How do people deal with regrets? Its not the same as remorse, where your sad because you lost someone, is it? What is regret anyway? Is it something like feeling bad about things ,usually mistakes, done in the past? How do you get rid of it? Why do we regret the things we've done, when we know that its in the past and we cant change it?
Aw man there are so many things i regret, but i cant change the things ive done in the past, were not suppost to. I might be too scared to settle some things that other people might have let go of by now.
2007-08-01 16:49:30 · 7 answers · asked by JN 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Life is a learning experience, and our regrets teach us about ourselves. At best, we learn from them and move on.
2007-08-01 16:55:35 · answer #1 · answered by Rhonda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its true that we can not change the things that happened or have done in the past. People do make mistakes after all we are all human. The key is to learn from our mistakes and not repeat them. I know it is difficult to get over some things that you may have done in the past but what instead of feeling bad for what you have done try to be a better person. Do some volunteer work. Give some nice comments to people at work or school.
2007-08-01 17:31:46 · answer #2 · answered by sweety 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I learn a lesson from it and move on with the intention of not doing that again. We all do these kinds of things but the best ppl take that situation and make it into something positive. We must experience this in order to grow and learn and be what we were/are intended to be. We cant change it but we can discuss it with the ones younger than us so that maybe they will learn something from it and then, maybe, one day the world will be a better place for us to be.
Good Luck and remember -- you dont have to let go or forget just learn from your regrets.
2007-08-01 18:01:11 · answer #3 · answered by MeMeCindy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We deal with regrets by accepting what you regret as whole, true, and a part of you, and loving yourself not even in spite of it, but becasue of it, then you can truly let it go. You know that feeling of remembering something that happened, and your face getting red, becoming embarrassed, and then....that inevitable feeling of regret.....but sometimes, instead of dealing with it, we turn the other cheek, do something else, turn a blind mind's eye to it, wheather we do it consciously or unconsciously, sometimes we just dont accept that it is real and a part of our life. Admitting, accepting and loving yourself and the thing you regret is the only way to get past it.
2007-08-01 18:34:21 · answer #4 · answered by Yes 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, most of the time I realize that I made the best choice with the information I had, and then I just let release it. If I have trouble doing that, I write out my emotions or give them up to God. I also realize that I can't go back and change things, so therefore worrying is useless and only drags me down. But if I hurt someone b/c of a bad choice, then I try to make amends to that person if I can.
2007-08-01 18:21:17 · answer #5 · answered by I'm just me 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You regret lost opportunities that will not come your way again and you regret past mistakes because you did not behave up to your expectations. You can't change the past, only the future. Live up to your expectations so that you do not disappoint yourself in the future.
2007-08-01 17:09:09 · answer #6 · answered by towanda 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keeping it simple.
You cannot change the past.
But you can shift the perception or the energy of the past.
Also know that it is your ego that is keeping you dwelling in the past.
Get the book.
2007-08-01 17:23:52 · answer #7 · answered by aldiaz2wheare 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋