My boyfriend and I have been thinking about having sex for a while, and this'll be my first time. This is gonna sound really stupid, but I figure it's better to be safe than sorry... When I go back to the gynecologist, wil there be any chance she'll now? Will it be obvious? I know my hyman will break, will she see that? Will there be any other giveaways? I just don't want anything to get back to my parents, is all... Can someone help me?
2007-08-01 18:41:45 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
And... I'm 16...
2007-08-01 19:00:33 · update #1
No. Unless it's just before the appointment and you still can smell the condom or sperm... etc. Or if there's any bruising on your vaginal walls.
Your hymen can break even before you have sex if your physically active, riding bikes, exercise...etc.
2007-08-01 18:50:15 · answer #1 · answered by May Ann 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Things between your doctor and you are confidential. Unless you are in danger (or maybe not even), they can't tell your parents without your consent.
It's like this because otherwise a lot of people otherwise would feel like they needed to lie to their doctor about things that are vital to the doctor's understanding of your health and how they should treat you.
She will probably be able to tell to an extent. Like she may suspect you have but not be sure. The only way she can know 100% for sure though is if you tell her. It will be easier for her (or him, look at me making assumptions here) to tell if she's been examining your body for years. Even then though, she can't be sure unless you make it known to her.
2007-08-02 01:56:55 · answer #2 · answered by Lot's Wife 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you had a pap smear yet?
Are you on birth control?
Do you have condoms?
How old is HE?
Unless you've had sex within two days of seeing the gyno again, your doctor would not be able to tell.
There are MANY others ways a hymen could break.
2007-08-02 09:42:40 · answer #3 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
girl...i know exactly what you're going through, but, do you use tampons? if you do, then your hymen will have already broken so it'll make no difference. i've been sexually active behind my parents back for a while now, i've only gone in once to the doctors to get birth control i never used, and it's a patient/ doctor confidentiality, which means they aren't allowed to tell your parents, it's the law.....
2007-08-02 01:58:50 · answer #4 · answered by ~*.:Kyla:.*~ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Since it's not necessary for you to have sex in order to break your hymen (you can have it broken by horseback riding, gymnastics, etc. etc.), I'm pretty sure your gyno won't be able to tel if you've had sex or not. Even if she did she wouldn't be able to tell your parents cuz of that confidenciality thing.
2007-08-02 01:48:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is likely that your hymen will break and she will probably notice that it is not intact, but a girl's hymen can break from stupid things like using tampons or excessive bike riding, so she really has no proof. And if for some reason she suspects that you are sexually active, it is illegal for her to discuss it with your parents. As long as your boyfriend knows that he has no STD's and you guys use proper protection like a condom, you'll be okay. Go have fun!
2007-08-02 01:52:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Your GYN cannot tell because he/she cannot break confidentiality. Be sure you are on some sort of birth control and insist he use condoms each time you have intercourse.
2007-08-02 02:00:53 · answer #7 · answered by MzMo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how old are you? the Dr cannot tell your parents ANYTHING without your consent. yes, she will be able to tell. PLEASE if you are going to do this, get some birth control and be safe. because if you end up pregnant or with some disease, everyone will know!
2007-08-02 01:46:24 · answer #8 · answered by lil_angel64 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes yes yes shee wil be able to tell forsure
jus amkesure that as soona su get into that office tell her before she checks you.. " i want everything tht happens to be kept confidential and only be between me and you" THEN...ofcourse she will find out.
rememmmberrrrrr play safeeeee
use birthcontrol and so onnn
2007-08-02 01:57:25 · answer #9 · answered by acac 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course she will be able to tell that you are no longer a virgin. If you are under age she is required to tell your parents, there is no confidentiality for minors.
2007-08-02 01:48:45 · answer #10 · answered by Cheryl 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋