So.. I have this ex. & we are now " best friends " we broke up b/c I cought her straddling another female in a car( fun stuff!) anyways.. I moved ( NC to FL ) & went t work for Disney(funner stuff) .. we didn't talk for about 4 months. then she called 1 day it was like we never stopped talking. I am back home now for 6 months. We are somewhat unseperable. She has crazy girlfriends that I get into physical fights with b/c they attact me... well b/c she chooses me over them. but I cannot figure out why we are not together. She gets crazy jealous when someone else steps into my life & threatens her rank. but she brings people in and out of her life all the time --have yet to get jealous. When we first got together she had asked me like 4 times over a period of like 2 months to be with her. finially said yes. then she ****** up & I broke it off. We didn't talk b/c she was mad at me for breaking it off. Does that mean that she care alot about me & doesn't want to get hurt again?? anyone?
2007-08-02 07:53:55 · 19 answers · asked by Mac-Down 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No no no.. you guys arn't geting it. Other people fall at her feet and I do not what so ever. its almost as if she falls at mine... when i call she comes running. ever dicision she has to make she HAS to have my oppion. Its crazy. I don't call her for like a day & half - she freaks out. its not the " I don't want you but I don't want anyone else to have you " kinda thing. when she getsa new some1 in her life she HAS ( for some reason ) to have my feel on them.. I don't like them - their out... I am nothing like that with her. do my own thing and make my own decisions. She goes to kiss me & I turn my head... but I do want to be with her. and i kno that if i tell her that... she'll frekout. WHY WHY WHY?? why is this so complicated.?
2007-08-02 08:19:39 · update #1
If you enjoy being with her, go for it and enjoy! Don't try to figure her out, what's the point, she does her own thing anyway!
Perhaps you should do your own thing as well! That way you will both grow stronger with each other, or it will fizzle out!? Come on, it's not rocket science! Love grows, jealousy destroys.
Enjoy all the love you can get!
Best regards.
Darrell.
2007-08-09 19:22:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok we'll this is another case of a person wanting there cake and to eat it too. She wants you to be there for her when she calls but if there is someone else that wants her attention she gives it to them and puts you on the back burner making sure to give you enough attention to keep you warmed up for her when she is ready for you. And she gets jealous of other people in your life because she know once you find someone else you wont be waiting for her anymore and she cant have that. You need to step out of the box and look at what she is doing to you. Don't give her what she wants. She has done you wrong once and will do it again. Good Luck! And keep looking for the right person.
2007-08-02 15:03:10 · answer #2 · answered by Tawny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its always going to be this complicated as long as long as your with her people fall at her feet? Do you think thats going to change SHE LOVES IT thats what makes her tick the fact that you dont makes you more interesting than the rest but she sounds like the type of personality that makes herself the center of attention at any and all costs if its not about her she aint having it why else do you think they gravitate to her so easily its her personality the way she is and if she changed that would she really be that cool to you ? she needs these "other people" in her life not because you arent enough but because she feels she's not its a self confidence thing if you pay enough attention to how she interacts with others you will see it too. She likes the game she is not done playing.
2007-08-09 16:10:05 · answer #3 · answered by laflaca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ask questions about her, but you never stop to ask questions of yourself. Why DO you tolerate her behavior, and her demands on you are so degrading. You do not think very much of yourself, or you would get away from her for good. You have no self pride and you love to suffer. Do yourself a favor and cut off the relationship with her permanently, no matter what she threatens. What has she got that holds you into this seriously bad relationship. Just get away before something terrible comes out of it for you.
2007-08-09 04:40:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isnt really complicated...it's a control issue and a co dependence issue. you state that you don't fall to her feet like the others? you do only you don't see it that way yet. you need to decide why you want or need this person in your life, then decide why you are feeling her potential g/f's out. if you really don't want to be bothered with that nonsense you would tell her that. CONTROL and DEPEDENCY comes in many shades. don't lok or point at the things she does, when you point a finger rember there are 3 pointing at you! so look at your participation in all of these things and if you rally want the answear it's there good luck MsHUNNI
2007-08-09 21:14:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess is that she is dicked in the head it is cool to hang with her and maybe even do a little sport banging. But you never want to date someone like this it will just drive you crazy and plus your only home of a short while so I would not miss any other opportunity's that might come along to have fun with no regrets!!!!
2007-08-02 15:12:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's one of those 'if I can't have you, nobody can...but I don't really want you for that long' kind of things. She might care a little, but it's obviously not enough to keep faithful to you. So my advice, let her go. Move on with your own life and find someone who is good to you and doesn't do the same things to you.
2007-08-02 14:59:47 · answer #7 · answered by traceylenore 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She just wants you to want her.
That's all. Then when you want her she finds someone else.
Don't you get it!
I use to be the same way.
I only wanted men to want me.
Then when I know they wanted me or after I had them in my pocket I would move on to the next.
Do it all over again.
As soon as they touched me, kissed me, and sometimes f----me I was on the move.
Sometimes if they were a good lay or I thought they had potential to be a good f--- I would have sex with them again and again but never commit myself to one person.
Today I have committed myself to someone and LOVE him very much.
I just like to be teased, touched and played with.
I want to wanted, feel wanted desired I want men to want to f--me but not really physically do it.
It is all mental for me.
Once we had sex it was over.
I even told a few "please lets not have sex it will ruin everything".
They were nice guys I didn't want to keep doing those things.
Today I have to watch myself and my actions closely because I could easily fall back into that same self destruction CRAP that I do not want anymore in my life.
I am very happy in my relationship and don't want to loose him and my self sanity.
2007-08-10 14:19:10 · answer #8 · answered by Kathy J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she strives for attention, which is fine because a lot of people are like that.
Just let her know that you are not interested in games and talk about where you both stand in each others lives.
2007-08-10 14:30:41 · answer #9 · answered by patriciaannbee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is a control freak who if u stay with will start monitoring ur calls, checking ur mail, etc. she seems insecure about herself despite that u say people fall at her feet.
my advice? chill out a whiel and see what happens- u dont want to end up with the rabbit boiling in a pan: fatal attraction:)
2007-08-10 08:01:34 · answer #10 · answered by kiki68 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋