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I just found out that my wife has a lover when I discovered a video of her and him on our computer. She was engaged in the wildest sex acts imaginable, things that she had never wanted to do with me. I know she always loved me but only wanted traditional, conservative sex. Now I'm perplexed and confused. I've heard of wives going crazy with another before but never understood why, particularly with strangers which is what this guy in the video clearly appeared to be.

2007-08-01 19:13:38 · 20 answers · asked by JustFoundOut 1 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

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because doin what they wont do with you is a way of hurting you more. or it could just be that she doesnt feel comfortable with you in that way. it might embarrass her with a stranger she can be a new person and wont have to deal with the questions. or this is a good one maybe she is doin it for money.

2007-08-01 19:17:32 · answer #1 · answered by razorblade romance 4 · 0 0

Wild Cheating Wives

2016-12-10 12:39:55 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

maybe she didnt want you to be part of this "nastier" side of her, you seemed shocked by what you saw so i guess she was right not to involve you in her fantasy. obviously the need for a lover mean that there must have been a lack of some kind from her part or maybe just curiosity. talk to her about it and she can probably give you a better understanding of the situation.

2007-08-01 19:18:30 · answer #3 · answered by mr b 4 · 1 0

All i will say is that once you're a superb husband then it particularly is a gaggle of B.S. although, i think of you ought to discover out the total tale in the back of that assertion. Has she carried out it in the previous and is basically now asserting this? i don't be responsive to your complete tale yet my spouse will do something for me because of the fact she loves me. I of direction sense a similar way approximately her. although, if i grew to become into on your situation and he or she grew to become into attempting to apply it as a capability play it can be a diverse tale. i could then supply up doing specific issues for her and tell her how she does not deserve it. possibly then she would have the capacity to get the hint.

2016-11-10 23:56:14 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

just a guess, but women are urged so to speak from a very young age, to be prim and proper, and to be June Cleaver (leave it to beaver) wife/mother..so sometimes they feel dirty , or wrong, or not living up to expectations, if they were to be who they really are out of fear of being a disappointment to anyone, parents, husband, children etc.. So instead a person (not only women) will let their real self show to strangers because they dont have to worry about expectations or having to impress, because they never have to see them again , so what they think doesnt matter.

That would be my best guess.

2007-08-01 19:19:11 · answer #5 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 1 0

well the first thing i would do is make a copy of the video - then go see a lawyer an file for divorce - if she is unreasonable in any way during the proceedings - post the damn video on the internet - then go out and look for someone that will be as wide as you want - with you

2007-08-01 19:19:09 · answer #6 · answered by lancej0hns0n 4 · 0 0

Sometimes in a life we tend to be people that we are not,,,,meaning,,,sometimes we try to put on this air that we are the good little homemaker,,,and make everyone around us think that we have the picture perfect marriage when in fact we are screaming,,,,UGH!!! These things that you seen your wife doing are not just spontaneous,,,or he made her,,they are the inner desires of her heart,,to be wild and free things that she for some reason held in with you ,,,and that comes from not being honest with herself and you,,,they are things that she has thought of doing,,being naughty and dirty,,being a bad girl,,sometimes we need to step out of ourselves and be someone else,,and she needs to do that with you,,not with others,,,if she is doing this now she will do it later also,,and continue to do this to others,,until she is honest with her self and admits who she really is,,it is ok to be naughty and dirty sometimes,,and have the occasional Fu***ing session,,that is where the passion and heat of love come in,,,and it needs to be done with you and not someone she has no connection with ya know,,,now what you need to do is ask yourself ,,,if this is the person that you married is the one for you,,,is she honest and is she going to be able to open up to you like she did him,,,no is the answer,,,or she would have already done it,,,and not with someone else,,,your marriage is based on alot of dis-trust and lies,,,and deception,,,she did not trust that you would accept her for her,,and did not believe in your faith in her to just be her self,,,which is a disaster waiting to happen,,,that is why the divorce rate is so high,,,people are not honest and we all have a false perception of what people think we should be instead of being who we are,,,and that is what she has done,,,you need to let it go and move on,,find someone that is honest and trust you and trusts enough in themselves to know that you will accept them for who they are,,and accpets themselves for the lover they are,,,,until she does this it will be nothing but heartache for her and you,,and whoever else is involved,,,and that is not a happy marriage or future,,,but that is a decision only you can make it is what you can stand to take and deal with as the years follow,,,and ya know sometimes it takes a complete stranger to see something in front of you that you fail to see,,,,,,,,,,

I wish you luck and hope you find what you are looking for,,and maybe she will too,,,when you love someone you do not hurt them and betray them like she has,,so when she says I'm sorry I love you and i just don't know what I was doing,,,don't fall for it just because of your heart,,listen to your head and think,,,she did know what she was diong,,,it takes two people,,and if she looked like she was enjoying it,,,it is because she WAS!!!!

2007-08-02 05:58:46 · answer #7 · answered by Daphne F 2 · 0 0

First let me say I am sorry this happened to you! I think people who do things like that are not honest enough to say what they really want or they want their cake and eat it to. Your wife's behavior is appalling and if she wanted to be a liitle wild she should have came and talked to you about being wild with her. I wish you the best, no one deserves to find a video of their loved one with another person.

2007-08-01 19:18:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

She has issues about her sexuality. It's probably due to an anti-feminist/misogynistic upbringing. Women are pressured to be 'good girls' and to be proper ladies with their husbands. Women are even taught that they're not to enjoy sex. I remember in my abstinence classes, we women were told that 'Men have sex because it feels good for them, but women have sex out of love. You have to wait for marriage!" It's sick yes?

Well, women are trained to only 'make love' to their husbands. It's supposed to be nice and emotional. If she does anything to 'naughty' she'll be too distracted with her multiple orgasms to think about how romantic and loving everything is. She is taught to feel guilty about physical pleasures. She cheats because she's a lying ****, but she does those 'nasty' things with the other guy because she doesn't love him and therefore she is free to do what she pleases. It's sick, but that's abstinence training and traditional gender roles for you.

2007-08-01 19:24:18 · answer #9 · answered by skunk pie 5 · 1 0

Man! If you are serious, you gotta get back at her... Hire 5 escorts (money isnt the issue!) and indulge in an orgy with them and tape it.... put the date on your recorder like 6.02.2002 like it happenned way back then... And make sure to say every 5 minutes... oh you are so much better than my wife! Make sure she sees it... It sounds far fetched but you OWE it to all of us to teach that biiitch a lesson!

2007-08-01 19:26:42 · answer #10 · answered by Ronnie 2 · 2 0

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