Am I depressed or just plain lazy??

Question

A lot of people think I am lazy but I wasn't always so idle. I have gone through a divorce (husband left for someone else), NASTY custody battle, I am BROKE no matter how hard I work because I pay for daycare, I'm sick a lot, I am living with my mom and mean-@ss step-dad until the divorce is final. I am sad all the time. I do take good care of my kids but that's about it. I don't feel like doing anything anymore. My mom talks about me being lazy and that makes me feel even worse. I feel like I am on the verge of dying from all this sorrow. Am I just lazy and making excuses?? How can I brake free from this?

Answer 1

I definitely think you're depressed. You are going through so much right now, and I'm sorry that you're sad. I would be sad too!. Moving back in with your mom (and mean step-dad) is a total shocker after you have lived on your own. If I were feeling that way I would go talk to my doctor and also look for a therapist. Good luck hun!

EDIT: Anyone who has truly been depressed knows that you can't just snap out of it. It is completely draining mentally and physically. Sometimes people need help and that's okay. You are not lazy.

Answer 2

I would say that you have had a rough patch in your life and it would be very natural for you to be feeling down and out. You would need a psychologist to diagnose you as depressed , so it would not be a bad idea to meet with one. Also, if you were depressed or are simply feeling blue, a sympton would be feeling down and out as well as being lazy. I would say you are not simply lazy but are recovering from a difficult and possibly traumatic time and you are still not in the healing stage( as it is not resolved and there seems to be not end in site). Good luck and take care of yourself.

Answer 3

It sounds as though you are suffering from the effects of a major life event which have put you into a state of depression. How serious that may be is for a professional to determine. I know how serious depression can be because several years ago my wife was diagnosed with severe depression, and believe me it is almost as heart rending to watch someone you love go through the experience as it is to be the victim yourself. Fortunately, she was able to get psychiatric treatment and drug therapy before things became too unmanageable. She still has occasional bouts of melancholy, but things are now much improved.

Go see your doctor and tell him or her about your feelings. They may refer you to a psychiatrist or psychologist or both, who can more definitively diagnose and treat your problem. In the meantime, try to stay as upbeat as possible and associate with sympathetic family and friends as well. They can often help to ameliorate the effects of depression. Good luck!

Answer 4

With all of those things going on in your life, who has the strenght to jump around, be active and happy? You sound like you're depressed. I went through a few of the situations you've mentioned and hell yes I was depressed. I did nothing but lay around the house when I wasn't at work and take care of my kids. What I started doing was focusing on more positive things and remembering that my current situation is NOT a permanent one. I began exercising and focusing on my children, taking them places like the zoo, the movies, or other fun places. It was nice. The kids will pick up on your behavior, and although they probably won't say much it can affect them. One thing I have learned in life is that un-happiness doesn't come at us, it comes FROM us. We are all responsible for what we get out of life. I don't believe in the whole excuse "I was dealt a bad hand". Pick yourself up. I would highly recommend counseling too. Yes it's cliche, but speaking from experience, it helped me a lot. It gave me new perspectives on my life, on myself, and gave me tons of insight. It will be good for the kids too to see mom happy again. Try going out with friends too. I found that a night out with the girls dancing did me some good. I even found a boyfriend who I've been happily with for the last 2 1/2 years.

Good luck to you. Don't let life tear you down. It passes us by so fast as it is, so enjoy it before you find yourself like this in more years to come.

Answer 5

It is depression sweetie and nothing to be ashamed of.
Everyone gets depressed at some point in their lives.
A doctor can help. Medication like Lexapro can make things easier. You'll feel better and will be a more active mom too.
Your husband is an asshole. Don't let him ruin your life anymore. See a doctor.
Good luck and God bless.

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Answer 6

You just have to motivate yourself. You just gotta wake up one day, slap yourself in the face, look in the mirror and say "Wow im a slob I need to grow up. Im such a loser" then use that to motivate you. Go to school, get a good job. Even if you dont get a job and move out, your parents will be happy that your going to school, to get a great job. Just set your eyes on a goal and dont let anyone ruin it.

Answer 7

You are having your 'valley experience'. Life is difficult as you are know doubt aware, the most difficult part is still to come as you start to take charge and make things happen. Good luck with your future and all it holds.

Answer 8

you are depressed and plain lazy.you should try looking for a better job that serves you right.and you need a best friend to console and advice you to overcome your deppresion.

Answer 9

well seems to me like your depressed......


theres one thing you can do, try doing things that make you happy i know it sounds dumb or obvious, but try things that make you not think about all the sad moments that are happening in your life, this will not make you careless but i will give you streangth trust me :)

Answer 10

you are depressed. If necessary, seek professional help (cousellors)

check out these site to get some answers.

http://www.integrativepsychiatry.net/Depression.html

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