i'm pregnant is it selfish 4 me to want to keep my babies?

Question

i'm 16 my boyfriend is 21 we have 2 daughters n r expecting twins,(possibly identicle twin girls).we live in our own apartment n pay our own bills.since i work part time n he works full time at the ups we have no problem with the fact that we r pregnant again.however our parent say its selfish that we want to keep the babies because we already hav 2 n at our young ages people r gunna start talking about us.i personally dnt care what people say because people r gunna talk,so what !! n i understand the girls r gunna have a hard time coping but eventually we'll all get used to being a family of 6 instead of 4 n everything will work out just fine.yes in the begainin it will be a little hard but we managed to raise our last 2 just fine n we'll continue 2 do the same with our next 2

Answer 1

Oh sweetie,
You are just so young, but you know what....
Who cares, I was a young mom too and we have
the ability and the energy to raise our kids.
Please do not give up your babies. Think of all the love you
feel for your kids, and imagine someone taking them
away from you for good. That would hurt a lot.
A moms love is like no other. It is a shame that your own
mother is telling you to get them up or get rid of them.
That goes to question..... If you were the forth or fifth or even the seventh child, your mom would have probably giving you up. How would you have felt, to know that your mom didn't
want you ?? That is sad.
Keep your babies and as long as you fight for want you want and for who you love, God will always compensate your love and your hard work.
A big family is a beautiful thing, but have your twins, keep your four kids, but make sure you take care of yourself for a while, until you are 25 or so. Don't fill yourself up with more kids now because even though Kids are a blessing from the sky, they can also be a handful when they are too many. Plus you are only 16, you still need to finish H.S or even get your GED.
Oh and tell your mom that she should give a damn who talks. None of them feed you and your kids so they should mind there own damn business !!

Answer 2

I wouldn’t call you selfish but as you probably know 2 kids is costly, and now you’ll have to double that. Not to mention having 4 children I assume all under the age of 4 or 5. I wouldn’t worry about people talking, your 16 already have 2 kids, pregnant again there’s going to be talk. Plus the age of the baby's father,even if your of age of consent now wherever you live, you most likely weren’t for at least your first child, maybe even 2nd too. You might be wise to invest in some birth control after these babies are born.

You may be getting by now on a full time job and part time job but for 6 people it’s seems to me you would really be stretching it. You might not even be able to afford to work any more. Honestly I was reading a story in Daily Digest of a mother who went back to work to earn extra money for the family, well it turned out once she subtracted Gas to get to her job, Childcare , she was brining home maybe 15 dollars, of her pay. So she quit because they were saving more money with her being just a home mother.

Answer 3

Keeping your babies is not wrong. What would be wrong is getting an abortion. You need to be responsible enough to raise children if you have sex because that is just something that goes along with no matter what kind of birth control you have. I think it's awesome that you want to keep your babies. You are standing up and taking responsibility for your actions and I have respect for that. Your family should respect you for it also because that is part of becoming an adult. You are also going to have your hands full at first, but it will get easier. I would suggest that you get birth control. If the pills are bothersome, try something different. I have the mirena implant. It's an IUD. They are harmless, good for your body, the most effective birth control on the market, they work for 5 years, and if you decide to have another one before the five years are up, you can have it removed earlier. Good luck to you and remember that you have decided to become an adult at a young age. Now that you have taken that responsibility, you have to act like one. Have your babies, take good care of your family, get financially stable, and get some kind of birth control to keep your family from getting too large to care for. One full time and one part time job will only support so many, so budget and take care of the family you have and prepare for the two new arrivals. Congrats. Remember to be careful.

I just read some of your other questions and answers and your story doesn't add up. Is this how your life is or are you looking for attention? If you are just looking for attention, you really need to find a new way to do it because that is just mean. These people are trying to give you advice to help you and i really hope that your problems aren't a hoax. If you are telling the truth, you need to add to your question and clear it up so people will be able to give a more knowledgeable answer.

Answer 4

I feel really bad for you. Im 21 and pregnant with my first child and my boyfriend is 26. We both work and go to college but neither of us are in the right mind to care for a child. I don't even like babies. Even though we can't provide our child with everything we were given has babies, we will at least make sure we get a small college fund going.


Im really sad to see your story. Too young to know what lifes about and you already have a family of your own. 4 children seems like a handful to take care of especially if they are all young. If you adopt these twins out you can get financial help and you should get your tubes tied so you can't get pregnant again. The adoptive parents would pay for everything.


Infact you might even get assistance to quit your job and finish your GED if you haven't and go to a community college or trade school to give yourself and your children a better future.


There is no way that you can raise 4 children on one income at such a young age. I pray you have insurance and two working vehicles.


If you adopt these twins out your life and their lives can be better. You can have a open adoption and see them once a month, even have play dates with your children. It's not as cold as it once was.

Check this site out:

http://www.bethany.org/A55798/bethanyWWW.nsf/0/2955B16012E2454885256CE60058EFEE

Answer 5

If you can fully support your children, then no it's not selfish at all.

And by the way, remember me? You gave me best answer on your last question. I love how you took a shot at me on "I think this person is hilarious" when there's no way for me to really respond. You didn't give your full details that you have your own apartment, work full time jobs and live together and support your other CHILDREN (and by the way, 2 children already at 16? Wow, you go girl. Go forth and multiply.) So how was I supposed to know that you're on your own? My answer would've been very different had I known. Glad to see you added your full details this time.

And thanks for the 10 points. : )

Edit: By the way little girl, 16 is FAR from being grown. I don't care how grown you think you are, you still have a lot to learn. And judging from the lies in your past questions, I honestly think you're just a bored little girl who wants attention and would love for this all to be true. You should really consider making your Q&A private if you're going to continue to lielielie.

Answer 6

Girl you sure are asking to put alot on your table. After you have the twins you will not be able to keep a job, cause childcare is gonna keep you broke. Someone have to stay home and take care of all those babies. Not to mention at sixteen with four kids, That is crazy, and it is selfish. Each time you make another baby it takes away from the first kid. How you gonna provide all of the kids needs on your own. Kids are expensive. I know I have three and vow not to have anymore. Four kids means for sets of problems, school, doctors, sickness, financial, etc. That is ridiculous. It is selfish. You really need to grow up, and stop making all those babies. you still a baby. What if your boyfriend decides to leave because it is too much responsibility for him to handle. Then what you gonna do? Who gonna help raise and support all those kids. You are really tripping.

Answer 7

Do the two. Nurse for the 1st month then introduce a bottle. My son have been given a bottle from the time he became one million day previous using fact he became jaundiced. he remains breastfeeding at 10 months previous, no massive deal. you are able to pump once you're unlikely to be around or in case you elect for to get some better sleep or maybe if, then dad can feed the child. i could definately attempt in case you're no longer one hundred% specific when you consider which you are able to continually supply up in case you elect for that's in basic terms too lots or do exactly two times an afternoon or something, you are able to not initiate in case you do no longer do it suitable away. Any breastmilk is extra suitable than none.

Answer 8

It is not selfish for you to want to keep your babies. You are right that it shouldn't matter if people are going to talk about you becuase it is your family, but if you are trying to make a decision you should definitely think about your 2 children and what the effects will be on them and their lives. Having 2 more children will create a heavier financial burdon on the family and create more responsibilty which you and your boyfriend need to handle while considering the current and future needs of all of your children.

Answer 9

okay it seems that you have put in a few questions to make yourself seem like the innocent one. I read your other questions you have asked and I think this is my comment. You are 16 and only 16!! You can't even vote. IF you go through with it and have these twins, You need to then get your tubes tied...BECAUSE...you CANNOT support 4 kids on yours and your boyfriends salary. My husband and I have just two girls right now..and We have a hard time manage with them!! AND I'M 26!!! And once you have these two kids, you will have no energy to go to work for quite a while...thing about your consequences....before you react....

Answer 10

you're not selfish at all. every mother wants to keep her kids. i think that since you already have 2 kids then the next 2 if put up for adoption will experience problems. for ex: put in seperate homes, not knowing the other 1/2. of course, do what you think is needed but maybe you should get married and try to get support from your families, DONT ask for money, but maybe the grandparents can spend a little more time watching the kids while you work. hope everything works out!

good luck