I am dating a man that is going thru the tailend of his divorce. I want some men who have gone thru this to give me some insight as to what he is going thru.
I want to know some of the things that he might be going thru....
2007-08-01 19:04:33 · 7 answers · asked by Mitch 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
1. Marriage failed due to once the lust/sex faded, they had nothing in common. They didn't like each other as people.
2. I know that he is not ready for a commmitted relationship, so I am laying low for now. We talk a lot and occassionally get romantic with each other. But I am not putting any pressure on him right now.
3. He is waiting on post-ponment after post-ponement on these court dates that she keeps getting pushed back. So he is ready to get it over with. It is eating at him.
4. She is already living in "my guy's house" with the new boyfriend and his kids. So maybe he will get out of alimony. Who knows.
2007-08-01 19:23:36 · update #1
I started to date my husband towards the end of his divorce. When I say that I mean a month before it was final. I know that your question wasn't directed towards people like myself and you, but I felt compelled to answer. My husband's ex just wanted the marriage to be over until she found out that he was dating again like her. She started calling and emailing him wanting him back. After the divorce, she wanted visitation rights with the dog she abandoned 6 months prior. He walked on eggshells towards the end of the divorce for fear that she would drag it out to make him miserable. My advice to you is to be patient and understanding. I did not bad mouth her no matter how much I wanted to. I certainly tried not to nag him when she called or emailed. he has enough things to think about(refinancing house/car, insurance). But you will be surprised how an new girlfriend will make the ex spouse feel/act. Good luck to you and him.
2007-08-01 19:59:09 · answer #1 · answered by Lily 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a great question, but where do you start? It really is important to try to find out WHY he is divorced. What happened? Right now, he may want to talk a lot about the divorce. That's pretty natural. However, understand this, he may not be ready for a serious relationship right now. People need time to recover. I would also hope that he is getting some counseling to help cope with the divorce. When I got a divorce, a counselor told me that over 90% of second marriages fail because there was no corrections made from the first marriage.
2007-08-01 19:13:33 · answer #2 · answered by Gary M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
often, interior the final public of situations - the guy is getting a divorce by using fact he stumbled on a youthful lady who wouldn't have toddlers and that they get a sprint condominium someplace and shuttle mutually. He gets entire freedom. they have not got commonplace accountability for the infants any extra and would roam unfastened as a chicken. the female on the different hand has all of the accountability for the great abode, the infants the vehicle and despite and he or she's so busy she hasn't have been given time to even dream of looking a clean guy. maximum potential dates turn her down by using fact she's so tied down with young ones and the abode and the vehicle and the money! Your venture is obviously no longer this venture - notwithstanding it somewhat is the venture of the adult males i comprehend who break up. Their high quality of existence is going by the roof by using fact they have all of their freedom back. maximum adult males searching for a divorce have not got any morals or judgment of right and incorrect to hold them back the two. the female on the different hand has much less help with all of the accountability. yet interior the long term, those adult males locate no longer something yet an empty existence devoid of individual who somewhat loves them or has any appreciate for them. So for a time - their high quality of existence is great - yet long term - they're people who somewhat lose.
2016-10-01 05:53:50 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
going thru the tail end of a divorce.... don't date someone in that situation he needs a break. If you want to date a divorce man , he at least should be divorce for about 2 years. Anything below that is such messy!!
2007-08-01 19:10:06 · answer #4 · answered by Rosie_M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That all depends on the circumstances!!!I was hurt,confused lonely, but I knew it would be OK!!! I became a work ahollic,(company)I was with,loved me!! I worked 6/7 days a week,for 8 months, and started dating, again!!!After about 200 different girls, I almost settled for the wrong one!!! Just give him alot of room,and great SEX!!! He may be back!!!!!!!
2007-08-01 19:17:27 · answer #5 · answered by happywjc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tail end is the defining time....alot goes through ones mind...its now or never...is this what I really want...can this be fixed...have I given this all my attention ....am I rushing this...is it cheaper to keep her...I had a gf during my separation...and broke it off just to have a clear head to make sure this is what I wanted ...So basically what I am saying is be understanding if he is distant right now...it might not be that he is having second thoughts but its making sure his thought are well thought out.
2007-08-01 19:09:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
divorced people never take any other relationships seriously cause they WERE DIVORCED!!
2007-08-01 19:09:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋