My wife doesn't have the same sex drive as me. She usually gives in but when she doesn't I can't help from getting mad. She never initiates sex. When I ask why she doesn't she tells me it is because I want it so much that she doesn't get a chance. She may initiate sex once a month. I told her I was going to have to get a girlfriend because she can't keep up. She was not amused. I just wish she wanted me like I want her, I could be happy and secure. What's my problem?
2007-08-01 19:45:18 · 13 answers · asked by Eric S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Its not a marriage curse!!!
Some women don't need sex all the time.
In my case i wish my partner would initiate it more. But i guess he doesnt get a chance to either. I believe a healthy sex life promotes a healthy love life. I go crazy if i go two days without. My suggestion - set the scene. Run her a bath. All day foreplay. Write he suggestive msg's and get her in the mood so when you get home from work she can't go a second longer without you two having sex. Make it fun for her. Make sure she is pleased too!!! BIG TOPIC FOR ALL MEN. THINK OF YOUR PARTNER TOO!!!!
2007-08-01 19:58:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Learn to please yourself. Stop equating sex with love. Sex is not love. Just because she's not interested in sex with you every single day doesn't mean that she doesn't love you. You are seriously disrespecting yourself, your wife and your marriage by getting 'mad' when she's not in the mood for sex and insisting that the only way you can feel secure is though daily sex.
Your sex drive isn't too high, but your attitudes about sex and your relationship are far from healthy. You need therapy, perhaps bring the wife along.
2007-08-01 19:57:04 · answer #2 · answered by skunk pie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have been married for 11 years. We've had sex probably 5 days a week, sometimes everyday for those 11 years. I too don't initiate it as much as my husband would like. Sometimes women are not good at that like you would like us to be. Remember, women like conversation, hugging, all that stupid stuff, lol. Try some of these things before sex.
2007-08-01 20:00:22 · answer #3 · answered by Buttons 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i have only been married for 5 years and i know you asked for 10 yaers but for a while i just didnt want sex and hubby did the way we got over it was talking and even though i still go though it time to time as long as we talk and understand each other everthing is ok my advise is to talk to her find out what is going on if anything let her talk it out and you just be there for her it may be a personal thing or something could be wrong between you and her from her end or her health you will never know until you talk to her let her know you love her and she is the only one for you because telling her you are going to get a girlfriend because she cant keep up is very hurtful if she is feeling low about herself
2007-08-01 19:55:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
ive heard this before over and over let them say what they want men and women are not the same like i tell my old man its not my fault your ding ding gets a twich and you feel you have to ack on it . take care of it your self. sit and watch a dirty move and then come to me not my problem to me men have sex all day with the eye and mind .one more thing was you have sex all the time be for you meet her. if so why did you marrie and hatfull talk wont help and i thank some folks lie alot to ....
2007-08-01 20:08:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive been married for almost 14years and we dont have sex everyday. I think you are so selfish telling your wife that you are wanting to get a girlfriend. Do you still expect for her to give you sex after hearing that. Im suprised that she is still with you. And if she was not amused I would wonder why.
2007-08-01 19:54:18 · answer #6 · answered by Esperanza 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Eric,
Perhaps you should learn the gentle art of foreplay and or cunnilingus, then maybe she would be as keen as you. You are making trouble for yourself with idle threats of other woman. Make her feel secure and happy and she shall do the same for you.
2007-08-01 19:55:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
damn i swear u sound just like my man!!!!!!!!!seriously u men need to stop it with that sh*t!!!!we have children to take care of and a house to keep clean for u guys!!!and of course the food we gotta cook!!! i mean havent u noticed though that when u do get it from ur wife and feels so much better than when ur getting it everyday???i mean it gets boring when u do it everyday!
2007-08-01 19:54:56 · answer #8 · answered by khristina t 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
sex daily makes you feel secure? it's time to see a doctor, your sex drive is too high.
2007-08-01 19:50:03 · answer #9 · answered by Discovery 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
are you sure that your wife loves you?
maybe that's because she dont love you no more..
but still...i know someone just ke you who want sex not just nce but twice a day...
2007-08-01 19:54:46 · answer #10 · answered by crucifix 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋