We plan on moving away because the guy is a real deadbeat. Alread has 2 kids he doesn't see much. My wife and I are trying to fix things but I know with this guy in our lifes it will never work. Is there anyway to keep him out of our lives and for me to claim to be the father???
2007-08-01 18:11:07 · 9 answers · asked by Richard S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes he has parental right if it's his baby. but maybe he'll sign over the rights to you.
2007-08-01 18:15:13 · answer #1 · answered by jerry s 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the only way is if he signs away all parental rights to HIS biological child and you adopt HIS biological child. Just because he doesn't see his children doesn't give YOU the right to deny him his parental rights. If you try to move away and "pretend" the child is your's he can charge you with kidnapping, you and your wife will wind up in prison, the child will either be put into his sole custody (your wife MAY be granted supervised visits only until the child is an adult), you will have no rights regarding the child or the state could decide to put the child into foster care where no one would have access to the child unless ordered by the court. I suggest you and your wife be realistic in your decisions, she phucked around got pregnant and now she has to pay the consequences. This is Karma for her actions. Are you willing to go to prison for it?
2007-08-01 19:29:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your wife had sex with a looser and got pregnant that doesn't speak to well for your wifes judgment does it,but i digress move away and don't tell the deadbeat anything if he is the looser you say he is he won't bother looking.it just means more child support that he will have to pay.sign the birth certificate give the child your last name and don't worry.with your name on it he will have to prove that he is the father and since you are married the courts will naturaly assume that you are the father.
2007-08-01 19:25:21 · answer #3 · answered by windwalker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sexymomma said it right. I've had some experience with this myself. If you puts your name on the birth certif and then you move. The dad of he baby has to take your wife to court in the county the baby lives in to get a paternity test ordered. then he has to take her back to court to argue custody etc. Odds are if he's as dead beat as you say he wont bother,sad as that might sound. But If your willing to step up and love this baby then god bless you and your family and I wish you all the luck.
2007-08-01 18:27:00 · answer #4 · answered by survivedlasvegas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say, but yes he has every right in the world to be his childs father. And you have no right to try and dictate what that relationship will be. Your wife decided to have a child with this man and that is something that you are going to have to deal with if you want to stay with her. If he decides to walk out of his child's life then that is his decision to make and not yours. You are angry with him and you have every right to be but even if he is out of sight he will never be out of mind. Everytime you look at his child you will see the decision that your wife made. Face it guy....he's gonna always be around.
2007-08-01 18:20:25 · answer #5 · answered by gudlistnr 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
move away and when she has the baby put youre last name on the birth certificate and then if he wonts to do anything as in trying to see the baby he will have to go to court and prove he is the father of the baby but the baby will still have youre last name good luck
2007-08-01 18:16:57 · answer #6 · answered by foxy lady 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not sure if its legal but I'd leave him out of the pic...when babies born claim it as yours , and put your name on birth certificate..only the real father can contest and allow him to pay for the right to be father...doesn't sound like he would bother....but be sure this is what you want...if you and wife split up later, you will still be financially responsible for that child.
2007-08-01 18:20:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Since he doesnt seem to be interested in his other children, what makes you think he'll be interested in this one?
Perhaps if you insist that he pay you child support, that may change his mind about being a problem.
2007-08-01 18:24:21 · answer #8 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How sad for your child to not be allowed to embrace and know his or her reality. How shameful that child will feel about themselves when the truth comes out.
Why not just suck it up, admit to the mistakes that were made & learn from them?
2007-08-01 18:24:03 · answer #9 · answered by Maureen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋