How do you handle people who....?

Question

..make passive / aggressive statements to purposefully piss you off. Other than opening a can of whip ***, i want to really show them that I dont need to result to childish behavior to do anything, that If I have an issue with somebody, I talk it out and resolve it. I am trying to stay out of the way, make myself invisable, and just let the comments pass, but I gotta stand up for myself someway. Any ideas ? Please only serious replys.

Answer 1

When someone is passive-aggressive with me, I have radar for it and usually just avoid them permanently. But, when I find myself trapped with them, like at a dinner party, and they say something to make me look bad, I just smile, lean into the person next to me in a comical, good-natured way loud enough for everyone to hear and say, "I won't believe half of all the things she says about YOU if you promise not to believe half of all the things she says about ME. OK?" Then, lift your glass or your jaw in a jovial way and smile really big at the target. She'll get the point and crawl away. They ALWAYS do.

Answer 2

Passive/aggressive behavior is a type of manipulation. They enjoy giving you the great ups and downs. And the worst part is you are letting them. Just laugh at them. It truly p*sses them off when they can no longer p*ss you off. Their main goal in life is to make you unhappy and that is the only thing that makes them happy. They plot and plan to do terrible things to you. You should be getting very tired of their behavior. Get rid of them. It never gets any better because it is a form of mental illness. And you deserve a better life. Even if you care, get out now and don't look back. They deserve what they get, solitary living.

Answer 3

Be careful about trying to make yourself invisible. That is not a good thing for your self image. If you don't know these people and don't have to interact with them, make THEM invisible by ignoring them completely.
If they make a statement that is outrageous, ignorant, purposefully irrelevant... and you can't avoid them, state that you disagree, but don't be drawn into any further discussion.
Examples: "I disagree. That's not funny. This is a waste of my time."
Prove that you do have better things to do, by getting on with YOUR OWN agenda.
Don't stoop to their level. Be nicely ASSERTIVE!
Practice this a lot, many people don't know how to "work and play well with others."

Answer 4

Say hello to my psycho friend Cheramie. She likes to put me down to make herself feel better. So all of her statements are meant to hurt, but she says them with a smile and say's that she's 'joking'. Sometimes, I'd rather sit in acid then be next to her. But until I find a better friend, I'll stick with her. She knows too much.
as for the person you're describing, just laugh. Why care? Blow it off and let her watch. So just laugh. The person will obviously notice that you don't care and stop. If that doesn't work,pop her one. A good punch will get her off your back.

Answer 5

I think you need to be "tactfully" confrontational. You need to say things like "excuse me is there something you wanted to say?" or I'm sorry, is there something we need to discuss?" This person is going to keep giving you these shots if they can. They are not being overly aggressive because they are unsure. Let them know you are not going to put up with it and it will change their behaviour.

Answer 6

I LIMIT MY INTERACTION WITH PPL LIKE THAT.I CAN'T STAND IGNORANT RUDE PPL...ALSO ANYTHING THAT IS SAID INDIRECTLY DOESN'T MATTER!!!DON'T BELITTLE YOURSELF AND ACT AN A$$ B/C THAT'S WHAT THEY WANT YOU TO DO!!!I STAND UP FOR MYSELF WHEN I FEEL THREATENED!!IF YOU GO OUT OF YOUR WAY TO DISRESPECT ME,THEN THAT'S WHEN I ACT AN A$$,BUT ALL THAT OTHER INDIRECT SH*T..DOESN'T MATTER!!!I JUST TELL MYSELF *I'M A LADY*...LOL AND THEY REALLY DON'T WANT PROBLEMS!!

Answer 7

just don't lose control, really just ignore them, they say those things to piss you off and see you pissed, it's their goal. Just take it and think to yourself, they're pathetic if they're trying so hard to get at me, and if you laugh or chuckle, they'll be pissed that what they said didn't work but they'll try harder. You're above that, you can say "I really don't care what you think & you're ignorant with what you say"

Answer 8

if you wanna get back, hit 'em below the belt. figure out their weakness and when they make those comments, just simply state it and walk away. if you dont want it to bother you, just walk away and blow it out. breathe in fresh air and breathe out whatever bothers you. then it's not inside and it can't bother you anymore.