Why husband & wife start hating each other within few years of marriage ? especially after children?

Question

Wife’s don't like romance
Intercourse very rare
Always rejecting husbands
Married men masturbate more than bachelors

It is a universal truth that females always reject males.
But it becomes more after marriage and that too after few years.
There is a scientific research which says that two couples cannot love each other more than 3 years.
After those 3 years they start tolerating each other and compromise on their life.
When you reach this situation, it is the sense of humor and charming personalities succeed in creating some interesting moments.
MY SUGGESSION IS WHILE YOU MARRY; PLEASE SELECT SOME ONE WHO KNOWS TO SMILE. Moody people never change, don’t go by looks.

Answer 1

These are all my assumptions, as I'm new at this. But the wife is very busy taking care of her family, especially if she works, it's tiring, and it's hard to get in the mood, even if her husband is attentive. Then when she's not in the mood, or is too tired to preform, intercourse would be rare, and it would only occur to avoid a fight from her husband. Always is a strong word. I heard that women get turned on when their husbands help them out in the house, and i believe it because that will free her up and relax her, so then she will be in th mood and enjoy her husband, and let him enjoy her. If that doesn't occur, and there's no emotional connection, y would the wife want relations? Married men are bound by love, and a marriage decree to stay with their wife, and companion, so they have to be with her through thick and thin, no matter his sex drive, so for release, he has to help himself since he didn't want to help her. But bachelors, even in India, go and find women who are willing to have sex with them...either for money, or whatever. A faithful man who loves his wife and family will not do that to jepordize what he has just because he doesn;t get satisfied. This is just my opinion.

Answer 2

First both the couples should understand what LOVE is. There should be good understanding between wife and husband in all the matters. It should be noted that it is not just bore; there are other reasons which seems to be like bore. Sometimes wife may be busy, or husband may be busy in other commitments. So, they may not give priority to spend time with partner. This should not be misunderstood by opposite person. If the other person can understand then they will not think the partner is getting bored with them. There may be some other issues also. Like taking care of children, elders persons etc. There should be patience to the partner in these situations. If possible they should support the partner. There are other influences like friends, office colleagues, and neighbors. It is partner’s responsibility to take care to overcome from these influences. Instead of understanding the partner, if the other person is trying to dominate, argument or doing something which makes them irritate or hurt there it will create a gap between them. There are so many things like these which seems to be like similar way.

Answer 3

Very true! It takes a lot to make a marriage work and I think sometimes people don't know that going in. When two people are dating, they think it's love that they're feeling when it's really just lust on the way to love. Love doesn't come until two people have their problems and work through them. That point isn't reached until years of dating, and hopefully by that point two people could come to realize that good looks aren't the only thing that can make a marriage work.

Answer 4

One big issue after a woman has kids is she has trouble being both a mother and a lover. You need to give her time and help with the kids and do little things for her. Don't make her think sex is a chore and something you expect out of her. You need to make her want it again. she may just feel over whelmed, especially if she works and is the one taking care of the kids all the time. She needs you to help her out. Couples have to have date nights without the kids. You have to pay for a sitter and go out together. There is always an issue of people not being sexually compatible. All marriages don't just work. Either there is a compromise and oyu work it out or you just need to split. Don't cheat, she will take oyu for everything you have and oyu will loose your kids.

Answer 5

It is sad that this ought to happen after the arrival of children, but marriage is not a joke. Its a life long commitment. Husbands and wives start fighting because the marriages are arranged based on what the parents think is good for the children, when children know what is good for them children are not allowed to think for themselves, parents settle marriages of their children based on what they had to put up with in their lives and think on those grounds, they still think it through the lives of their own kids. It does not stop, and parents what to continue to live their lives through their children hence the children find it difficult to lead lives based on their parents choice.
Now coming to love marriages, many people do not understand the meaning of love, when two people are attracted to each other in a sexual level they believe it is love. sex is different and love is different. People have no idea who and what they want out of their own lives, there is not self awarness of their own feelings and who they are, if you dont know to love your own self then how are y ou going to love someone. You have to know how you like ot be treated, what your interests are, and what you expect out of your life, If two people who know them selves well and are clear of what they want in life, it is easy for people to understand the other and the impact it has if this drive is stopped. Couples have to understand that bringing up children is the responsibility of both father and mother, if one is loaded with responsibility because the gender role demands it, it is unfair, if a man can give a sperm a women also gives an ova! So the responsibility lies with both, then why is it only a womans job to take care of the children? Besides in a relationship of love there is growth, respect, and care for both the people involved in this relationship. Men will mastubate because a wife does not enjoy hs touch, he has to ask himself what is it that she is repelled by him? A women is not an object for sex, she needs love, respect, and acknowledgement that she is a person who has aspirations and desires and also has her own life goals. When there is an imbalance in a relationship then men will naturally have to mastubate. For a woman sex is expression of love, for a women romance is a lot more, its not candle light dinner like the commercial, how can she be romantic when the man enjoys everything not having sex with him is the only way she can exercise control.

Answer 6

I don't know, I'm pretty happy with my husband after 6 years of marriage and 2 kids (and a third on the way). Why don't you ask your wife what's wrong?
Is she tired looking after the kids and doing the housework? Don't you help her out enough? Keeping the marriage going strong requires effort from both of you, and lots of communication.

Answer 7

Uhav a misunderstanding regarding marital life. It does not happen in every case though exceptions are everywhere. It depends upon the attitude they are having with eachother. As every coin has its two side so as the marital life.

Answer 8

Just go for a long holiday and try to work things out without the kids

Answer 9

Because they should never have gotten married in the first place.

Just because you have a marriage license doesn't mean you understand how to be married.

It's very sad if you really think your question is the truth.

Answer 10

because they are not religious.
if they fear god almighty and live according to the commandments of quran and the teachings of Muhammad(pbuh) then they will never fight.
as Muhammad(pbuh) said when you marry a girl marry with a religious girl.

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