Last night She said i was looking at another Girl in the bar. She would not talk to me last night or this morning before She left for the office. i apologized last night and this morning and said i was sorry it seemed that way, but that i was not looking at anyone else but Her.
She flirts alot and even lets other guys sit by Her, buy Her drinks, and talks with them...
She knows that i completely belong to Her, yet She acts so jealous. What can i do?
2007-08-02 01:31:59 · 15 answers · asked by sAm cbt 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
she loves you for that she is jealouse on you , you can get her a nice flower or a present take her to a nice romantic dinner , care about nothing exept her , and see how she will act .
2007-08-02 01:45:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She has control and insecurity issues. The only one that can fix that is her. She seeks attention from other men to reaffirm she is attractive, but still isn't convinced, so when she thinks you are looking at other women, it makes her feel like she's not good enough for you. So she gets upset. It's self destructive on her part.
You also have to get a back bone. Why is it OK with you for her to flirt and get drinks from other men? That could be part of the problem too. You are letting her act out of control to avoid a confrontation. She may feel like since you don't say anything about these other men, that you don't care about her.
It sounds like a whole lot of game playing and miscommunication going on.
2007-08-02 08:39:02 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No girl likes to see their man eyeing another chick, but this girl seems a little possesive. You need to let her know that having other guys buy her drinks and flirting with them is innapropriet..even moreso than you just looking at another girl.
She needs to realise that looking is just looking as long as there's nothing behind it...there's really no threat. If you don't talk to her about this, it's only going to continue. I would have put my foot down by now. It's completely 2 faced, you can have someone do what you want and then go and do the complete opposite!
2007-08-02 08:37:24 · answer #3 · answered by Marissa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop apologizing. If you truly feel you did nothing wrong then saying I'm sorry just makes her think she is right. When she acts this way tell her that it bothers you and until she grows up...you don't want to talk to her. She will eventually understand that her behavior is not acceptable and over time it will get better.
2007-08-02 09:01:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend is insecure as others have said because of both her jealousy and need for attention by guys other than you. This is not a good sign for a long-term relationship. She will be controlling of you and put your relationship in danger by her walking a fine line in toying with other men. Eventually, their friendly attention will not be enough and she will have an affair to "fix" her insecurity. This is a worst case scenario unless she grows up.
2007-08-02 08:43:48 · answer #5 · answered by Wolfithius 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look up definition and traits of passive aggressive.
She condemns you, but turns around and does the same things, and usually worse. Basically just to get back at you. Very vindictive. Very controlling, and two faced. Gets mad and blows up, then sulls up and then spends alot of energy doing things to hurt you. They expect totally forgiveness for the crap they dish out and want to hold any and everything against you. Even for things you didn't do, just what they think you done. Sounds like the same crap I get from my wife. (will soon be divorcing.)
2007-08-02 10:05:05 · answer #6 · answered by Keeper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first husband was very jealous. He was cheating. i really beleive that if you are a cheater you think everyone else is doing it too. She sounds like she has to be the center of attention. I would advise moving on. It will only get worse. Especially if you marry and have kids. That makes every woman question things and go nuts :)
2007-08-02 08:49:39 · answer #7 · answered by browneyedgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She seems very insecure. Either that or she a controlling person. Does she control you in other ways (e.g. picking what bar you go to, what movies you see, etc.)?
Its good the two of you talked it out, but it sounds like she has some issues there. Be supportive of her, but make sure she at least tries to admit that she has these issues.
Good luck.
2007-08-02 08:36:46 · answer #8 · answered by Tim 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She sounds immature. All men look, women are beautiful. But once the look is over thats it. My husband looks all the time and its okay. I am confident and trust him. Besides I look and its all innocent. If she is a flirt sounds like she may be trying to make you jealous. She shouldn't be this way its only going to make you uncomfortable going anywhere with her. I would ask her if she wants you to wear blinders.
2007-08-02 08:42:00 · answer #9 · answered by Maria 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend shouldn't be flirting with other guys, letting them buy her drinks, or sit with her. You guys need to stop going out to bars and clubs-it's so boring anyway. Go do something more interesting and fun like camping, white water rafting, sight seeing, etc.... Bars and clubs are for single people.
2007-08-02 08:37:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably nothing. It's her own insecurity showing through. That's something she has to fix on her own, assuming that you don't have a history of cheating on her. Wanting other guys to give her attention, is a sign that she needs her ego stroked.
Ultimately, I think you are going to have to figure out how much of this you can put up with.
2007-08-02 08:35:53 · answer #11 · answered by i_have_cheese_dreams 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋