she said im the father but she is married, what should i do? i wanted to finish our relationship but now i dont know, what do you think?
2007-08-02 10:54:58 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we've been boyfrends for a year.
2007-08-02 10:56:00 · update #1
if i get in troubles with them they could deport me.
2007-08-02 10:56:38 · update #2
i wanted finish our relationship iknow is wrong but when i told her she told me she is pregnat and dont want me leave her or she will acuse me to ICE in the other she doesnt get divorce and in my family you always must take care of you kids.
2007-08-02 11:17:32 · update #3
Get her to get a DNA test on the baby... or insist on making that test to prove that the baby is yours. They can draw DNA even out of the ammonic fluids...
2007-08-02 10:59:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st I would have her take a pregnancy test at Planned Parenthood or somewhere just to make sure she is not playing you/stressing you for some ulterior motive.
Other than that keep living your life ...just request a DNA. If the baby is not yours cool you have no problems. If the baby is yours then you have to ask yourself:
1. Is she divorcing her husband for me?
2. Does she want a life with me and the baby?
3. How am I going to take responsibility for this if she stays
married?
4. Does the husband know?
5. Is he super jealous and will try and kill me?
6. Abortion? Is it an option for her/you?
Man you got a lot to think about...
2007-08-02 18:11:10 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Lucky♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweet Pea I think a DNA test is needed if she is married. You said you want to finish your relationship, do you actually call being 2nd to someone married is a relationship no it is a fling. See, you shouldn't let yourself be used this way, because you can potentially destroy a marriage. The hubbie is the only innocent victim, you need to find a way and let this go. If the baby is yours take care of it. Good luck!
2007-08-02 17:59:51 · answer #3 · answered by b n real 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really follow the question. If you have a boyfriend, what are you doing getting a married woman pregnant? You must not be a citizen to be fearful of getting deported. Shame on you both for being lowlife scum CHEATERS. Loser. You two deserve each other. I feel sorry for the baby.
2007-08-02 18:17:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
man you must tell the truth , you have to break this bad relationship , and tell her husband what you did . you are a man you can face the truth .. and actually you are not alone in this **** , she is so bad you know . she didn't deserve that guy who married her she didn't respect the normal human rules . I'm sorry for her .. but at least she must try to tell him too .. maybe he'll forgive her .. and after all she mustn't put the child . well i hope the best for all of you . don't wait for the baby .. what are you gonna do if it's yours ?
2007-08-02 18:08:37 · answer #5 · answered by Hakim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off, get a DNA test when the baby is born. If it is not yours hurray (sarcasm). And by the way why are you messing with a married girl?? She is supposedly in love w/ someone else. Tell her to get a divorce or else you will leave.
2007-08-02 17:58:23 · answer #6 · answered by labohemianartist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes.. and if your are smart and can do this with out regret ... leave the state and start over somewhere else. as a illegal.. that should be no promblem.. i mean if she is married .. do you think she is not having sex with her husband... and the child could be his of course.. look at it this way if you get deported you wont see your child any way.. iknow i am going to get thumps down for this one.. but really do you guys think her husband is not going to report him. i know i would
2007-08-02 18:00:28 · answer #7 · answered by vis 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nice going. Im sorry but you shouldnt have an affair with her. You have to be there for the baby. So you have to tell her husband or have her tell her husband. Then they can raise the child but you should visit him/her atleast twice a week! The baby will be messed up if you stop being in your babies life! Good luck telling her husband!
2007-08-02 17:59:29 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she was married before you started to be the father, you should really dump her...if she has a legal husband there is nothing you can do to stay with her.
Since she is married and is going to have a baby, You should Not be the father because you are not married to her.
2007-08-02 17:59:28 · answer #9 · answered by bananacompanion535 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a serious talk with her and decide what to do. She needs to assess her relationship with her husband, are they happy together? Does she want to stay with him. Assuming it is your child you will need to talk about your involvement in the child's life. But as i am sure you are aware the only way to tell is to have a paternity test done.
Good Luck
2007-08-02 18:01:22 · answer #10 · answered by wildnmad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋