A clean home is great, but its like all the time, and I think its an anxiety issue. What can I do to help? BTW I hate the vacuming noise esp during the day.
2007-08-02 09:21:46 · 21 answers · asked by relaxrx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
LOL my husband has the issue too. Not just vacuuming but any kind of cleaning. He dusts, and reorganizes things. I'm pretty sure that that is an obsessive compulsive disorder but my husband hates taking any meds so we just live with it. If your husband sees it as a problem he might be willing to go to a therapist but he may not be as bothered by it as you are. Sorry I do know what it's like. My DH has made us late to appointments, meetings even church because he has to vacuum LOL
2007-08-02 09:28:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm in a similar situation except me and mine work together, i can't get a break literally. I can't even go workout at the gym without him calling to see if i've gotten there. We argue alot too being around each other so much. It's disgusting to me and it's driving me crazy as well. My suggestion is change shifts or sit aside two hours out the day that you are allowed to do whatever you want. Hurry up before you have a desire to leave like i do!!
2016-04-01 12:31:04 · answer #2 · answered by Sylvia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love to clean when I'm stressed. After my divorce (which was UGLY) I was way over stressed, not sleeping eating type of thing. I talked to a Dr and was given a script for a short term fix and was told to find a stress release, something to keep myself from worrying so much. I clean room after room till i feel some tension is gone. I hate to say it but i think your hubby's not doing any real harm so let him be. Maybe get him to talk to a Dr to make sure there's nothing else more serious going on.
Good luck
2007-08-02 09:33:12 · answer #3 · answered by survivedlasvegas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but that is pretty selfish of you. An anxiety disorder is very difficult to cope with. He needs your support. Not you making him feel worse about his condition. You can always leave the house when he vacuums. Personally, I think this behavior is a lot better than being addicted to anti-anxiety medication or other worse types of substance abuse.
How about accompanying him to a professional or helping him research other methods of relaxation.
2007-08-02 09:29:32 · answer #4 · answered by christyn79 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get him one of those non electrical, non battery silent vacumes and turn him loose.
If all else fails, send to the neighbors house, bet they would love that!!!
Seriously, try geting him on medication, there are a lot that you only need during an anxiety issue, it helps.
2007-08-02 09:27:13 · answer #5 · answered by Michael H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL. Let me get this straight. You have a man that actually cleans without you having to beg, plead and bribe....and you are complaining about it?! Personally, I would love it if my boyfriend would do any kind of housework! But if it is really bothering you, ask him to visit a doctor about his anxiety. There are medications that he can take to reduce it. Or you might follow the suggestion of just purchasing a quieter vacuum. Or, as a third solution, ask him to mop or sweep or do dishes, etc. when he feels stressed.:)
2007-08-02 09:39:06 · answer #6 · answered by Sophie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should probably be checked out for anxiety, although I'd like him to visit my place before he sees the doctor. :)
This could also be a difference in cleanliness levels. If that's the problem, you'll have to reach some compromise. At least he's willing to do it instead of complaining about it.
2007-08-02 09:30:01 · answer #7 · answered by Sarah C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My step father is like that and he is compulsive, so as annoying as it is, it helps him calm down bare with him and let him vacume. I don't think my husband knows where i even keep the vacume
2007-08-02 09:27:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
And apparently an excessive compulsive disorder, He's your husband, you need to have some understanding for a problem that he has no control over. see if you can get him to talk to a Dr. And the bright spot is.... it frees you up to clean something else.
2007-08-02 09:35:47 · answer #9 · answered by fuzzykitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him clean if that's what he wants to do..hey its makes the job easier for you! But tell him that instead of cleaning today, that y'all should go out and have a good time...so he could get entertained doing something else!
2007-08-02 09:27:11 · answer #10 · answered by In love! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋