having some of the same issues (screaming & verbal abuse during arguments...can't seem to ever give him enough attention or affection) We separated two weeks ago and are both going to counseling - individually right now. He asks me every day about coming over to spend the night or to come over super early in the morning to "see our son"...and made comments like he "started to lie down" with me (I was still sleeping). Just got the cell phone bill and see that he's started calling & texting the girl he was dating when we got back together. Needless to say, I then went to check his drawer in the bathroom, and yep! he took his Viagra with him. Obviously he intends to begin a sexual relationship ... would you worry about trying to work on this marriage? I do not miss him and am not at all jealous about the girl. I just do not admire him...am I wrong? GUYS: is this how most of you would respond during a separation...look for sex within two weeks? FYI...we were intimate July 10.
2007-08-01 16:44:17 · 7 answers · asked by luvofrosalitas 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Call him up and tell him that you know about the text messages and that his viagra is gone, and that if he wants to have sex with that girl then it's over for you and you won't go to counseling anymore. Tell him he can't have it both ways, and that he either works 100% on your relationship, or he gives you up. That way, you put the decision on him, instead of threatening him that you give him up.
I see that your husband is wearing you out. You're so tired of it all that you don't even miss him, probably just glad that the house is quiet. He's the drama queen, not you, I can tell.
His already searching for another woman to reinforce his ego is troublesome...and that he's trying to have sex with you too...as if his manhood is the most important thing in the world everyday and that he has to be having sex with someone...not necessarily someone in particular. Now that bothers me.
He's never matured past the point of thinking that having sex is how he judges himself. That's kinda sad.
2007-08-01 21:32:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i know it is hard but u should have stayed apart.it is not going to work .it was just sex he has been out ov the game for a while and he needs to know while hes shopping at another cookie store he can still come to yours and still get the free cookies until this other store lets him get the cookies over there on credit.he has already let go. people change over the years they grow apart dont know y but they do. ur better off he is like a dog that has been locked up in a cage for years so now that hes lose he gonna go find anything to hunch. stop while ur still sane and Can get threw the day with out the crying and the heart ache and head ache.
2007-08-01 17:22:16 · answer #2 · answered by sean a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheating is one ingredient yet with a married lady?! Dude she has no care in the international for u that's y she won't bypass away her husband She is obviously getting some thing off u that she would not along with her husband this is stated as employing different ppl and whether she does divorce him the question u could b asking ur self " if we've been given married might she do an analogous to me?" she cheated on somebody she married - my opinion is she's employing u to get issues that her husband doesn'tshe ddoesn't quite look after u and what if she cheated on u then divorced u for somebody else? U have lots to think of roughly and u could nor cheat cheating isn't like this is an analogous ingredient as employing And if ur gf would not comprehend u could tell her Make ur very own judgements I reported my opinion approximately this and now I desire u ultimate success on existence
2016-10-09 00:50:37 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You feel the same about your husband as I feel about my wife. We don't fight, but she's so heavenly minded, she's no earthly good. Every thing is Church, church,church.! I like it OK, but I'm not going to live there.
2007-08-02 07:31:05 · answer #4 · answered by The Count 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry but its so over. he hasnt changed. you gave him a second chance and he blew it. my ex did the same. they only get a second chance in my book. leave him now and find someone who will treat you right. pray and god will hear you. he heard me.
2007-08-01 17:51:19 · answer #5 · answered by solas lethe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not stay with someone who screamed at me.
2007-08-01 16:56:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would divorce him. I don't want a husband who has a gf.
2007-08-01 17:45:51 · answer #7 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋