How/When to address who is throwing a baby shower?

Question

My friend and I just became friends this year, two weeks before she found out she was pregnant.

She doesn't have much family out here, but she does have friends. She often tells me I am her closest friend.

Do I approach her and tell her that I can throw the baby shower for her or do I ask if she has someone already doing it?
It wouldn't be for another month or so that planning should start.

Answer 1

I think what you should do is ask her if someone is already throwing her a shower. If not, then do it and enlist a few of her other friends as co hosts. If someone else already has plans underway, let them know how much you care about the mom to be and ask if you can help in anyway or be a part of the shower.

Answer 2

It depends upon what family she has. Typically the closest female relative plans the shower. Failing that, it's the best female friend. Think of who her closest female relative is. Then ask for that person's contact information because you want to "help out with the baby shower". Then your friend would naturally reveal what's going on with that, for example she might say "Oh she's not doing it, this other person is" or "I don't know if she's doing it, I'll call her/give you her number" or "Oh she's not doing it, I'm not sure if anyone is". Whatever the case, you have just carefully and casually been given the information you need.

Answer 3

Yes! That is, if you are willing to throw a baby shower for her. It is not something you should feel obligated to do, nor is it something that she should be dropping subtle "hints" to you about.

If you would like to throw the shower, then by all means, ask your friend if anyone has offered to throw the party for her. If she says no, then tell her you would like to do it, and ask her when a good time would be.

Here's a list of baby shower ideas if you decide to throw the party!
http://www.diapercakewalk.com/pages/showerinfo.php

Answer 4

just ask her! if she says you are her closest friend, i'm sure she would be delighted to have a shower thrown by you.

you could always try to plan a surprise shower. Figure out her schedule and invite her over for dinner, then "surprise!" everyone is at your house with cake, food, presents and a whole lot of joy for the expectant mother.

Answer 5

I tried to surprise my best friend with a baby shower, and her husband called me to tell me that she was crying because she thought no one was throwing her one. It was much better to get her involved in the process, to help with addresses of people I had no way of knowing how to get in touch with. So, yes, ask her, get the best date for her, and she can provide you with friends or co-workers she would like to attend. You don't want to invite someone that she may be cordial to, but really doesn't care for enough to have them at her shower.

Answer 6

I wish I met someone like you!!! that is so sweet and considerate. Many people would not want to do that. Ask her. I think even if she has someone that is going to do it or already asked, it would let her know that you care and that you are there for her!!. If you need a cool baby shower gift, check out my website for a cute personalized bear or animal.

Answer 7

Just offer, it's a sweet offer and she'll be touched. She'll tell you if someone else is planning one, also ask other friends or family in case a surprise shower is being planned.

Answer 8

You could tell her that you are going to throw her a shower, being her closest friend. Or you could keep it as a surprise.

Answer 9

Just work in "When's the baby shower?" into a conversation. Its open ended so it requires a real answer. If she says "I don't know" then you can be a hero and say "I'll throw you one!". If she says someone else is throwing it for her then offer her something no one else can.

Good Luck,
-PR

Answer 10

Read that wrong the first time..

Ask her if she would like you to throw her the shower....or if she needs help. It would be a nice bonding experience for the two of you.