have you ever....?

Question

had someone knock the wind out of your sails when you lest expected it? how do you recover?

Answer 1

Yes
Move on, get around the problem. Find a plan B

Answer 2

Yes, I've had someone knock the wind out of my sails several times in my life ... and while it was usually 'bad' and I had to 'recover,' it has, just one time, been SO VERY GOOD that I can now 'look back' on all of those 'bad times' and not want to change a single one, because if they hadn't happened, I would not have been in the place at the time that 'good one' happened. I had a 'best friend' who was male ... I'm female, and we actually 'pretended to be going together' to keep other people from 'coming on' to us. We'd talk for HOURS, go shopping and do errands together ... and one day I went to 'cry on his shoulder' due to a 'family crisis' ... but instead of 'talking' he took me into his arms and put my head on his shoulder. NOTHING had ever felt that good, and I RAN from his apartment ... but asked him for a 'long talk' two days later. We talked for over ten hours straight ... he said he wasn't trying to 'edge me into the romantic' and that it was 'just the way he was' ... but at the end we had agreed to 'explore the romantic path slowly' with each other. I heard the 'slowly' but he didn't ... and two weeks later, on a 'scheduled shopping day' he showed up at my door 1.5 hours early, with a small pot of flowers (I still don't know how he got it, since it was only 8:30 am, and we lived 'downtown' and it was a 'holiday' that one doesn't usually need 'flowers' for ... I thought he was just 'exploring' in his 'usually romantic way' ... he bought me a book I would have to wait almost a month to pay for when we were on our way home, and I went to kiss him on the cheek ... but he turned to say something to me and I got 'full lips.' I blushed so badly (so did he) that both of us remember the 'Christmas lights' on the trees as being RED ... but our city uses ONLY WHITE lights on the trees every holiday season. I didn't know it but to 'him' we were 'going together' that day. I didn't find out until we did the 'one thing' he'd told me he'd NEVER DO until it was with his 'one and only one woman that he'd marry and be with the rest of his life.' I realized that I'd been JEALOUS of that woman for 'taking my best friend' and had therefore been jealous of myself ... I laughed so hard, I fell out of bed. I was 46, had been through 'the worst times of my life' and was 'looking forward to spending the rest of my life ALONE.' Yes, he did 'knock the wind out of my sails' (as he claims I did to him) and we did both 'recover' ... but we have been married now for 10+ years, and are 'together forever and beyond' ... we're still 'best friends' as well as partners, lovers, and playmates.
My point is that sometimes we 'think' we are 'sailing along the best path' and get the 'wind' knocked out of us ... because we were actually sailing along the 'wrong path' and getting the 'wind knocked out of us' put us on the RIGHT PATH. Be aware of the 'wind' but don't try to 'stop it' or think about 'recovery' as being 'difficult and sad' ... because someday, perhaps you will 'find total happiness' only after someone knocks the wind out of you.

Answer 3

I don't think one ever forgets. Just as time goes by, other things become more important. It's pretty nasty when someone you knows tries to knock you over, though.Try to keep good friends around you, as they are the ones that help to pick you up in life. (That means family, too.) :)

Answer 4

Metaphorically, or physically? Yes, when I heard my best friend had just passed away (she had cancer) three weeks BEFORE I knew about it. It felt like someone punched me in the gut. It took me about four years to fully move on.

Answer 5

Yes. Sure have..

It really depends on the situation. Time makes things better.

Answer 6

yeah. it sucks. keep thinking that this really is out of your control and go on with your life. try to remember that a little time will show u that this really did happen for a reason.

Answer 7

Plenty of times. Prayer and patience.

Answer 8

I think that happens to everyone from time to time.
I quietly reflect on it, and then move onto something else, somewhat wiser

Answer 9

yes, a couple boys have done that. i refer to them as "soul suckers." i called my best girl friend up and we went out for nachos and mozzerella sticks. nothing like greasy melted cheese and your best friend to cure a foul mood!

Answer 10

Well, ya get back on the horse missy