Ever since this teacher came to teach at my school when I was in year 8, I have adored him. At first I just dismissed it as a crush, but I realise now that he means so much more to me than that.
He has never taught me but he knows that I like him, and he knows who I am. I am now 16, and lately he has been acting differently around me before we broke up for the holidays. He has been constantly staring at me, and we have made eye contact every time we have seen each other. Also (note he is the moodiest teacher at school) he has been smiling at me, whereas before he refused to even look at me. I have a feeling that he has some feelings for me too, but would it be wrong for a 30 year old man to like a 16 year old girl?
I know that it is no longer illegal for me to date older men here in England, as I am now 16 and I think about him all the time. I don't know what to do! I have only 9 months left at school...I need him badly! should I confront him about my feelings?
2007-08-02 06:45:43 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
dont if he doesnt feel the same way he could make life very uncomfortable for you
2007-08-02 06:49:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everything you said sounds so familiar to me!:) I also used to be so much in love with one of my teachears, got straight A's to his classes, made eye contact everytime, smile to eachother and everything...
But you were right the first time - it is just a crush. Even if it takes more time than usual, it still just a crush. It is just your great need of love and of being love that drives you so much towards him - although I'm sure he is a very desirable man, he is way out of your league. As you, I used to have dreams about my teacher and even put myself the same question - what if I confront him and tell him the truth? Because you know he likes you...
Unfortunately for you - unfortunately because I know this is not what you want and need to hear - you'd make a mistake. Even if you will live school soon, you are still a minor and, above anything else... you really don't have much in comon with a 30 y.o. man. Trust me.
Plus, if you confront him, the only thing you can get is a deep embarassment - for both of you. For you because he will say no and you'll feel crushed; for him because you will put him in a very akward and delicate position. As a teacher it is forbiden by law to date a student, no matter how much you think he likes you.
Every thing will be just fine from the moment you'll find yourself a nice 16-17 y.o. boy who will love you back as much. Just have faith. Good luck dear
2007-08-02 07:02:31 · answer #2 · answered by Michaela 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the age of consent is indeed 16 in the uk. but this guy is 14 years older than you. you say you have liked him for a long time. it could just be that you imagine he is acting differently because deep down, that's what you want.
don't you think there is something a bit wrong with a 30 year old man wanting a 16 year old girl? when he was your age you were 2. what do you think about that?
it is ILLEGAL for a teacher to have sexual relationships with their pupils, regardless of age.
being in love is difficult to cope with sometimes, you think you feel so deeply about someone. it can take time, but one day you will look back at this and wonder how you could ever feel so strongly about him. you are still young and you will fall in love with the right guy, when the time is right.
2007-08-02 06:54:11 · answer #3 · answered by vansiepurple 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do you actually know about this man except that he is a moody school teacher? He's probably aware of your school-girl infatuation (and that's all it is) and a little flattered by it hence the smiles. Telling him about your feelings will only cause embarrassment for both of you and a patronising lecture from him. It will also cause an uncomfortable atmosphere when ever your paths cross. Leave it and find someone nearer your own age group.
2007-08-04 11:17:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way should you confront this man. You sound extremely immature firstly you need to believe and understand this - that you DO NOT love this teacher. For goodness sake keep your childish affections for boys your own age not for grown men. No decent 30 year old man would be remotely interested in a 16 year old kid.
2007-08-02 10:37:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Leave well alone, 16 or not a teacher pupil relationship is illegal.
Find someone your own age and do not attempt to ruin this man's career or indeed if he reports you, which I believe he most certainly will, you will be looking for a new school!
2007-08-02 06:53:57 · answer #6 · answered by ALLEN B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, hes ALOT older than you hun!
Well I would tell him to get it over and done with seriously
if you need any 'help' read love lessons by jacqueline wilson
thats how u would end up like.
Just dont try and kiss him in public lol
Good Luck
Amy x
2007-08-02 09:03:02 · answer #7 · answered by DaisysMumma13 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he makes any kind of move on you, he is abusing his position. Although you are "legal" at 16, that does not mean you can have that kind of relationship with a teacher; he would lose his job, his livelihood & probably most of his family & friends too (& justly so !).
Having said all that, its probably just wishful thinking on your part. Sorry; but you'll have to get over it.
2007-08-02 06:51:36 · answer #8 · answered by Well, said Alberto 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's a crush, not love. When you are grown up you will understand the difference.
Don't come on to this man, men are weak and he'll end up losing his job over you then hating you forever!
You need to get over him, try getting a life outside school where you meet new people who are free to have a relationship with you?
Anyway, if he's moody, one smile wont make up for all the moodiness, believe me!
2007-08-02 06:50:12 · answer #9 · answered by pirate_princess 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
A 30 yr old shouldn't be messing with a 16 girl. You need to stay away from him, it could cost him a lot. He could lose his teaching license and worse.
2007-08-02 06:51:35 · answer #10 · answered by the_wayward1 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
my advice steer well clear, once you;ve left school n started a job, n got yourself a really good social life, all avenues will open up to you, and you will realise that this silly crush was just that
2007-08-02 07:00:12 · answer #11 · answered by spoogie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋