2007-08-01 20:21:52 · 35 answers · asked by NoLongerHere 7 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Confused... and that is how I feel right now. I just don't know what to do. Everyone tells me I need to move on, but my heart and my love for him beg me to stay... I think I am gonna tear all my hair out by the end of the week. Dammit!
2007-08-01 20:25:05 · answer #1 · answered by Bunny Boiler 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
In the beginning it was just longing and wonder trying to figure out if I was doing the right thing. It was simply a dull pain. Over time the longing grew stronger and the wonder more like an obsession. The dull pain has turned to heartache that makes the will to get out of bed like a battle from the civil war. I wear my fake smile like a fake golden crown almost proud to be able to pull off such a hideous scam. Every night I lie awake unable to sleep due to the ever powering thoughts of what ifs. Days have turned to weeks then to months now on to years. It's said time heals all wounds however to keep picking at the scab only delays the process of healing.
2007-08-01 20:33:44 · answer #2 · answered by Allie400 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, very conflicted. But I think we grow up dealing with this problem from the time we are toddlers. We want something..... badly, but we know we can't have it. When we are two, we throw temper tantrums. We don't understand WHY we can't have it. We don't have the means to think and reason through what is best for us at the time, so our parents are there to make those decisions for us. If they do this in the proper way, they instill those values in us so that as we grow a little older we can say at 7 years old, "I really want a piece of candy right now, but it'll spoil my supper won't it?"
By the time we become 13, we are all over the place. Funny how hormonal changes in our bodies can make us forget all logic and live by the heart. But this is that stage where we have to fall down and hit bottom a few times, so that we understand how to pick ourselves back up on our own. It's a tough age because we are a "tweener." We try to do it on our own, but our parents are there standing in the wings in case we need to fall back on them.
So that by high school we're making more of our own decisions based on what our mind is telling us is right vs. what our heart may always say. Our parents start telling us less..... and we hold the burdens ourselves as we enter into the college years.
So finally, when we are on our own...... we still run into heart vs .mind conflicts. And as an adult now I still beat myself up over decisions such as these. And that's where the wisdom of our memories and experiences help us reason out that it is time to follow the mind. Your mind wouldn't be sending you signals if it didn't know from the past how things would work out. Your whole life's history has made that clear.
I find that when I do as my mind is telling me..... whatever I am leaving behind with my heart...... understands, realizes and reasons through things in a way that will always set my heart at ease too. In the end.... it all works for the best.
2007-08-01 23:55:58 · answer #3 · answered by Marianne not Ginger™ 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
try to look at things logically and see which is most logical to do. I stayed with my ex for a long time cause i felt i couldn't make it on my own when we finally split he was the one that left and i had to find a way and i did and i'm a better person for it. But if there is something worth fighting for in whatever your heart is telling you to stay then keep fighting but once you don't care its really time to go.
2007-08-01 20:27:39 · answer #4 · answered by snail 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no such duality like heart and mind but the duality of thought from same source,One is based on logic or rationality and the other on intuition or gut feeling[some past experience or so].When both are combined successfully,a decision is likely to be the best under the circumstances.
2007-08-01 20:29:42 · answer #5 · answered by brkshandilya 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usual what we think is what is right for us to do in times like these, though the feelings are hard to let go of, it is better in the long run for both mind and soul to do what your mind is telling you to do.
2007-08-01 21:32:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You and he have not been in a monogamous relationship for the completed quantity of your relationship with this guy. he's not a one lady guy. He enjoys balancing 2 or greater relationships consistently. in case you prefer a ingredient time husband which you proportion with others, then you certainly can stay with him as long as he does not replace YOU with somebody else. in case you prefer a dedicated husband, this guy isn't the only. He has assist you to be attentive to who he's with the aid of his refusal to end it with the different lady.
2016-10-19 08:45:19 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I feel torn, of course. So then I just have to pray about the situation, and then do whatever gives me the most peace.
Good luck with whatever you're going through.
2007-08-01 20:24:31 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs.Fine 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sorry, made me think of the song, "should I stay or should I go now, if I stay there will be trouble, if I go there...." oh well....
2007-08-01 23:41:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I always go with my heart, it makes me feel better.
2007-08-01 20:24:40 · answer #10 · answered by #1 Girl -She's Bittersweet- 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋