2007-08-01 17:33:00 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Depends on the people who are married and how they treat each other.
2007-08-01 17:37:32 · answer #1 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's necessarily fair to make that kind of comparison.
Think about the ups and down of both. I'm still in college and will be getting married next year so here's my take:
In college, if you are both going to school or met at school, you have a common bond between you two. You know that your life is basically structured around when you can spend time together around work and classes. You can spend time together at college events and vent about stupid classes. But at the same time, after college comes to an end, if there isn't anything else you two have in common, the relationship can come crashing down.
Marriage life definitely has more challenges-- you don't have the structure of classes, but instead must take your life day by day seeing if both of you need to work full-time jobs. Also, there are household chores which must be done, taking care of children if there are any, spending time with the in-laws and respective families, errands, etc. However, because you're already married, there's no need to structure "together time" and if you really want to spend quality time together, you can do it whenever. It can be during grocery shopping, watching a movie, having sex, going to the park with the kids, or holidays.
Both have potential ups and downs.
2007-08-02 00:43:58 · answer #2 · answered by Flowergardener 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. A lot more responsibilities. You have to be ready for anything. A person's living situation will change. To start off, it's very expensive. Where will you live after you get married? If you decide to live in an apartment, you have to make sure both of you can afford it. That means stable income. If two people live together in any situation, they will know each other a lot more. That means the other person's good and bad habits and their true nature will come out. When you're dating and getting to know each other, I think a lot of times for many couples they try to be on their best behavior. Everyone has strong and weak points, and no one is perfect. When the weak points come out (and they will come out sooner or later), the couple would have to adjust and compromise in any situation. Hopefully, you'll be married to someone who is very strong-willed and doesn't give up easily. And, hopefully you're like that too. Giving up would mean divorce. Divorce can also be an expensive legal issue. Marriage is a very long, challenging process. There's going to be a lot of things thrown at you. It's a lifetime of adjustment, getting to know each other, and then changing the way you do things because people and situations change. Cooking is important, by the way. Eating out is way too expensive and unhealthy (esp. after having children). What if you don't like to cook? What if you know how to cook but your spouse doesn't like how you cook? What if you don't like your in-laws? What if you don't agree on the car you're going to buy? Or, where to live? Those who are in strong marriages find solutions to their problems.
It will teach you things (very personal things) that you will probably never learn in school. In my case, I didn't know what's my dream career until after being married with children. If only I knew this before I started college, I would have been a more successful person now.
Another part of marriage is child(ren). Before we had our first child, we used to go out to the movies 4 times a week and eat out often. After our first baby, we did none of that anymore. Raising just one child is more than a full-time job. It's one of the reasons why day cares charge so much and still remain in business. But, we love our children like anything.
I can't say much when we were in college seeing each other. We were just smiling at each other and enjoying ourselves. We talked about what movies to watch and where to eat out. That was all.
2007-08-02 01:48:29 · answer #3 · answered by qazxsw321 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a lot harder than college life. It takes a lot of work and you can't just drop out when you decide the curriculum is too hard.
2007-08-02 00:36:54 · answer #4 · answered by mafiosu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it is but if you really love him/her it's worth it it's a love that will last.
2007-08-02 00:42:26 · answer #5 · answered by rashida_16 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for men marriage life is always difficult....thats why you stay single and hump as many girls as possible, so you can earn your bonus points and tell you fellow guys about the fuss
2007-08-02 00:37:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋