what would you do if your husband doesn't take you out ?

Question

iv'e been married for 4 yrs and my husband hasnt took me out in a year. im loosing interest in my marriage. i think i like someone else. what should i do ? i tell him how i feel and nothings changed.

Answer 1

I too wish he would ask me out rather than I make all the plans. Feels more fun that way. You want to feel pretty, attractive and date your husband, like it use to be. I bet it isnt even the going out either. It is more deep than that.

You might worry that he would loose interest or that he has previously done something (cheated) that makes you want to regain those things from before. So to do things "like that" again, would make you fell more comfortable.

Think. How many years has it been since he has called you beautiful? Gotten you a few flowers? Or a number of other things that he use to do?

You are missing those things. You just wish that he would figure it out. I bet you have talked to him, argued with him and screamed at him and nothing.

Dont loose interest in your marriage, think of it as another level. You are comfortable enough with each other that some things do not matter. To him he is so comfortable with the marriage he feels you know all of it. That he doesnt have to call you beautiful anymore because he has said it a million times.

If it means that much you need to ask him why not tell him. Try to point him in the direction, not order him there...Trust me.

Answer 2

I have been married for 8 yrs this 9/11 and my husband hasn't taken me out in a few years. He's just not a social butterfly and I'm just as content staying home with him and our kids. I can't see how not going out could make you loose interest in your marriage. The two of you should sit and talk. Don't yell and scream or argue. Talk, listen to his side of things, tell him that you would appreciate if he would listen to your side. Don't go into the conversation thinking that your opinion is all that matters or that its your way or the highway. It never gets resolved if someone is thinking that way. I know first hand that the my way or the highway stuff doesn't get anything accomplished. Compromise is the key. Sit and talk, listen to each other, work this out. I'm sure the two of you can come up with something that will make the both of you happy. Good luck to you both.

Answer 3

Ask him why he doesn't take you out? Did this happen when you were dating? Is the reason because you don't have any extra money? How about making a nice meal at home for both of you to enjoy together? There seems to be lots more going on in your marriage. I think you have found a boyfriend and are just looking for someone to tell you its okay to go out with him. I'm not going to do that. Get with your husband and give the marriage a good effort.

Answer 4

You shouldn't expect your husband to be responsible for your happiness. If you want to go out then call a friend and hit the town. If you are losing interest in your marriage just because your husband isn't into dining out you must not have really been all that dedicated to begin with.

Answer 5

Why don't you try and talk or maybe see a counselor instead of finding someone else to talk too. Starting a affair is never the answer, people just get there feelings hurt and if not emotionally then physically.

Answer 6

Run far away from the other guy, lest you commit adultery. Go out yourself, but be good.

Answer 7

Maybe you could try taking him out instead.

Answer 8

Take him out.

We don't have to follow the old-fashioned rules.....if you want to go out take him.

Answer 9

why should whether or not he takes you out affect how you feel - you are way too selfish and superficial to be married - please do us all a favor and tell him that you are too selfish and superficial to be married to anyone - tell him that you do not want a divorce and that you don't expect any alimony