Every year my birthday's suck. My husband never gets me a present and he never takes my kids to get me one, he says every year he just didn't have time. He makes me a cake with the kids but big deal. I don't care if he takes the kids to the dollar store to get me something, it makes me feel bad and my kids feel bad for me because they have nothing for me. I never do that to him. Where's the respect???
2007-08-02 03:17:41 · 13 answers · asked by celexa 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
lots of husbands are like this. I really don't know why. I've chosen to just look past it because my husband is so great in just about every other way. If your kids are old enough give them some money and take them to the dollar store or wherever and let them pick it out and pay for it, then they just have to keep it hidden in the bag. Also someitmes I buy crafts stuff and do it with my kids on my birthday. Like one time I bought the stuff to make stepping stones and that way I would have one from each kid on my birthday. I agree with you that it sucks to have to do this yourself. But I thought it sets a great example to my kids that I don't complain or whine I find out ways to have fun myself! This year I am buying myself an ice cream cake from baskin robbins because I never even get a cake!
2007-08-02 03:25:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I don't know your husband, don't know enough about the other parts of your days. My feelings would be hurt if this happened every year. Some years we just simply haven't had the money for much, other times we have and he is as generous as he can be. I would tell my husband that I needed to talk about it. Ask him what he thinks about my birthday, about why he dosn't ever make a big deal of the day I was born and help celebrate with enthusiasm - ever - the day I was born.
2007-08-02 03:49:56 · answer #2 · answered by Rein 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While I was growing up I was religious and the religion I followed did not celebrate birthdays, so now that I no longer practise that religion I still don't really celebrate birthdays, having said that my b/f has never once bought me a birthday present or card. He cooks me dinner, but then he is a chef so he cooks dinner a lot lol....I don't care really, I get him a card and present on his birthday, I don't give presents to get presents back, but I would like a card....even a home made one would do.
2007-08-02 03:36:05 · answer #3 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget him on his birthday and give the kids some money and take them to buy your gift next year. Do this until the selfish man gets the hint. You don't do something to change things now, your birthday will forever be a day of torment for you.
2007-08-02 03:31:21 · answer #4 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there's a Smashing Pumpkins music talked approximately as To Forgive and it has a lyric that is going slightly somethin' like this: "I remember my birthdays. Empty undeniable previous afternoons. they gained't come returned."
2016-10-13 11:46:09 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow - I'll take a homemade cake over some junk from a store any day. Things made at home by hand are from the heart, it takes nothing to go pull something off a shelf.
You are an adult...your "need" for presents should have ended a long time ago. Your gift is your family...YOU are the one being disrespectful.
2007-08-02 03:27:24 · answer #6 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My boyfriends birthday is just a few weeks before mine. This year I threw him a little party and made him his favorite meal. I let him start financing a truck for his birthday and got him a gift certificate to autozone to buy stuff for it. I bought him an ice cream cake (his favorite) and went out drinking that night. On my birthday I went to work, came home and he was sleeping. So i cleaned the house, took my car to the carwash, made myself something to eat... and he was still there sleeping. He finally woke up, started playing his video game and said "oh, happy birthday by the way"..... so yeah, I don't know what guys problems are. It's not fair.
2007-08-02 03:24:51 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont really expect anything from my birthday b/c I dont work I cant get my husband anything either so it doesnt really bother me as long as he remembers and says happy birthday. But this year he was generous and bought me a new Rino!!
2007-08-02 04:29:43 · answer #8 · answered by hotmoma1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lack of consideration is what this is. Do the same to him. See how he feels if you don't get him anything for his birthday. Ask your kids to make him a card and gift. If he's not materialistic, he'll love their gifts.
2007-08-02 03:27:26 · answer #9 · answered by ron-D 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ignore his as* on his birthday, you have to give him a dose of his own medicine to put a stop to his selfish behavior to make him respect the date you were born on. It will seem hard, but I recommend doing this until he stops this pattern.
2007-08-02 03:24:36 · answer #10 · answered by Ms Cutie Pie 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋