18:49:13 · answer #5 · answered by Cinnamon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd tell them, goodbye and I MIGHT be there when they got clean.
2007-08-02 19:00:55 · answer #6 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave
2007-08-02 18:53:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋