I just moved to this University in a new town, and I don't know anyone. I've been trying to make friends and all that, but I'm just not a very social kind of person.
So, I've tried one of these dating phone chat line things. I get to talking with some girls, and even guys, because I just want a FRIEND, and over time, the conversation turns to sexual matters. Now, I believe in honesty first and foremost, and especially if I'm going to set myself up on a blind date, I want to let the person know that I am a transsexual (I still sound kinda like a girl though over the phone, so people get the WROOONG impression) And, when I say that to people, even before they've seen or met me, they then don't want to, and I get blown off, and rejected...even though 5 minutes earlier, we were having a great conversation and they were DYING to meet me. *sighs* I just can't understand why things like having or NOT having a penis is such a big freakin' deal anyway.
2007-08-02 10:16:37 · 18 answers · asked by I_color_outside_the_lines 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Well, it's their loss, but like the previous poster said, I don't know if this is something that there is a magical cure for. I would venture to say, you just haven't found your "princess" yet, but she DOES exist, but you may have to wade through a lot of crap to find her. Maybe try somewhere online where people are looking for FTM. In all honesty, and in a perfect world, it shouldnt matter what is between your legs, but unfortunately, it does. But there will be the girl(s) that you just have not found yet, that will see you for who you are inside and not what you have on the outside.
If you want a friend, hit me up anytime.
2007-08-03 01:29:55 · answer #1 · answered by ☮ wickey wow wow ♀♀ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give it time. In my experience, the transitional stage is a bit of a social wasteland. You're clearly a lot more confident than I was, though. I avoided phones like the plague until I was sure that I would pass.
If you are only looking for a friend, why should you tell them up front that you are transsexual? Sure, I agree, that it is necessary to be open about it if you are looking for a date. In your question it is not clear exactly what it is that you seek.
In any case, you seem like a decent chap. I'd hang out with you.
2007-08-02 13:22:30 · answer #2 · answered by Cleast 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey Dude! You're a cool guy online, I bet you're even cooler in person. Give it time honey, friends don't happen overnight. Try for some casual hang-out friends first maybe. See what kind of people are around, how they react to life and the situations that come up day-to-day, then you can better judge who you want to get more closely acquainted with.
We're out here for ya! Sure, we're only electronic, but we're here.
Feel free to email me if you want. I've thought you were a cool dude since forever, and I rule the world so I can't be wrong..... *wink*
2007-08-02 10:32:34 · answer #3 · answered by FTW 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm so sorry to hear about this....I know that you are a great person. I have read your comments and responces. If I lived in your town, we'd be hanging out tonight.
Those girls just don't know what they are missing. It's their loss, even though you feel the pain. Which isn't fair!!!
Keep your head up. You will find someone that will not be a jerk and be willing to be your friend. I hate that people will think ''ohhh...a tranny...gross...blah blah blah''...that's just wrong!!! It's an embarassment to the whole human race.
I'm still your friend. I will always be here for you, although we can't see each other.
If you ever need someone to talk to, please feel free to email me or im me. I will be there....promise!!!
2007-08-02 10:25:25 · answer #4 · answered by Oberon 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's kinda sounded like you've been trying to meet new people for a while and sucking at it. Might I suggest trying a different approach? It might be just what ya need! Go out there and try something new! Live life like there's no tomorrow! Whatever happens in Vegas better get treated asap! Sorry...I'm being silly but you keep trying, and maybe trying a different approach might help.
2007-08-02 10:41:59 · answer #5 · answered by carora13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that you're going through hard times right now, no matter what happens in life, specially in the gay social life don't stop believing in yourself. Unfortunately most gay people tend to look for physical appearance than other things that do matter. There is no need to put yourself down, you need to accept yourself and try to stay away from people like that. "they have issues". Remember positive energy brings positive energy, so keep your chin up there are good people out there you just have to have confidence and believe in yourself.
2007-08-02 10:27:33 · answer #6 · answered by chcgoguy82 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
everyone is going to say dont worry itll be fine, but does that really help? we all say wait, youll find the right one, 5 minutes later do we still feel better? the words of encourgement are not nearly as important as what they mean to us, and how we feel about ourselves, in just a few post of yours ive gotten a feel for your personality and thats all it takes. you get a feel for a person, their views, their personality and (in some way) you start to care about them, screen names become like familiar faces and blogs and posts become indepth conversations and words of wisdom. unfortuatly people have personal bias that get in the way and shut off those feelings, all of a sudden you were just a vioce on the phone again. it sucks, i used to have those bias, im sad to admit. and if it were me on the other end of teh phone a few years ago i probably would have done the same thing (though im not defeneding it, i understand it), but then it would have been my (as it is now their) loss. you shouldnt feel sorry about yourself you should feel sorry for them and what they have now missed out on because of that bias, i know i do.
calm down, have a beer (if thats your thing, if not whatever) and have a little faith with it.
2007-08-02 10:49:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just to be an honest person. Some people just jump to there own thoughts. Sorry your having a tough time making friends. I've never known a person like you. If I was around I would at lest be a friend to you....Best of Luck .
2007-08-02 10:27:07 · answer #8 · answered by Tina the cat lover 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like the man said: "To thine ownself be true." The idiots who can't see beyond looks and labels are not people you want to be friends with, anyway! Take heart because though things seem bad now, it will soon pass. Nothing lasts forever, either good or bad.
Plus...you can always PM me right here. Hopefully, I won't "talk" your ear off, LOL!
2007-08-03 02:29:03 · answer #9 · answered by dreamchaser8860 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one deserves to be lonely, ever...it is a terrible feeling.
I wish you find nice people to be friends with, love will come with time, trust me.
In the mean time, enjoy your time alone, pamper yourself and treat you to something you totally like...I do that when I am lonely and always end up having a great time.
I am sending a hug to you right now! Can you feel it? :)
2007-08-02 10:41:23 · answer #10 · answered by Gabriela 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋