he left me when i was 2.should i see him?
2007-08-02 05:19:32 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
yes see him and tell him how you feel about what he done to you.
2007-08-02 05:21:16 · answer #1 · answered by mom of 3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how you feel about why he left, and the way he did it. My real dad left my family when I was two, so I gave him a chance when I was about 15 and went to see him. I didn't care for the way he acted and the views he had - so I didn't see him after that, but I gave him a chance.
If you talk to him and think he really is sorry and changed - give him a shot. Everyone deserves a second chance!
2007-08-02 05:24:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it this way - Have you ever wanted to see him? Or have you resented him for leaving you and don't want to see him at all? In the first case, then its a definite yes. On the other hand, if you feel that seeing him will bring about more pain/anger than anything else, then don't. Although seeing him and creating a bond might dissolve any possible resentment - if he wants to see you then thats a good sign, maybe he regrets leaving you and wants to make up for it
2007-08-02 05:24:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not.You might have alot in common.Also do you know why your parents split?More than likely it wasn't about you.People split up all the time and it's VERY rare that it is because of the kids.
My Old Man split when I was 4 and died when I was 19 I did see him during that time but it wasn't the same as having him there for those years (no male roll model) Be happy that he wants to see you.He is reaching out.Talk to him.
2007-08-02 05:37:13 · answer #4 · answered by Merlin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband had never seen his dad before, and he went to go see him when he turned 21. You should go meet your real dad. It might help you fill that empty spot of not knowing who he is. It is your choice though. If you don't feel comforatable going then don't, or you can get somebody that you trust to go with you. It will be awkward meeting him for the first time, I can tell you that much. It always is awkward though. I hope that this helps you decide. Good luck to you.
2007-08-02 05:31:06 · answer #5 · answered by Heath 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you now? Do you have a mom or stepdad to talk to about this?
You can decide that now is not the right time to see him. You can say you're not ready to. You can say that you would rather write emails or send letters until you figure it out.
Don't believe that CRAP that you should feel honored because he now wants to see you.
HE should be honored that you're even considering it.
You hold all the power here. You can do as much or as little as you want.
2007-08-02 06:07:50 · answer #6 · answered by Autumn C. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Might as well. If he left because he just didn't want you, then I understand the hesatation, and he was irresponsible, but he still is your father. You can find out why he left, why he's back know, and why so long. At the very least you can get a dinner out of the whole thing.
2007-08-02 05:24:59 · answer #7 · answered by Nick D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there are reasons you are unsure about seeing your Dad, then first try talking on the phone or e-mailing him to get to know him better and until you are comfortable seeing him.
If your father is mean, hurtful or just a bad person, there is no reason to see him just because he is your Dad.
There are many things that make a parent a parent, not just blood.
2007-08-02 05:24:41 · answer #8 · answered by Elizabeth L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and be honored that he wants to see you. He probably was scared as heck when your mom had you and didn't know what to do. Men are like that. He had his fun and now obviously feels regret and wants to be in your life.
While I think its a good Idea to express your feelings on how you've felt not having your dad until now, remember that being too cruel may scare him off again and just embrace having him around :)
2007-08-02 05:22:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it maybe hard for you to decide what to do, but trust what your heart is telling you, think about it and then make your decision don't let anyone pressure you into it, you might find that when you meet up with him thats if you do you can ask him questions that you want to know, if it was me i would want to know why he left why he new came to see me before now but follow your heart and if you have a scared feeling about it don't see him, but just remeber do it for you and not for him, i would bring someone with you like a friend just in case.. i hope that helps
2007-08-02 05:27:53 · answer #10 · answered by punkymamma02 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you're comfortable.
I would talk to your mother and ask her more about what kind of person is was.
Also, you could talk to him on the phone before you see him in person. A few conversations would help you decide if he's worthy.
2007-08-02 05:23:59 · answer #11 · answered by alisongiggles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋