my friend is having family problems with her new stepdad....the problem is they had an expensive wedding and their now both unemployed.im 14 nd she's 14 wat should i do to help her??
2007-08-02 04:05:10 · 7 answers · asked by Joker S. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
its hard to do something for her especially since ure both so young. here's an idea u can try to look for places that are hiring ( office, a factory and so on) and inform her parents.
in the mean while be there for her, try to comfort her, get her mind off the problems for a while, let her know that everything is gonna be ok.)
2007-08-02 04:24:10 · answer #1 · answered by cuban cutie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just be there for her. Unfortunately, neither of you are in any position to change the situation. It does seem like her mom and step dad made a very irresponsible decision with their wedding, and now their entire family must pay the price.
It's going to be real hard on her for awhile. She has a new person in the house to get accustomed to and it doesn't appear that her family is putting their children's needs first. She's going to need someone to talk to and to help her take her mind off of her home situation. Get her out of the house and do some fun things together! Also, help her keep focused on school; it can be hard to do that when you have a bad family situation at home. If she focuses on school and gets good grades, she can get a scholarship to a school away from her parents. It doesn't sound like they're saving up for her education. Keep reminding her it's all a temporary situation, and she's out of this in 4 more years, which really isn't that long, even though it can seem like it.
She's lucky to have a friend like you!
2007-08-02 11:14:41 · answer #2 · answered by Jessica A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I'm not sure what state you're in but where i live, when money is an issue all friends and family gather together and hold car washes. with the permission of a local business,like sonic,pizza hut, to name a few, will let you use their water and hold a car wash on their parking lot. we all hold out signs for the car wash which is payed by donations. you would be surprised at the amount of money you can raise. other than that i think you're both young and shouldn't worry so much about adult problems because you're going to have enough of your own in due time and i am sure her new step dad and mom are going to work things out just fine.
2007-08-02 11:18:14 · answer #3 · answered by susan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is unhappy with her new stepdad?? find out why.. and try to support what ever she does(good things not bad) try to advice her to focus on studies and try not to think about her stepdad what can she do if her mum really loves tht guy and tell her to accept it.. show her that u really care for her and make sure u r there for her whenever she needed u!! that's what friends r for.. and pry to god i believe one day god will change everything! god bless! good luck and have a nice day!^^V
2007-08-02 11:12:49 · answer #4 · answered by Madeleine Ong 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a Friend! Keep an open ear for her. Listen and confront her to the best of your ability.
If your a believer, pray with her. If your not, pray with her :)
You'll be surprised how things work themselves out.
2007-08-02 11:12:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not your problem. It's her parent's problem and until she's 18, she's just along for the ride. Stay out of it.
2007-08-02 11:07:53 · answer #6 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
(I DON'T SPEAK ENGLISH VERY WELL...SORRY) ADVICE: THEY CAN MADE THIS WEDDING WHEN THEY HAVE FOUND A JOB....
2007-08-02 11:14:08 · answer #7 · answered by ^.Misaki.^ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋