I dont smoke, I dont drink, I go clubbing (maybe 2x a mth), single, and yet when I go on a date, they think I will have sex with them after 2 dates! I respect myself and dont put myself to this!!! No, I dont dress or act like sl**t, I like to give respect in order to get respect..Is that so hard to give? Just wanted to know the guys point of view = ) Ladies, you can answer too : P
PS: Did not post it in the Singles&Dating because I didnt want 13, or 14 yr old answers = ) Thanks!!!
2007-08-02 10:34:07 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Latina123, sorry to hear this. I do wonder how old you are and also how old are the men that you are dating. Most real "men" don't feel the need to push the envelope of sex for a while unless the chemistry is really working. I dated someone for a while that I had sex with on the first date and I never really thought twice about it that she did. Sex seems to dominate the whole dating scene from time to time. It's always the 4th or 5th time you have sex with someone when it really starts getting "good and passionate." Everyone is different, but my only suggestion to you is...if it feels right, then go ahead and do it, if not, tell him you are not ready. You are just dating, so if he needs some he should not have a problem finding any. I know this may sound crass but it's true. I want passion, and lust and warmth....I want it all. And if there is no chemistry....I'm out. I could care less how smokin of a body she has. You are a woman! You have an intuition that most men don't. When your ready and really "want" it....then move at "your" pace!
2007-08-02 11:09:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you paying for your half of the dates?
Are men just wallets to spend money on you for the privilege of your company?
You seem to respect yourself, but you don't seem to respect the men you go out with.
To throw money at a woman is stupid and doesn't change her feeling toward you. If she can't figure out if she likes you enough to have sex within a couple dates she is a waste of time because she doesn't know what she wants.
Sex is an indicator that both people have some idea as to what they want and that each other just might be it.
Great love requires great risk.
Its the fearful man that never lived their life.
2007-08-02 11:13:15 · answer #2 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are likely to follow the odds. Unfortunately for you, most women will have sex very early in the dating process. Men are easily trained to expect that. In addition to that, some men equate the dollar amount spent for your entertainment with their own entertainment expectations. A simple solution to that problem would be to contribute more than conversation to the date. That way, he won't make the mistake of thinking that you are somehow in debt to him for the cost of your entertainment. Independence and respect come at a price. Don't expect him to pay for that too.
2007-08-02 10:50:17 · answer #3 · answered by noshaymatall 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if a majoity of men think this way. I sure didn't when I was dating; in fact you sound like the type of person I would have wanted to date.
Somehow you are not going to the right places. What eventually led to me meeting my wife was a good old fashion being set up by our friends. Your girlfriends undoubtedly know your values and surely they know some guys who are good guys. From my experience, women are always wanting to set people up. Maybe let your friends know you are interested in meeting people and see what happens.
2007-08-02 10:50:49 · answer #4 · answered by Matt G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys think this because that's what other women have led them to believe. Women who make it easy to have sex and leave give the rest of us a hard time when it comes to relationships because men's brains get trained into thinking along one line.
Lots of guys are not looking for long-term relationships, but want the convenience of easy sex.
Hang in there, sister! You'll find the right guy for you!
2007-08-02 10:50:32 · answer #5 · answered by ann81969 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just becuz a guy wants to have sex after the 2nd date doesnt mean he doesnt respect you i would fix breakfast or go get it the next morning if a guy ask and you decline he accepts then he has shown respect he didnt try to take it
2007-08-02 16:03:31 · answer #6 · answered by anthentherwasi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because parents stopped teaching their kids to respect themselves, their body and each other. So guys now think that all women are for one thing and that is it. But they have learned this because so many females have given it up on the first date. My advise is to say NO, and learn to respect your self, your body and others.
2007-08-02 10:40:46 · answer #7 · answered by mrs_endless 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not about you... it's about our hormones... and they rage most of our life.
Good for you for not sleeping around... but I hope you are a wild animal with the man you marry... for your WHOLE life... not just the first year... This is actually why guys sleep around before marriage and sometimes after... if you would rock our world in bed a few times a week... then we would chew glass for you...
Keep you purity now... but loose it for the man you marry... be wild and daring and adventurous... reward him for being faithful... and give every guy out there the evidence we need to believe in faithfulness.
2007-08-02 10:45:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
simply put... that is what you'll are for. if some beotch made me wait 2 dates, on the third i'd tell her that i'd pick her up right around the corner from never! when you really break it down, you are a slizut (dont hide from this...embrace it). all women are and that's ok. the difference b/t them and you is that they are having fun, while your're probably pissed off all the time, short with people, and considered by most to be a "beotch". now tell me i'm wrong.
2007-08-02 10:42:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Consider where you are hanging. If you are meeting guys at the club that is probably what they are looking for....try meeting men elsewhere. Hang out in museums, theme parks, libraries, somewhere besides clubs.
2007-08-02 10:39:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋