has anybody met their spouse's/partner's lover? How was it?

Question

My husband dated another girl when we got engaged. she was in the picture before I was and he didnt know how to end the relationship. I kew after we got married.
Now this girl has a medical condition and she lost her friends and family, and me as a Christian couldn't stay silent so I wrote her an email supporting her and offering a helping hand.
Now she wants to meet me since "Im such a sweet girl"
Have anybody met their partner's lover, ex-lover, ex girlfriend, ex boyfriend?? how did it go? what do you guys talk about????

Answer 1

The gester was truly considerate, but did you wonder why her "friends" and "family" dumped her? You realize that most people will rally around someone in need, especially a medical condition. So you "may be" headed for a problem. If you truly want to lend a "helping hand" you need to learn how to set boundries. You need to be very careful, because she could possibly create problems because she is his ex-LOVER!!! I think your best of intentions may put you in over your head. Again, let me emphasize that if you insist on putting yourself in his position, then you need to set boundaries so you don't create a terrible personal problem! What did your husband think of this idea??? It really sounds like this is a RISKY situation you're getting into. Be Careful!! Actually,I'd be tempted to say don't do it...but it's you're decison.

Answer 2

I've met my boyfriend's ex girlfriend several times as they are still in the same friendship group. She's a very nice girl and I've got no doubt that she's over him (they were only together for a year and broke up 6 years ago) but it still felt a little strange and I found myself thinking afterwards about what their relationship was like, and whether maybe he was happier with her than me (which is ridiculous because we have a great relationship and they broke up after a year!). My advice is don't meet her if you don't have to, it will only increase your insecurities.

Answer 3

I met all of mine cause every one of them wanted him back. I honestly don't think that you should go see them. When you are with them, it is going to be an awkward situation. And if you happen to see her while you are with your partner, it could possibly cause him to start thinking about the past and then possibly convince himself that he still has feelings for her. Then there is the possibility that you start to have doubt about yourself, thinking that maybe he liked her more than you. The letter that you sent to her would be enough. It would be best to stick to just sending letters back and forth.
I met his ex and it was really awkward and caused a little doubt. Then another one that I met, after seeing me, tried to start stuff.
But it is your decision in what you do. But be careful and go strong minded.

Answer 4

You have done enough by writing a nice note. Now distance yourself from her. It's not a good idea to meet her or have your husband around her.

Answer 5

I became friends with my husbands ex-girlfriend. We used go on double dates with her and her then boyfriend.

Answer 6

Yes i met the s l u t whore homewecker low life piece of doo doo.

Answer 7

lol@ he didnt know how to end the relationship.

you were the other woman and now she wants to meet you. its not to say how sweet you are, but to see who stole her life.

dont do it to her or to yourself. if he wants to visit her then fine. but is it really appropriate to meet her when you were the other woman.

Answer 8

Yes I did and she was lovely.. It is a delicate situation but if you are true and authentic, it will be perfect.

Answer 9

I wouldn't do that.....why did you? I have been told to always check my motives.