I broke up w/ my ex 6 months ago beause he was verbally.mentally abusive. He has been contacting almost everyday via text/email/voicemail. I never responded to anything. I was madly in love with him but I couldnt be that woman who disrespects herself any longer. However, yesterday my doorbell rang and it was him. He showed up to tell me he was leaving the area. He acted so differeent (emotionally) than what he has said in his texts and emails. He was kind of on top of the world and non chalant.I gave him a hug good bye and some tears came out. He said hes only going to be 2 hrs away and hes coming back on weekends. I said thats good. He kept hugging me and then kissed me on the lips. He asked me to call him later last nite and I never did. He then sent me a text saying "hungry?" and I said no, just ate.. I dont know what to think of this. I still love him but I dont believe his feelings and im scared. i dont know why he does this when he hates me when Im with him..
2007-08-02 03:16:52 · 13 answers · asked by Kit Katt 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Stay away from him ! He will be abusive in the future, he is in his apology phase.
2007-08-02 03:21:32 · answer #1 · answered by Brer Buffalo 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Tell him well maybe it is just the men that change for number one nice guy that you think is going to share at least half of the resposbility to man that does nothing! Tell him sure I was sexy before the kids my body was nice and I felt good about myself but know that I have kids you don't feel the need to woo me anymore cause you already know I am not going anywhere so why impress me anymore. Plus when I gave birth to one child I gain another one to have to cook, clean, and take care of and that other one is you. Tell him if he wants sexy nices that is not raltive to real life go be single without you cause your life is devoted to being a mother not a whore. Sex isn't everything and what is he going to do at age 60 and he can't even get it up let alone have sex anymore should you say the things he said to you or still stick by his side. Then see what he has to say then. I feel for you girl my hubby says that same crap to me to and I tell him this and I also tell him that well it only turns me on to see you fold the clothes and take out the trash why don't you do that and maybe I will become more appealing to you.
2016-05-21 00:20:14 · answer #2 · answered by arminda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't believe him at all. I was in a very similar relationship in which my boyfriend was verbally and mentally abusive. After 10 months of dating, I came to my senses and dumped him. However, he would contact me 24/7 like your ex has. One day though he stopped contacting me. A few days later he contacted me, but in a completely different manner. He was calm, collected, and nonchalant, much like your ex. He said he was going to stop contacting me for good because he had realised how much pain he had caused me, etc. and even had the nerve to say I didn't have to forgive him. Still being in love him with, I got right back together him, believing he had changed. Wrong, completely wrong. He had faked it all just to get me back, and started to treat me horribly again so I had to dump him again. I know you still love him, but it's just a lie to get you back. You deserve so much more than him and you have to believe it. Just keep ignoring him like you have and you will get over him and realise he's a horrible person.
2007-08-02 03:31:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on dont even think of going back my x was the same way I left several times it never got better only worse. You dont need this crap. I was abused all the way and I dont want to see anyone go throught what I did.
2007-08-02 03:31:13 · answer #4 · answered by lyttledarlin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In two months, he won't be calling you anymore, and his weekend visits will be cut down to maybe twice a year. He'll make a different life where he's going, and he'll meet new people to mentally abuse.
Stay strong and keep living for yourself, instead of trying to figure out what this abuser is thinking.
2007-08-02 03:23:04 · answer #5 · answered by ron-D 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Could he still be trying to "control" you. My ex was that way & every time I trusted it, I found out that I was an idiot!! The one time I remember the most was my birthday after we split & he called me up at like midnight to ask me if I would come over & talk things over w/ him - "he changed," "he wanted me back." Well, I went over there alright & as soon as the door was shut, he locked it & came after me. I thought that was going to be my last birthday ever! Some how I got away from him & jumped off the deck. He apologized & asked me to come back in! I was running to the neighbor across the street as fast as someone that is hyperventalating (?) can run!! It was just his way of still trying to reel me in to hurt me again! I wouldn't trust it! Go w/ your gut!! And be safe!!!
2007-08-02 03:28:42 · answer #6 · answered by ♥bigmamma♥ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
People do not change, as much as we like to think they can or will. Stay away ... that is nothing but trouble waiting, he sounds like he is a stalker too. You may even want to think about a restraining order to keep him away.
Be careful and don't fall into the trap again.
2007-08-02 03:25:10 · answer #7 · answered by Answer Girl 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
only when the well runs dry then you miss the water..
question is:
do YOU think its alittle too late?
i believe people can change but if you give them too much room they will get comfortable and laps.
try starting over from the dating point so he'll respect u this time because he knows your strong now!
2007-08-02 03:28:19 · answer #8 · answered by sassy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweet Pea if you feel he hasn't changed than close that chapter of you life, Please don't entertain it when you know that is not what you want, it could be misleading to him. I thank God you love yourself enough to know what you want in life. You are very strong so do what you know is best, good luck and God bless!
2007-08-02 03:21:59 · answer #9 · answered by b n real 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
sounds like you need to move on. it's almost like he's trying to bait you by showing up and kissing you. don't fall for it. really, move on. you'll heal in due time. you're worth more than that. good luck
2007-08-02 03:21:36 · answer #10 · answered by Shrimpboat 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋