my bf of 4 years told me last night he found someone else and he doesnt love me anymore i just had an abortion for him 2 weeks ago how do i get over him i still love him but he wants nothing to do with me i feel soo numb how can i move on??
2007-08-02 07:34:15 · 11 answers · asked by can u ♥ moi? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ouch!! sorry to hear that baby girl, go and have a good cry first. let you head get clear. see what kind of a person he really is. right now, you don't see it. go and have a good cry, you'll gain a better perspective. that would be your square one.
2007-08-02 07:41:10 · answer #1 · answered by harmony 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry to hear of your grief and sorrow. I can understand you are very sad at this time, no doubt you have put everything possible into this relationship. As difficult as it is, know it is also OK to be sad and shed a lot of tears, it is the natural thing to do. You will get over him once the tears slow down you will be better able to see you did so much to make the relationship work, but you did not receive back as much from him. This was bound to happen sooner or later, probably sooner. In a very short period he has found another girlfriend, which tells you he may have very well been shopping for some time. Try to understand this would not have been a good man in your life, the longer you were with him the more your feelings for him would have grown, and the harder you would have been hurt when he did walk away from you. It will take time, it will be hard, but you will get over it and know you will find a better man. If you like you can send me an email and I will be most happy to give you any more support I can. Good luck and please understand there are better days ahead for you.
2007-08-02 14:59:17 · answer #2 · answered by K K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch!!!
Sounds like he has a lot of growing up to do.
Your pregnancy changed the relationship from a "good time girl" to someone he had to seriously think about. He knows he can't get you to have another abortion if it happens again so he's decided to move on. I'm sorry, but you pick a real jerk. Remember there is a difference from confidence and being a jerk.
2007-08-02 15:03:31 · answer #3 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let me just start off by saying I am so sorry for you. I know how hard things like this can be. But I would just tell you to get together with your girlfriends and try and take your mind off of him. It's not going to be easy and it is going to take some time. But I've always found that keeping myself occupied and busy with people that love me is the best way to get over a broken heart. Best of luck and again I'm sorry to hear you're so hurt.
2007-08-02 14:43:47 · answer #4 · answered by ..::MaMaMiA::.. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must start living for yourself and not your boyfriend, and not others. Why? You must live with your decisions, not the others.
You have been through some traumatic times. As much as your emotions scream that something must be done, ignore them.
Slow down, get away. I really thing you have been through difficult issues. Think about getting some counseling. There are bumps in life when we must look beyond the ordinary for help.
Think of this as a chance to reinvent who you are and make some changes for the positive, healthy changes.
It does get better.
2007-08-02 14:43:03 · answer #5 · answered by Randy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on to a healthy relationship, get counseling for yourself. If it is available from where you work and covered by insurance, that is even better. Don't get into a relationship until you know where you are going, love yourself for who you are and are capable of standing up for your beliefs. I am sorry about your abortion... no matter your views, you will need to heal from that. Move on from this man, he is no good for you.
2007-08-02 14:39:38 · answer #6 · answered by HiketheWild09 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time will fix the hurt, sweetie. Until then go to your family. Go to your friends. Let them take you in and cover you with love and things will soon be right again.
2007-08-02 15:28:14 · answer #7 · answered by John Timothy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well plain truth,, your both wrong,, good thing is, God loves everyone.. if you understand whats right and wrong just think of the things you already done wrong? sounds like you don't know
2007-08-02 14:43:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just have to say be strong the same happened to me.
I will pray for you sweetie
2007-08-02 15:32:17 · answer #9 · answered by AK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i will pray for you......
no man is or will ever be worth the loss of a child!
i hope that u find emotional support becuase u need it now more than ever.
2007-08-02 14:39:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋