Me and my guy friend (which is gay) are starting high school in about a month. He is nervous about going to high school because he thinks that people will be cruel to him since he is gay. I don't know what to tell him.
2007-08-01 18:27:40 · 11 answers · asked by Janelle P. 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Tell him that whatever happens in high school you'll be his friend and you'll always be there for him.
Being a high school teacher, I saw how cruel kids can be... especially freshman. in my class I would never let kids tease other kids about being gay.
2007-08-01 18:33:31 · answer #1 · answered by Forgotten Junk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, I hate to be a downer but people will find ways of being cruel to each other no matter what. If he wasn't gay, someone may find another reason to be cruel. If he's thin or if he has long hair or any reason they like. I remember being picked on because I'm very tall. I tried not to let it bother me, but that's the best thing you can do. Just remember that no one has the right or the ability to make you feel bad unless you allow them to do so.
2007-08-02 01:32:39 · answer #2 · answered by Dominus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At my high school, we had a GSA (gay-straight-alliance -- the first of its kind in the country) that hung out together and discussed queer issues. I'm not sure how it will be for your friend, but I think it mostly depends on where you are (suburbia/rural areas are especially terrible, cities not so much).
If your school has such a program, I would recommend he talk with them as soon as he can. If it doesn't, and homophobia really is an issue, I suggest he just try to keep his head down.
Good luck.
2007-08-02 01:34:27 · answer #3 · answered by Krebo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More than likely most of the same people in jr high will be in your class and at your school. Then there will be new people from other school but tell him not to worry. It's not bad at all he will problay meet more people like himself. High school is great and things will change and it will open your mind to new things and people my best advice is to not go in scared!
Tell him that good luck!(^_^)
2007-08-02 01:34:27 · answer #4 · answered by kay b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow im going through exactly what he is going through. Im starting high school in about a month to, and im bi, and im very nervous about what people wil say to. Im already "out" and everything but still. Just be there for him, and tell him that people will accept him for who he is. =]
2007-08-02 01:30:20 · answer #5 · answered by Jaymee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on your size of school he should be fine. Remember, every freshman gets picked on, tell him not to take it too hard, and tell him chances are, he's not the only gay guy there.
2007-08-02 01:33:29 · answer #6 · answered by maggot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just continue to be a good friend and support him. Tell him to be confident in who he is and not to be obnoxious about rubbing his preferences in others faces. In other words, it's ok to be who you are, but you(he) don't need to make any one else be that way -- well they need to accept and tolerate, but thay is a step they need to come to on their own.
2007-08-02 01:34:42 · answer #7 · answered by Pirate AM™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him this: It doesn't matter what other people think about you. Your true friends will stick by your side and will stick up for you. People shouldn't care if your gay, its your life and your business!!!
also tell him that YOUR THERE FOR HIM NO MATTER WHAT!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-08-02 01:34:47 · answer #8 · answered by DINO_GOES_RAWER 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look out in world there r so many gays and lesbians and bisexual people.
tell ur friend be proud of wt he is. but ask him never to contact me because i love chicks n not guys
2007-08-02 01:32:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
there isn't much that you can tell him.. You can just be there and support him as a friend.
2007-08-02 01:56:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋