Someone PLEASE make me feel better?

Question

I made the biggest mistakes of my life last year. In that year alone, I managed to somehow become an addict, lose my virginity to a completely jerk, lose contact with lifelong friends, and completely flunk all my classes thus getting suspended from my college for the next year.

TODAY my wonderful, beautiful, perfect older sister left to go back to college and I'm home alone feeling like a COMPLETE failure in life and just hating everything about me.

I've ruined everything I've ever stood for and I don't even know why. I'm so STUPID and right now I just wish I was anyone else but me. My dad told me last night that I am the biggest disappointment of his life. My sister tried to comfort me by the usual "things will get better" but they WON'T because the past won't go away and I'm stuck with this forever.

I just hate me right now and I am so ashamed of myself. And I live in a house where I'm constantly reminded of my mistakes and how worthless I am...

Answer 1

I KNOW WHAT YOU NEED TO DO..

1. QUIT FEELING SORRY FOR YOURSELF

2. REALIZE THAT EVERY DAY IS THE FIRST DAY OF THE REST OF YOUR LIFE..AND YES YOU MAY MAKE MISTAKES THAT HAVE EVERLASTING CONSEQUENCES..BUT HARPING ON THEM WILL JUST BE EVEN WORSE OF A MISTAKE!

3..YOU ARE NOT THE FIRST TO MAKE BIG MISTAKES YOU WILL CONTINUE TO PAY FOR..AND YOU WONT BE THE LAST..

TRUST ME...I HAVE MADE SOME BIGGIES...THAT NOT ONLY DO I HAVE TO PAY FOR...BUT MY POOR INNOCENT CHILD HAS TO ALSO..

YOU AND THE WHOLE WORLD HAVE PROBLEMS CHICK!!!

YOU COULD BE DEAD, AND IT COULD ALWAYS BE WORSE..COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS THAT SOMETHING HASNT HAPPENED TO MAKE YOU THINK THAT THIS PLACE IN YOUR LIFE IS GRAND!!!!!!

Answer 2

Your dad shouldn't have ever said that. We ALL make (made) mistakes, including him, whether he'll admit them or not.
I too, went through some similar things as you and also felt like a failure. It has taken a lot of years but due to a real relationship with Christ Jesus ( as opposed to head knowledge of Him ), some counseling and a great marriage, I no longer feel that way or think that way.
I hope it doesn't sound simplistic because it certainly hasn't been. There have been many bumps along the way and prob. will be for you.

Answer 3

First, let me start out by saying that YOU are NOT worthless. Everyone was put on this earth for a reason, not by fate. There must be sometime that you are good at, like listening to people or cooking or building things. Not all good things come from school. Look into your God given talent and use it to build yourself up. Stop looking at youself like you are some sort of failure. How can you move on in life if you only see your self as a loser?? If you see yourself as a failure, others will too. Start seeing yourself as a young woman, who is full of oppertunities, hopes, and life. Life will start to look so much better, trust me. Sure, you'll slip along the way. But don't let that stop you. You are human... so just learn from your mistakes. Looking at life as a gift makes everything so much better.

One book I read that really changed my outlook on life was The 7 habits of highly effective Teens. Sure, the title sounds dorky, but the book is so great! If there is one thing that I recommend on having a different outlook on life, it's this book! Try these links...

http://www.7habits4teens.com/

This book was written by the guy's dad... and is just as good!
http://books.google.com/books?id=E3gcrPG5BswC&dq=7+habits+of+highly+effective+people&pg=PP1&ots=8wY6qZQEZh&sig=r7Z31inqZP_apv_SeaoMILMCKyc&prev=http://www.google.com/search%3Fhl%3Den%26q%3D7%2Bhabits%2Bof%2Bhighly%2Beffective%2Bpeople&sa=X&oi=print&ct=title

Answer 4

We all make stupid mistakes so welcome to the club. Stop beating yourself up about it and write down everything you want to accomplish in the next year then get busy getting it done.

Your old friends will come around once you tell them you are sorry. Get a job so you can pay your own way while you apply at other schools. If you ever run into the jerk just kick him in the balls and say thanks for nothing. See, it's all easy stuff to fix once you have a plan. Good luck!

Answer 5

I did the same thing as a young person,but I didn't ruin my life because of it...What I have to say to you may not be what you want to hear but so be it!=)
First of all your Dad was wrong in saying that to you at a point when you needed his support most of all,even if it is true for him to feel that way he should of kept that to himself anyway.
What matters the most right now is for you to feel better about yourself and only you can accomplish that with getting back into life..Mistakes are lessons in life and can be righted...
Don't blame your sister for making something of her life,encourage her not to do as you have and then get yourself back into a life you can be proud of by doing it slowly and intentionally..
Wallowing in self pity will not make things better only worse so do something today or tomorrow that will benefit you...re-enroll in school elsewhere,search out positive friends to surround you,Not only will you start to feel better about yourself but your Dad and family will agree your efforts are worthwhile..Good luck Babe,and give life another chance,it does indeed get better but only if you make it happen..=)

Answer 6

you are right, the past won't go away, it never will but what you need to do is accept it and let it go. if you dwell on it and believe yourself that your whole life is over because of it then you will always be in that rut. get off your pity pot and do something about it. Be the change you wish to see in the world, show your family that eventhough you made a mistake, you can pick yourself up, dust yourself off and keep moving on.

Answer 7

Your not stupid
You just made some mistakes, there is time to fix them. Your not a failure. Next year, go to college. You will be fine. Everyone makes some mistakes. Youll be fine.

and whoever is telling YOU that you are worthless, forget them. Theyre @sses

Answer 8

You have the power to turn yourself around.
You didn't say you got pregnant. so at least you don't have a baby to care for and keep you at home.
Show your family that you can make something of yourself. You may have to start out small and at least get a job.
I'm not sure what you're addicted to but try and get off of it anyway you can.
Show them you can do something good with your life.
Prove them wrong!
Use their negativity as your energy. Let them p!ss you off, just use that to do even better.
once you get on your feet a little bit, you can start taking classes again. get that diploma and make something of it.
again...
"PROVE THEM WRONG!"

there's some who believe in you.
you need to make them ALL believe in you.

Good luck. ♥

Answer 9

ok, you just have to learn to forgive yourself, then others can forgive you.

once you can live with what you have done, you can start to move on, dwelling in the past only brings pain. you need to live in the now! go out and prove to your parents that you are not a complete waste of space, go and get a job, and live your life.

as long as you are no longer an addict then you will be ok.
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Answer 10

well, the only think left TO do is to learn. think of all the "mistakes" that you made and reflect on what you have learned. it is true that was doesn't kill you will only make you stronger. if god still has you on this good earth, its for a purpose. maybe you will serve as insperation to others, of how you overcame all those addictions. or you can become a motivational speaker helping others come out of addictions.