We live together, Love each other very much. Should we have a baby?
2007-08-02 07:55:28 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
WELL F*CK YOU THEN.
2007-08-02 08:00:50 · update #1
No way.
Three months is great to start a relationship but a life together? Try again.
At 3 months you barely know each other. Work for the next 2 years on getting your relationship onto strong, stable ground and THEN think about having a baby.
Trust me--you're still in the flowery, obnoxious honeymoon stage where she's the best person in this world to you. That's not reality though.
2007-08-02 07:57:48 · answer #1 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 6⤊ 1⤋
You cannot determine that you love someone within the time span of 3 short months. If you really love each other, waiting a while won't hurt at all. Also, I've been with my husband since I was 16. It wasn't until I turned 23 that we had a baby, and while we love each other, we seem to argue a bit more (about who will do the night feedings, how he has more freedom to just go out than me, about where to go for fun, about visiting each other's parents houses every weekend, etc.) A baby can actually rip a relationship apart, esp. a very new one like yours. After 7 years, my husband and I understand that our little bickerings aren't serious and are able to shrug it off within minutes.
2007-08-02 08:06:58 · answer #2 · answered by keonli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, why ask a question just to get a reaction? You KNOW people are gunna give you DIFFERENT OPINIONS.
1st of all, you've been together 3 months & already live together? I don't want to judge, but be smart, if it was the easy for you to get in there...........I don't know. I'd be careful about bringing a baby into an unstable environment. Even if you all don't argue & love each other, an environment where the childs parents are commited to one another thru marriage, is better. At least, better than just doing it because the 3 months have gone swimmingly well. *rolls eyes*
2007-08-02 08:06:36 · answer #3 · answered by judy bo-booty 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are truly happy, then you shouldn't have a problem waiting another 3 months before you try to have a baby.
I was with a guy a short time ago. After knowing each other for a month and a half, we moved in together. By the time we had known each other 4 months, I was wishing we hadn't moved so fast. I broke up with him, and later on found out I was pregnant already.
If you've got the rest of your life to be happy, what's the rush? Trust me, you'll be glad you waited. It's only 3 months right?
2007-08-02 08:04:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The first step in having a baby is getting married. A child should not be brought into a home where vows have not been made to stay together forever. As for being financially stable, I don't think that anyone is really ever "financially stable." However, I do believe that you need to have room of at least $100 in your monthly budget in order to consider bringing a child into the world.
Three months isn't a long time, but after three months of dating my husband and I knew we were going to be married. We committed to eachother and we NEVER leave each other. I do not believe there is any certain time limit you need to reach before you have a child, we started trying to have children after a year of marriage, but ended up adopting after our 4th anniversary.
Good luck, just take your time and make the right decisions.
2007-08-02 08:10:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
3 months isn't very long. As in most relationships, everything is new and very exciting in the beginning. But tends to fade out about a year down the road. Sometimes it doesn't but you never know and you don't want to make the wrong choice thats could effect the rest of your life. Please wait until you know for sure if your love is true and complete and then make a baby!
2007-08-02 08:00:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know what... ppl find love and marry in 24 hours... some ppl never find it... It is your own choice (the two of you) weather or not you are ready... IF that is something you two are ready for.. Go for it.. But make sure that both of you are ready for it.. Both of you want to bring a child into this world right now.. And that both of you will be the best parent that you can be...
I am divorced and it kills me more than anythign to see either a part time parent who is only there when they find it convenient to be or one that dont give a crap at all anyway.. Which my ex is considered both...
2007-08-02 08:18:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 3 months you shouldnt even be living together, dont have a baby. Still too soon to know if you even really like each other. That just getting to know each other feeling still hasnt worn off.
2007-08-02 08:03:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
3 months really isn't long enough to know someone that well. Wait until you have been together for at least a year, and get married first. If you have medical benefits through your job she will need to be covered by your's just in case of problems and she can't work. There is no way to predict if someone is going to have a high-risk pregnancy. It is best to be prepared.
2007-08-02 07:59:04 · answer #9 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
the only way i would do it is if you have been together longer than 7-8 yrs and it was over the ages of 22 than sure why not
first figure out how u like living together lol
I had a baby 1 yr after moving in 2 yrs after starting going out trust me u need more than that
ur relationship should be soild as a rock TRUST ME
2007-08-02 08:00:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋