If you could tell someone who is your family / friend something mean that you wish they would know?

Question

If you could tell them how their voice is so annoying...or their cooking is so horrible.....what would you tell them

Think of someone whom you love / like...and wouldn't want to hurt their feelings...but you wish you could in some way tell them how you really feel about something.

Who would it be and what is it?

Answer 1

I would tell a friend that I don't feel like she really cares about me. She rarely asks me questions, rarely responds when I tell her something from the heart, and barely tells me anything about herself unless I ask her. When she's had interviews, I encouraged her and followed up on what happened. When I am going through things, she barely comments and doesn't get involved. She takes more of an intellectual approach and doesn't express her emotions, especially about me. When we hung out, it was because I initiated it. When we had open communication, it was because I initiated it. I'm not even an outgoing person but I initiated it because of what I thought our friendship meant to me! She's not encouraging or warm towards me. I bet if I never talked to her again, she wouldn't even try to contact me. Yeah...and I don't like how she talks in second person. She barely gets personal and that annoys me. By now, we should be closer than we really are. I think she takes things for granted...she rarely apologizes or gives good explanations for things when she's responsible. She doesn't see the little things in life...doesn't seem thankful. All the times I feel I've been there for her, I don't think she even cared.

As for another friend--she can't cook! The time she made chicken for me was thoughtful but the chicken tasted awful (there were still feathers...yuck!). This friend is also condescending and judgmental. She treats everyone like a speciman. She's also ungrateful, like she doesn't thank waiters in restaurants, she just expects service. And she projects her issues onto other people.

I'm glad you asked this question. Thank you! It is good to vent about these things. I wouldn't want to hurt my friends' feelings, especially about the chicken, but it's good to be able to get annoyances off my chest.

Answer 2

I would not tell them something so trival, life is too short to hurt someone's feeling because they don't cook the way you like, or can't help the way their voice sounds.
My advice would be to focus on the positive !

Answer 3

if you love them you should tell them because honesty is the best policy..
if its cooking then it my be a friend so i'll say something like i should ahow you a new method how to spice up that pot and teach them how to cook techincally without hurting their feelings....
with they voice being annouying...
that would mean its not just the voice its whats coming out!
so i''ll say there time and places for everything.