There are 6 of us who knows about my younger sisters pregnancy. My mom doesnt want us to tell anyone in our family about my sister's situation. I want her to feel happy and that pregnacy and giving birth is a positive thing. Should i still plan a shower? How? and when?
2007-08-02 04:50:44 · 19 answers · asked by Janet L 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Yes but do so in the privacy of your own home and only invite those who already know. It's a shame that your mom doesn't want to tell anyone. having a baby is a joyous experience and not one that should be tainted with secrecy &/or embarrassment. In fact, it should be your sister's choice if she wants to share her news- not your mothers.
2007-08-02 04:56:14 · answer #1 · answered by carron420 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand her not wanting to celebrate an event where a young girl is pregnant and faces an uncertain and very difficult future, to say the least. I would be sick if I found myself in that situation. Of course, once the baby is here, everyone will love the baby and rejoice in its birth. Right now though, it is a life altering (and not for the better) event. The situation itself is not something to celebrate. However, the fact remains that your sister is ALREADY pregnant regardless of who is happy and not happy about the pregnancy. Therefore, in need of baby supplies....The stork is not going to bring them and most people can't afford all those baby things on their own! Depending on how far along the pregnancy is, your mother will have some time to come to grips with the situation. Once some time has passed she may decide it is okay to have a family shower.
2007-08-02 12:14:27 · answer #2 · answered by miabeth1217 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she keeping the baby? If so def. throw her a shower so that she can enjoy every aspect of pregnancy. How long does your mom expect to be able to keep a baby a secret? The next familiy gathering after the baby is born it will be very obvious and the rest of the family would fill hurt that they were left out. Well good luck
2007-08-02 12:10:28 · answer #3 · answered by *~*love always*~* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say to invite people your sister wants there or just keep it amongst the 6 of you. If invitations get out, family members can possibly know. It is better to tell them though. A baby is a wonderful addition to any family. Even if she is young she still needs the love and support from others in her family.
2007-08-02 12:14:47 · answer #4 · answered by Raquel D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely!! Your sister will begin showing later in the pregnancy & there will be no way of hiding it anymore. Your mother will have to expect that.
I admire your outlook on her pregnancy & it seems as thought your sister is going to need someone like you to help her throught this wonderful (and stressful) time. So plan to have the shower 1 month before the due date & send out the invites after the secret is out.
2007-08-02 11:55:38 · answer #5 · answered by Jennield 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your best bet is to wait until after the baby is born. This is very common. Unless she give baby up for adoption, everyone will notice her carrying around a baby.
It really doesn't matter what everyone else thinks anyway. So you started a family. All that matters is that you take care of that family. Good luck. I wish her the easiest labor ever!!
2007-08-02 11:57:41 · answer #6 · answered by srs_stephanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How the heck do you "hide" pregnancy?
"yea, sorry. I did eat a basketball the other day". NO! you can't hide a pregnancy.
And like what was said earlier. Even if you can hide the pregnancy (like hiding out for 10 months), people will wonder who's kid your sister is holding.
Jeeez. Just own up to it. Your sister did the deed. She (and the rest of your family) have to own up to it.
So, my advice is to just plan the shower like you normally would. Don't hide such a joyous and wonderful time.
Be proud of it.
2007-08-02 11:56:26 · answer #7 · answered by Scott D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow this is a diff. situation.. Is your sister REALLY young and thats why your mother wants to hide it? I would say its not fair either way. Your sister should be treated fairly and you should throw her a baby shower and make her feel special, but make her realize that your doing this because you love her and she needs to take responsibilty for this unborn child now and when he/she arrives. You should invite whom ever your sister wants invited or to know about her having a child.. and noramlly you throw a shower 1-2 months before she is due...
2007-08-02 11:56:17 · answer #8 · answered by determined for baby #1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well when she starts to show ALOT more there will be alot more people then just the 6 of you that know shes pregnant, and by then everyone would want to go to a shower and give her the things she will need...It will all work out, but usually have it like 6-8 weeks before shes due...
Good luck!
2007-08-02 11:57:16 · answer #9 · answered by Shawn's mama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that secret cant be kept hidden. your mom needs to wake up and realize this. if shes keeping the baby then yes plan SHOWER SOMEWHERE AROUND HER 7-8 MONTH the only problem you will have is keeping the pregnancy a secret
2007-08-02 11:54:44 · answer #10 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋