ok i havent seen or heard from my ex boyfriend in 2 months...last night i went to some lounge by me with my friend and i saw my ex kissing some girl...im not going to lie, even though i moved on, it did bother me a bit...after he hooked up with her he was by the bar by himself so i went up to him and said hi and we started talking...after that i saw some guy who i knew and we started dancing and flirting with each other...i saw my ex staring at us that he even came up to me while i was talking to the other guy...after that i walked out with my friend and that guy and his friend and i kno my ex saw it bc he tried getting my attention by grabbing my waste...then he calls me and leaves a message on my voicemail saying "i want you" but ur with another guy" i mean seriously, whats his problem??? its ok for him to hook up with other girls but not ok for me to flirt or dance with other guys? i mean what was that all about?? what do u guys think?
2007-08-02 04:18:04 · 8 answers · asked by fran c 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
He wants you when he wants you. He wants his freedom to date whenever he wants, but wants you to be there for him only.
You both 'like/want' eachother, but that comes from familiarity.
At this point, neither of you need to get serious with just one person. It is alright to date eachother, but not become b/f, g/f.
You'll both be miserable, untrusting, and argumentative if you hook-up again.
2007-08-02 04:28:10 · answer #1 · answered by kNOTaLIAwyR 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well just like you said it kinda bothered you to see him with another girl, it looks like the same thing happened to him. I can't give you the best advice because I don't know your whole story. Sometimes relationships just need a break for the people to realize they really do love each other and want to work extra hard to make it work. But sometimes no matter how much you love someone, a relationship will never work with them. Alot of times in cases like this, after both people have moved on, they can become and stay friends through life. Good luck to you. Relationships are a bear!!! =)
2007-08-02 11:28:34 · answer #2 · answered by IvyDale 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What I think is that he just got hot for you.
Don't give him more attention. If he would miss you as a person, he would have been calling you within those past 2 months. That's for sure!
And don't let cross your mind the thought of "maybe he wants me back, because he is jelous...". I don't think his interest is serious. Let things the way they are. If he wants you back he will come back to you. Of course, if you are ok with a short hot sex, go for it... For me it looks like someone got a strawberry cake (you) and he changed it to a chocolate. And then suddenly after 2 months saw the strawberry again and remembered, hmmm... how delicious was that! Can I have one more last bite??
2007-08-02 11:29:28 · answer #3 · answered by shinysunlight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are both still not ready to date other people.
I suggest to finish working through, and letting go of each other first, where you are just friends again with no added expectations, jealousies, emotions or regrets, before you are truly ready to focus on building separate relations with others without being under the shadow of the past. Otherwise it is not fair to the other people who would get emotionally caught up in your drama and uncertainty of unresolved issues. Please consider both yourselves and the effect you would have on others if you don't resolve your past questions first.
Whether or not you end up back together or with other people, I think you will both benefit from talking things out now where you are on the same page before you take further steps. Can you and your ex meet and talk, and agree what timeframe you will set aside to work through your remaining issues or doubts until you are sure your feelings are in order, mutual and balanced again? No matter what they turn out to be? I strongly urge you to do this, as it helps both people plus it strengthens your skills in dealing with relationships in general, which will benefit your future relations. Some of your past family patterns in communicating and relating may inevitably come up, so be prepared to work through those issues which are good to confront anyway. Especially with men and women, we tend to repeat, mimic, or project habits or thinking we picked up from past relations or parents or others, with or without knowing it. So that is all part of learning how to let go and work with people respectuflly, without projecting past emotions or expectations on others.
If you need to ask more experienced people, I highly suggest the Break Up Survival forum on MSN groups. If you check it out, I think you will truly appreciate the honest advice and feedback from different people who are extremely helpful and supportive no matter what your situation is.
2007-08-02 11:48:20 · answer #4 · answered by Nghiem E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men have an extra competion gene I think, lots of times they don't want you unless someone else has you. He wants to prove that you'll come back to him if he just says the word. Forget him.
2007-08-02 11:58:45 · answer #5 · answered by Clover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first ur annoyed of him kissing beacuse really u dont want him to move on. u still think he should b thinkin about u. he only saids that beause deep down he still think he's urs and if ur kissin another guy it will get t o him.though he only kisses another girl beacuse he is tryin to move on
2007-08-02 12:24:59 · answer #6 · answered by V 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't bother with him, you shouldn't worry about what he thinks b/c he obviously doesn't care about what you think. besides, if he's all over some other girl and he wants you back why would you get mixed up in all that? no anyone who is that shallow is definetley not worth your time
2007-08-02 11:30:23 · answer #7 · answered by phillipians2511 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants you because he can't have you.
2007-08-02 11:28:27 · answer #8 · answered by magnadudl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋