2007-08-01 23:55:24 · 16 answers · asked by curiouscarp88 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Sometimes it's hard to accept compliments. Insecurity plays a bigger role in accepting them (compliments) than you might think. example 1. If you tell someone they look "really great in that outfit",they may feel that their 'other' outfits must make them look crappy, as no one commented on 'them'. example 2. If you tell someone they are a totally cool person to be around, they may feel it would be wrong to just say "thanks", because they feel it would be like saying "I know I'm cool to be around" (no one likes an egotistic person) Perhaps if you start the compliment by saying " I feel " or " I think" ... like "I think you're a great listener", then the focus would be on you, and not them, and it would be easier for them to accept the compliment. Shy, insecure people do not like being the center of attention, usually. I hope this helps. I think you are a caring person, who wants your friends to know how you feel about them.
2007-08-02 00:15:41 · answer #1 · answered by Emjay 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Flattering statements may not be real...one may think...hummmm what are they up too? But a true compliment is heard and felt and a very nice thing both both to hear!! Give a random compliment a day and keep the Devil Away.....you can even give the Devil a compliment....what a HARD WORKER..works over time
2007-08-09 04:23:18 · answer #2 · answered by kdwcnliz2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on your culture I think and how confident you feel. I know as a New Zealander and also Australians in my culture it is often very difficult to take compliments and talk about how proud we are of ourselves because it is seen as bragging or being uncaring and into yourself. Sometimes people just dont believe the compliment and so can't accept it or have trouble accepting it, and other have the confidence or just know that is better to just accept it and feel flattered.
2007-08-02 00:30:01 · answer #3 · answered by ♪ Rachel ♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are just modest and don't like getting attention. And when they receive a compliment, they just kinda blush and are like, "no...not me."
Then, you have those people who have low self esteem, so of course if you try saying anything nice about them, they won't believe you.
And my personal favorite, are those who have what is called "fake modesty" and they attempt to look like they either have low self esteem, or they are modest. What they are really doing is fishing for a compliment, or asking you to keep complimenting them.
Don't worry...it's really easy to tell the difference between everyone.
2007-08-03 05:31:19 · answer #4 · answered by Honesty 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
People are different, therefore different reactions. Whatever reasons to shy away, i promise you inside the compliments make them feel good...
2007-08-07 04:55:40 · answer #5 · answered by Olga M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is that some people don't think they are worthy of praise and so shy from it. Now the others want all the praise they can get and beg for more. It is the nature of the beast within man.
2007-08-09 17:53:49 · answer #6 · answered by Coop 366 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
self confidence is a killer. Its hard to accept compliments when you dont think that people know the real you. If they did, they probably wouldnt be so....complementing.
2007-08-09 22:28:34 · answer #7 · answered by Jackie B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've not gotten a lot of compliments (or encouragement) in your life, it can't be anything but uncomfortable when you do get them. You don't know quite how to respond.
2007-08-08 07:31:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure. But I am a Very attracrive blonnde haired woman. But. I so can't handle compliments.
2007-08-09 16:19:08 · answer #9 · answered by Audrey V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ohh I like compliments when I get them, they make me feel good about myself.
2007-08-07 23:33:03 · answer #10 · answered by VelvetRose 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋