How serious do I take a text message that I read on my husband's phone??

Question

The text message said "I'm naked" and then "you better delete this before your wife sees it. I confronted my husband and he said it was someone he talked to a while back and she continues to call him. He is a tattoo artist and has tattooed her in the past...she's a stripper. (UGH!) I trust him to not cheat physically, but I am still totally bothered by this. After checking the phone bill I did see that ,indeed, he had called her as well. Since I have confronted him, I have not seena ny phone calls either to her or from her on his phone. Should I chalk it up as a mistake on his part and move on??? How do I confront him about his outgoing phone calls to her???

Answer 1

I would be pi*sed, you are a better woman than me, my man would not be able to walk for days

Answer 2

Same thing happened to me. And for those thinking - why are you checking his phone .. his text message alert went off and he asked me to check it b/c he thought it was a friend we were waiting to hear from.

Some chick was saything things like "i"m in bed and thinking about you" blah blah blah. And my fiance had replied "Baby why are you doing that?" etc. etc. (yes, he called her baby !)

I couldn't believe it ! So, i confronted him. He said it was an ex (that he never told me about) and she had pyschological problems. Not only did I throw his phone at his head, I made him call her and tell her not to contact him anymore. When she called him later that night, he didn't pick up. I have never seen another message or phone call from the skank.

I would just trust it was a moment of weakness on his part and move on ... don't bring up the phone calls if you haven't seen any since then. Trust is hard to build up again, so give yourself some time and let him know he has some rebuilding to do.
Good luck.

Answer 3

each and every each and every so often those 8-digit telephone numbers point out that the message became despatched to his telephone over the internet. it would desire to be a woman utilising a internet-based texting service, or it would desire to be an computerized digital mail that are despatched by utilising some internet web pages after inquiring on your telephone selection. when you consider which you haven't any longer had any problems with trusting him when you consider which you have been married, i does no longer worry too lots approximately this text. Do your self a choose and don't struggle by using his telephone back except you somewhat have reason to suspect shady habit - there are too many telephone calls which you will no longer know or texts that are no longer even important which will reason you to lose have confidence on your significant different, which continually finally ends up in added issues. I wish you the superb.

Answer 4

Well you are married so yea you have to have some sort of trust for him. He is a tatoo artist and they get all sorts in there. I would be upset however this stripper had his cell phone number but sometimes guys don't think before they do. You will just have to move on and trust him. Just check the phone bills and keep a distant eye out. Theres no way of really knowing but it sounds like they are a little too close.

Answer 5

Did you keep her number? I would call her and confront her, ask her why she sent a text like that. And even tho you don't see new calls, keep in mind, he may have smartened up and is remembering to delete them off the phone now. or calling from elsewhere. plus, I love it when guys say "she keeps calling, waah"....gimme a break. If you don't encourage, they won't keep calling. I'm not saying he's cheating, but I'd keep a close eye on this. Even if he's just getting an ego boost, that is the kind of chick that will go for it if she see's any opening in the armour. B/C if you don't respect yourself (and I don't care what anyone says...it's true and deep down you know it), which if you take your clothes off for money, you don't....you don't respect other peoples' marriages or relationships.

Answer 6

i would take it seriously i mean there is no reason why a women should be sending him that **** on his phone. Also if he is calling her and talking to her there may be more to it. Yet there may be nothign to it at all. Just be honest with him abotu what u found and how u feel about it. It could be something yet could be nothing. The women could just be a huge flirt and send him messages like that because she wants him but yet cant have him or something. I really hope he isnt cheating on you because that would be so wrong. I wish u the best on this just talk to him and see what happened............ .....my bf had some girl calling him all the time asking him if he would be with her and so on.... and i asked him about it and he said he didnt do anything with her and he told her right in front of me that he doesnt want to talk to her anymore and to stop calling and he had his cell phone company block her number from calling. since then no other girls. ......best wishes to you

Answer 7

I think that you are worried, as you should be. It appears that trust might already be an issue if you are scrolling through his text messages in the first place. When you trust a person, you don't do that. She could have left the naked part out of the text. If she is a stripper then you would kind of suspect that anyway.

Answer 8

Has anything like this ever happened before? Its tough to say. Now that he is aware you check the phone bill and his messages, he will be more likely to try and hide the evidence if he is still talking to her.

Has he been acting distant lately? Has he been coming home late or leaving to run errands after work? Just look for any out of character behavior. It doesnt mean he is cheating for sure but it doesnt help.

I would let him know that after reading the messages and seeing that he has also called her, you are upset. Let him know that you have concerns over whether he is being faithful. If he refuses to take you seriously, you may want to try marrige counseling.

Im sorry. Situations like this are never easy to deal with. Good luck and i hope it turns out the phone call he made to her was simply to say "I'm happily married, leave me alone!"

Answer 9

I might give him the benefit of the doubt. Some guys have a hard time saying no, and really, most guys (married or not!) like to have a young "sexy" woman pay attention to them. They see it as harmless as long as they don't cross the line. But alot of women look at 'harmless' flirting differently, from both sides...some women who flirt do it to see just how far they can go, and if the guy is enjoying the attention he won't want to hurt her feelings by telling her to back off. If it continues, I'd confront him and let him know it's unacceptable.

Answer 10

That's pretty serious. You should call the number back and talk to the girl on the other end. Better yet, send a text that says, "Put your clothes back on, I am the wife and I know".

Your husband sounds like a sneaky pig!

Answer 11

I dont know how you still have not confronted him about the phone calls!!! How else would she have text message him if he didnt give her his #? This happened to me once and believe me, first time my hubby had seen me sooo mad! I confronted him immediately and blocked the number = ) I was the primary in the account so I was able to block it = ) But then again, it never happened again!!! You better take this serious..Best wishes = )