been married 15 yrs?

Question

married 15 yrs, and i feel he is having an affair, but i can't proof it, but if he don't make love to me in 3 wks, what am i suppose to think

Answer 1

You're supposed to think what you think. It's okay to have thoughts pop up in your head, you can't control that anyway. But it's not okay to let those thoughts control your life. Maybe he's just going through a difficult time right now. I had a similar issue when I returned from Iraq. If he doesn't come around just talk to him. Communication is very important. Without proof, you shouldn't jump to any conclusions. Patience and communication will solve lots of problems.

Answer 2

Well, you have a lot of years invested plus two children entering their teens when they need a father the most. If he was physically abusive, had a substance abuse problem or was a poor provider you have a good reason to leave. What you are describing as the major problem, a disgusting attitude, can be fixed but you might need some outside help. I recommend anyone considering divorce to get marriage counseling before making any drastic decisions that will effect your income and your children's life. If he refuses to go, go yourself and if you can't afford a marriage counselor you can talk to your pastor or priest who has been trained in counseling couples. If all else fails at least you will know that you did everything you could to save your marriage. Sometimes it helps to shake up the system and he will realize that there is a serious problem that will lead to divorce if he doesn't change.

Answer 3

Why don't you ask him if he is having an affair? It's that simple to even ask him.

If you can't prove it, then he is probably not having an affair. You don't have proof! So stop with the 'feelings' and start being the wife he deserves.

Please consider on reading "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" and "The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage." The only way that will lead him to have an affair is by the way you are treating him and by the way you don't show appreciation, love, and respect.

Answer 4

If you think he is then odds are he is any kind of pattern that he changes any little thing different in his mannerisms is a dead give away. They stop kissing you,they stop looking or listening to you.Come home late or tell you he has eaten all ready.I could go on and on but you get the idea.My husband started after 16 years of marriage.The sex and kissing was the first to go and i still didn't want to believe it.Founding out your husband is cheating on you is the hardiest thing you will ever in your life will deal with. Why do you think they say the wife is all ways the last to know it's because we refuse to think the worse about the man we been sleeping next to would hurt us like that.

Answer 5

Hire a Private Investigator.

Answer 6

Marriage is a matter of trust. You have to trust he is not fooling around. Have a heart to heart talk with him and tell him that it will be over if you found out he is having an affair. If he is, follow through and leave him.

Answer 7

the best answer is to be upfront, I mean you have been married 15 years so act like it and be direct and loving at the same time. let him know that you need to know and you wont react or respond in a manner he might expect so as to ease any tension. if he is honest then he will tell you the truth, if not you will find out sooner or later.

Answer 8

check his stuff ask to see his wallet/ look at the phone bill/ smell the clothes/ check the pay stub/ check his car and if all that comes clean just ask if he looks guilty then he is but you know when your hubby is trying to lie so you should be able to tell right away but i can honestly say i will be the first person to "invade the privacy issue my house my marriage i can do what i want

be noisy .......................good luck

Answer 9

Hire a private investigator.

Answer 10

Stop thinking and start talking.

After 15 years talking should be easy.