One of my friends didint invite me to a baby shower?

Question

i have this friend who lives in texas and i live in minnesota. well anyway i found out that she is having a baby shower. i had asked her why didnt i get a invintation and she said its because she knew i could not make it becuse we are long distance she also said its because she dosent want me to feel like i have to send a gift. what should i do. im so mad at her for not inviting me
im so sad. should i be stressed

Answer 1

no you shouldnt feel stressed she could of lied toyou at least she told you the truth. did you make it or could you of? so big deal i least she thought of you when she answered you.my cousins didnt invite me to their wedding all 4 of them. i dont care traditions are not being taken the same way as they use to. if you want to get over it tell your friend how you feel and ibet she will apologize. but dang girl get over it its not the end of the road trust me. you shouldntt react like this just about something so small. save it for somethign else.

Answer 2

To be honest, I understand why she said that and her reasons do make sense, I also understand it from your point of view too. She doesn't want trouble considering how far apart you live. From her perspective she thinks that if she invites you that you would have to turn up no matter what and being far away everything is money and time she might have thought it would be too much for you which is fair and expecting a present (kind of embarrassing. Don't take it too heart just tell her how u feel and send something or visit her and the baby if it really bothers you too clear things up and catch up. Don't think of it too much because more you do more false thinking will be made up in your head which causes stress for NO reason. You'll be fine. When your available, call her and let her know your going over to visit her and the baby and have a great time.

Answer 3

Let it go, maybe all it was is because of the distance between you. Nothing more. I have this really good friend 1300 miles from me and it is hard not being there for her and I know she wants to be with me in lifes events, but we both know that with the distance it is almost inpossible to be there for each other. Friends are Gems, forgive her, maybe even send a gift anyway. I beleive she was just trying to look after you. Yes it would have been nice to have gotten an invitation but in all honesty I think she didn't want to put you on the spot to make you feel like you had to be there. She was looking after you, Nothing more. Forgive her, send her a small gift even if it is a small toy or passifier. Don't stay mad that is silly. Good Luck

Answer 4

I know you are hurt but my best friend lives in another state and we are so close and are kids are close its hard when they have events and we are not there, but i would not be mad at her for that friend ship is so hard to come by these days and I bet she didn't think about it and does not even realize she hurt your feelings,, because allot of times we get so bizzy with our stuff that we don't think, she probably thought when sending the invites that she was sending them to the people that would be able to come, i really don't think she meant to hurt you, i don't know you or your friend but if there is a bond between you i would not let something like and invite to a shower come between you,, now if you was going to attend and she new you would then i would be upset, but i am not being sarcastic, but how can you be upset when you was not going to be able to go,, allot of people do not realize that little things can hurt allot, and if they would just put there self in anther persons shoes then allot of thing would be different in the world,, so good luck with this and i hope i helped some

Answer 5

Wish I had friends that were so condiserate. Send her a nicer gift when the baby is born. and wish her well.
I too live in Minnesota and am not included to a lot of things because of the weather up here, ?They think that the lakes are still frozen over on the fourth of july and having to travel in all the snow has to be awful.

Answer 6

I think you should just take her explanation as sincere. It can be uncomfortable to invite someone that you know won't be able to attend because of distance. And when you do invite that person, it could be construed as just "asking for a gift".
Don't be angry. Just send a gift and a card and be happy your friend was trying to be so kind to you.

Answer 7

I think you should calm down. Your friend explained to you why she didn't invite you, which I think is reasonable. But this is not the reason you're not mad. You probably think its for another reason.

I think she told you the truth, because I would invite many people so I can get the gifts :D

Answer 8

You really need to get over it. Sounds like she is a great friend that was trying to do you a big favor and save you some cash. Be a good friend in return and get her baby a wonderful gift.

Answer 9

Get over it.
Your friend explained to you why see did not invite you.
She was thinking of you.
Maybe you could think of her and let it go.
Send her a gift anyway.
Stop being mad, the wind might change.
Stop being so sad, then is no real need.
Should you be stressed.
Only if you want your body to get sick.

Answer 10

She is a good friend she took you into consideration and your transportation cost. I couldn't attend my BEST friends baby shower and I fell awful, mainly because she was expecting me. Don't be offended realize the truth of her reasoning. Make amends and buy the baby something nice. Good Luck