My fiance and are trying to figure out how to break the news to his parents that we are getting married, and that he will be moving in with me two months before our marriage. He lives with his parents right now, and although his parents acept me...they are weary of him getting hurt. Should we tell them boht things at once or would it be better to tell them Sunday that we are getting married and then tell next sunday(the day before he moves out) that he is moving in with me?
2007-08-01 20:13:29 · 7 answers · asked by GodsGrl4Real 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He's an adult, and his parents need to let him go. I can understand their worried about him getting hurt etc....it's a part of life. Life isn't perfect and his parents need to realize he's an adult and they can't keep being his safety net forever. They sound like overbearing parents, watch out. And you may as well drop both bombs at one time and kill two birds with one stone. Why prolong it? I really don't see what the big deal is if both of you are adults and aren't depending on anyone else to pay your rent, your bills, or anything else.
2007-08-01 20:18:34 · answer #1 · answered by glittereyedg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them. It shouldn't be that hard.
As for the moving in together thing, parents can be really dim about that. In their day things were different, couples living together was not the norm and was frowned upon. If you look at older statistics you'll see that living together first increased risks of divorce. It's not like that anymore, but parents will still worry, especially those who have nutty religiously dictated morals. Oh no, living together means you're having sex!!
You don't have to tell them about living together really. Can't he say he's moving in with some buddies or something? We all do it. It's not a judgemental parents business where his or her adult offspring choose to live or who lives there, unless the parents are paying rent.
2007-08-02 03:21:18 · answer #2 · answered by skunk pie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them about the marriage first... and once things get settle down a little then slowly move his stuff to your place... Or make your fiance stay over at your place more often.
2007-08-02 03:16:57 · answer #3 · answered by aUDREy TTT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May i ask - how old are you both? Is there any chance or anything which you think his parents might not approve?
If they are just being overprotective, then i think it would be better if your boyfriend were the first to tell them of your plans. It is also up to him to tell them that he has made the decision to marry you & to stick by you. If you are both adults, i think his parents will have to accept it that it is his decision & give you their blessings. :-)
2007-08-02 06:09:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your fiance: Oh... by the way... did you hear who's getting married?
His parents: No, who? Is it Nicole Ritchie & that Josh guy?
Your fiance: No, actually "Emily" is getting married (substitute with your real name).
His parents: Who? Who's that? Wait... Which Emily?
Your fiance: Mine.
That's how I told my mom she was going to be a grandma and it was fun/funny.
2007-08-02 03:20:48 · answer #5 · answered by Mickey Mouse Spears 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the parents happily that you are getting married, but don't shack up before you get married...
2007-08-02 09:25:05 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hit 'em w/ the marriage thing first so they don't freak out about the shackin'
2007-08-02 03:16:57 · answer #7 · answered by rumblecookie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋