Adults, do you agree that having sex adds complexity to a relationship?

Question

Do you think teenagers are able to handle this complexity? Why or why not?

Answer 1

yes, it definitely does. some adults can't handle it, either. you're giving the most personal part of yourself to another person. showing yourself at your most vulnerable. it puts a lot of pressure on a relationship, which not everyone can handle, especially if the relationship ends badly.

Answer 2

I think it depends on the kind of person you are. Some people view sex and the ultimate physical and emotional bond that 2 people can share. that's fine. But others view sex as pure fun or as a way to loose inhibitions. And thats fine too. If you view sex in the former then it would certainly add complexity to a relationship, and it would indeed make it harder in the break up or for immature people to understand or handle this complexity. However, if you view sex in the former then it wouldn't add any complexity to a relationship that u may or may not have.
I hold the view that the relationship itself holds the complexity because of different personailties, the sex will onli enhance it in some cases.
Remember, sex is a natural part of life and is an inidividual choice.
Again, because it is an individual choice, teenagers should be informed about sex and be able to make their own choices. Obviously some ages are just too young to be able to properly comprehend the ideas surrounding sex and sexual saftey (which i think is the bigger issue) and then should abstain from sex. However, there are a remarkable amount of intelligent teenagers out there who can deal with the complexity sex brings better then maybe some adults. Maybe this is due to the honesty that teenagers so often have that adults have learned to suppress.
As i explained with adults, teenagers vary very widely with wether they can handle complexity within a relationship and the added complexity sex may bring for some of them. Hormones play a big part of this. if sex education was better, more thorough, then teenagers should be able to decide for themselves wether or not they can handle a proper relationship and sex.
But just like adults, there are some teenagers that view sex as just 'fun. Look at how 15 - 19 year old boys behave. Maybe they're too young to really understand what theyre doing. Maybe they havent been informed off the dangerous it can do to mental, emotional and physical health. or maybe they are aware and are making an informed choice.
I think it depends on the individual and the relationship as to wether sex will add complexity.
Add if teenagers are to fully understand or handle relationships and the emotional reprocussions sex may cause, then they need better sex ed. to be able to make an informed choice about what they are doing.

Answer 3

Absolutely. Sex is a great pleasure, but it is also a great responsibility. If you are 14 it would be best if you waited a while. Sex with the right person can be a wonderful experience. Sex with the wrong person can leave you feeling used and less than. You want to be sure that you are doing this with someone who truly cares about you and will build you up and make you happy. I wish I had waited longer than I did, honestly. When you have sex with someone, you make yourself very vulnerable to them emotionally. You give this person a lot of power over how you feel, that's why it's called intimacy. Imagine how you might wonder over whether or not something you wear or do around this person is attractive, and makes you look good. Now imagine having those same feelings about this person seeing your naked body. Once you take this step, you can't go back. Make sure you know what you're doing, and know well who you're doing it with, before you take that step.

Answer 4

Yes, I think sex makes things more complicated in relationships. Men and Women are wired different....they think different, express themselves differently and I don't think teenagers are mature enough to handle the complexity. having sex is the ultimate intimate act with onother person and it's also and emotional bond. it should be based on love and commitment not 'i really really like this person'.

I know I sound very old fashioned but I've learned enough by experience (mine and others) to know that it's not just a good time. Eventually your heart is gonna be in it and it will hurt like hell when you find out the other person doesn't feel the same way.

Answer 5

Yes and No. Sex should be reserved for marriage. Having it outside marriage creates a bond that does make the possibility of breaking up more complex. This is a rule that is designed for our protection, not just to spoil someone's fun.

Answer 6

I think people add complexity to relationships. sex is a natural part of being alive, it's there to make a person feel physically and emotionally better as well as reproduce. The appraoch is strictly based on the person, but i think teenagers can handle it, i know alot who do, if people didnt make sex out to be evil and hurtful then i believe there wouldn't be a need for that question to be asked.

Answer 7

Sex is complex all by itself. The way I see it, if the teen can handle the consequences and KNOW what they are getting into, fine.

Answer 8

Many adults mourn their loss of innocence at an early age, and they should be given a chance to grow up naturally away from predators. I'm not sure adults are able to handle it well.

Answer 9

If you're having sex with someone else then it definitely adds complexity.

Answer 10

Maybe somethings is wrong with me, but I found it to make things easier. I think the complexity is soley in the relationship.