Decrease in my sex drive?

Question

My husband and i have been happily married 16 yrs and i am 38 he is 42..During our marriage my sex drive has seemed higher then his and lower then i have heard and read about other men's..Well anyways for the past 8 or 9 months that has changed his sex drive has gotten higher then it use to be and says he wants me more and to make our sex life better but my sex drive has gone down..For yrs and yrs i waited for this change in him and now that it has happened it doesnt seem important or matter to me anymore and i dont know why cause i still love him more then anything and i still find him sexy and attractive..We still make love a few times a week and its still satisfying but i dont have the desire for it like when i was in my mid-20's thru my 30's..Of course i want our sex life to be better like i dreamed for yrs..So what is my problem..Going to a dr is not an option cause we have no medical insurance..So any other idea's

Answer 1

Doctors are expensive...and since this is a common trait among women in their 30's and 40's...
Eat a healthy diet...get lot's of exercise...take vitamin E and there is a little "blue pill" for women. It's purple. Free clinics can help. Eating fish more regularly...stimulating creams and lotions can help. Watching movies with nudity. A glass of wine to relax you prior to engaging in romantic stimulations. Candle light and bubble baths after a tingling rub down. Soft music. Go out on the town and have fun...let nature take it's course.
Wear sexy baby doll nighty...change your method...change the locale in the house where it takes place. Add some spunk to your life and some sparkle to your romance.
Life can get better after years of marriage. Remember what you did before marriage to get your heart pumping?
Your hubby just came back to life...keep him happy. Forget yesterday...concentrate on today and your future with him.

Answer 2

Well hun I went through this when the early stages of menopause and now that I have gone through it my sex drive is slowly coming back alot of the reasons our bodies do this is the severe changes of in the levels of hormones and there is not anything that the doctor could do to change this for you. You could try some of the all natural herbal pills for women that you can get from walmart this might help it did me and they are only about 5 dollars or so. Good luck and so not get to down it does pass just takes time soon you will beable to keep him tired all the time just wait.....

Answer 3

It is not unusual for a women's sex drive to decrease after time. I do want you to know that you should be getting close to the prime of your life at this point. Most women are having an increase in their sex drive between 35 and 45. You may be experiencing the beginnings of menopause. It is called perimenopause, and can occur at that age also.

Try going to a good health food store. They can point you in the direction of some good vitamins that will increase your sex drive.

Answer 4

Enjoy what you have. Don't stress out over this new development. Maybe this is a good thing. If both of you had crazy high sex drives you wouldn't be going to work and doing other things. So this balances you guys out.

Answer 5

Sounds like you're like me. You're going through the early stages of menopause. You can buy many over the counter menopause medications to help with this problem. Good luck.

Answer 6

As some women get older there sex drive will decrees, you just have to try to make the best of it.

Answer 7

If it means that much to you, make an appmt with your obgyn.
At any rate, it's not a matter of choice, you need to be going annually!

Answer 8

try using some viagra.for real its sapposed to help with these kind of things for women.
have fun and good luck.

Answer 9

buy the book karma sutra!!