...to wait a couple years to have kids...
I'm happily married, but have been wanting so badly to get pregnant and start a family. But I know that my husband and I aren't in the time or place or financial situation that we'd like to be in before having kids. Somebody remind me of other reasons to just hold off for awhile...(but please be nice about it)
2007-08-02 05:25:09 · 14 answers · asked by HollywoodHousewife♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Our finances are stable, just not ample. We have no debt, and are significantly within our budget. It adds no stress to our marriage. I just kind of assume we're not within our budget enough to add baby/child expenses, lol
2007-08-02 06:45:17 · update #1
if everyone waited till they were financially stable to have kids there would be no kids on this earth. i want kids to and i know taht i am too young and i have only been married for 6 months . but you can want kids just wait till yall both feel calm about it. and have kids before your 40 lol.
2007-08-02 05:29:40 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. Nolan 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I was in the same frame of mind, totally ready to have kids...but that was with my ex. My new boyfriend and I are so happy together and doing so many fun things together that I don't want it to end. Being totally happy in my relationship has made me want to put off having a family and just enhoy our life together now. Since you are happily married and enjoy your husbands company then I think you should focus on that. Do things together that you won't be able to do when the baby comes along. Enjoy being young, catch up on work and finances and then when the time is right you'll know it. But for now just love and obsess over eachother, cherish his undivided attention while you can because that fun, strong foundation will make your marriage and family stronger in the long run.
2007-08-02 05:32:08 · answer #2 · answered by Kate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The world's resources are limited, and people in certain other countries are legally limited on how many children they can produce. Rather than adopting a child with nothing and saving him or her from poverty and disease, people would rather feign ignorance to the existence of anyone but themselves and continue to reproduce. So we continue at this rate, bringing in new baby after new baby that "looks just like us." Congratulations on not bringing a kid into a financially unsound environment. Maybe you could take it one step further and not bring one into the world at all. What do you suppose the state of the world will be as early as 2025? What impact will global warming have had by then? What kind of tropical storms will be tearing up the coasts as a result of this warming? What will the economy be like? You have bigger questions to ask yourself, in my opinion.
2007-08-02 05:34:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a good idea to build a nice little bit of savings, kids are expensive, I have one daughter by my ex-wife. She's 13 now and wanting all sorts of expensive things.
Ex-wives can get expensive too! But, making sure your marriage is solid is a good idea too. All kids deserve both a Mom and a Dad, in the home.
Also, I am putting a portion of my income away for her college fund...yes already, it gets expensive! And don't forget unexpected medical costs, as well as dental/braces, etc.
Hope I helped. Glad to hear you and your husband are thinking this through seriously, good luck.
2007-08-02 05:32:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats good you are being responsible about having a child. Your situation has to be your reminder. But I dont think anyone is ever really prepared for a baby, there is never a perfect time or situation. Best Wishes
2007-08-02 05:32:56 · answer #5 · answered by T I 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children might be cute and everything... when they're not your own.
Remember the countless nights you will have of waking up at 2am for feedings.
Remember the way your social life will be non-existant once you become a parent.
Remember how much money it costs to raise a child.
Remember how difficult it is to travel with a child.
And lastly, remember how your life is no longer about you... but about your newborn.
2007-08-02 05:29:30 · answer #6 · answered by Blazen Elite 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
nicely my ex and that i had "our music" which became Love Vigilantes via Iron and Wine. yet I had somebody tell me recently that I remind them of Timshel, that's a Mumford and Sons music, which i did no longer be conscious of. I surely have a tattoo on my wrist of the word "TIMSHEL" despite if that is from the unconventional East Of Eden... no concept there became a music too!
2016-12-15 03:46:50 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, I can't help there. I'm happy with my kids and I wasn't in the preferred time/place/situation.
However as a preventative, I give you an example: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AiJBWKbThIcU71LMq2dWzyfty6IX?qid=20070731210730AAz1Kv5&show=7#profile-info-TQo4w3vBaa
That was a really depressing question for me to read.
2007-08-02 05:30:00 · answer #8 · answered by chaoss13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
babies scream and keep you up all hours of the night which could cause stress or maybe add to stress if your in a bad financial situation
2007-08-02 05:28:25 · answer #9 · answered by amanda marie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Financial stress can be the downfall of a marriage. Money (or lack of it) in general can destroy even the best of marraiges.
2007-08-02 05:28:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋