Dont get me wrong i truly think cheating is wrong but why does the cheater get all the blame i mean yea it was a selfish and immoral thing to do but i think the non-cheating spouse needs to take some of the blame too cause apparently he/she wasnt doing something right either and he/she was also doing a selfish thing by denying sex and i know there is no excuses for cheating bu there is no excuse to deny your spouse sex either unless of course of a medical reason and i know nobody is gonna agree with me but its my opinion.
2007-08-02 03:25:33 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This has nothing to do with me i was just making a comment.
2007-08-02 03:32:12 · update #1
I agree with you.
2007-08-02 03:29:03 · answer #1 · answered by elgil 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Amber--communications is the biggest part of any relationship--a man and woman with a sex issue should sit quietly and nicely discuss the issue. Out and out cheating without the attempt to solve the situation is not a reason to blame a non loving spouse. Is it any wonder why some women will not allow their husband to have sex with them?? But instead of discussing it, the trouble grows and grows. The cheat is a still a disrespecting person--betraying a mate--lying---risking disease----all for sex??? That is just an act to this person --not an emotional thing like it should be. I can see your point--but it is NOT a concrete alibi or excuse. Cheating further proves a relationship is over--the love is gone !!!
2007-08-02 03:57:03 · answer #2 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well a cheater is a cheater Period! How can the non - cheating spouse possibly take the blame? if the cheater was so unhappy in the relationship then they should of had enough b*lls to talk with the other person and explain that they are unhappy and why! If they couldn't have worked something out then they should have separated! Running out and cheating on someone just because is absolutely ridiculous!
2007-08-02 03:32:04 · answer #3 · answered by C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, the blame can be on both parties. Cheater should have never cheated in the first place. Maybe the other spouse didn't realize that he/she was being selfish. This is when the "cheater" should have a nice long talk with their spouse to tell him/her their needs and wants. Find out why he/she was denying sex. Maybe it has something to do with the "cheater spouse".
2007-08-02 03:31:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The Bible says in Genesis 2:24 " Therefore shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall cleave unto his wife; and they shall be one flesh."
The implication of this bible phase is that when you cheat, you are not only cheating on your partner but your own flesh as well. That is why the period after the act is quite tormenting, and always leaves a direct negative impact in the relation, irrespective of whether the other partner is aware of the cheating or not.
If we follow the bible teachings, which also encourage us not to deny one another, the issue of cheating will not arise.
Normally there are times when one of the partner's libido is low but if we can talk and reason out our feelings for each other, we will be able to overcome or rather to bear with one another during those dry spells. Cheating because your partner has not satisfied you is cowardice and one way of admitting that the cheated partner has also the right to cheat if you don't satisfy them.
Unless there was no love in the first place (because love is patient, unconditional, undemanding etc) I do not see any reason why one should cheat.
I therefore encourage you to avoid it at any cost.
Do not contaminate yourself!!
2007-08-02 04:04:51 · answer #5 · answered by Kaka M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait so you feel that if a person cheats it's because of something their other did.
*snicker*
Now that is just silly. My friend cheater on her boyfriend cause she was drunk and felt like it.
Some people need no reason. Remember that. And if you are looking for a way to blame someone else for your oops....try again. If you have no sense control...and don't have the guts to break up with someone first....no sympathy to you. If you truly feel that way then I suggest letting your future partners know this is how you feel....ahead of time. I mean it's how you feel right....
*rolls her eyes*
I am sure they will understand.
2007-08-02 03:30:30 · answer #6 · answered by Dream V 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yeah well if the other spouse wasnt doing something right something should have been said...not taking action and going and sleeping with someone else thinking you will find it there! It is wrong no question about it!!
2007-08-02 03:29:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Classic scapegoating line of thought: "They made me do it..."
Here's how it works. YOU chose to go out and cheat. YOU chose to damage the relationship and break the trust your spouse had for you. YOU chose not to compromise or workout the issue with your spouse.
How is it the other spouse's fault? Because they aren't your sex slave and offer themselves whenever you're in the mood? Because they have their own feelings and goals they are busy trying to accomplish? Because sex with you isn't the center of their world?
How is it you spouse's fault that you have no self control and no respect for them or for the sacrifices they have had to make for your relationship to last this long? Afterall, YOU chose to do the immoral, not them.
And then you have the odacity to call them selfish...
2007-08-02 03:45:59 · answer #8 · answered by Ritz Grimarren 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Two wrongs don't make a right. Cheating is wrong. Unilaterally denying a partner access to sex or affection is also wrong. But neither justifies the other.
That said, what exactly does "cheating" mean? If someone is denied access to sex at home, s/he goes out to a professional and gets the sex s/he needs, but manages risks appropriately and remains committed to his or her partner, then that's one thing.
But if he (or she!) is out getting involved with other people in ways that compromise his or her commitment to their partner, or behaving in ways that introduce risk into his or her home, then that's another!
2007-08-02 03:37:19 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I guess your logic may help you not to feel guilty but really it's just sad.
Nothing good will ever come from your way of thinking. Goodbye.
2007-08-02 03:30:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is cheating.
2007-08-02 03:29:06 · answer #11 · answered by T W 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋