I have a friend who , about every other week is dealing with some sort of money-related problem she is having. She usually calls me to vent her frustrations and goes into a long drawn out story abou how this and that happened, or she paid Company X and they said that they didn't get her check, and now she has come up with X amount of dollars by the next day. This is every other week it is always something. When she calls me, she usually pause and it will be silent a bit, as if she is waiting for me to respond ( perhaps with money), I dont always know what to say to her. After the long pause, she gets of the phone in a hurry, but have a disgusted tone in her voice. I have helped her out few times in the past, but I refuse to make this a habit. I suggested her going to get a small loan, since she works at the bank, but she says she can't. What are some ways I can respond? I don't feel comfortable with loaning money to friends, nor do I want to keep bailing her out each time.
2007-08-01 14:35:48 · 3 answers · asked by Alana 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She did tell me once," you don't have as much expense as I do, cause you don't have kids". What that have to do with me is beyond me! I think that maybe she feels that I have monies available to lend out ( plus she work where I bank at and can see what I have in my account-I am thinking of moving my account for just this reason, but that is another story). I feel bad for her situation, but I dont feel comfortable with lending or bailing her out ( with no offer to pay back or anything), plus I already helped her out before. Once she called me the same day with two DIFFERENT stories of why she needed money. Once I helped her out, and the very next week, she called me again with another story cause she needed money again, which I refused. Thanks for all your help!
2007-08-01 14:43:23 · update #1
The only appropriate response is "I'm sorry you're having a hard time, but i'm sure you'll get through this like you always do."
If she gets mad, who cares, you don't really need a drama queen for a friend, especially when 90% of her problems are self-created.
2007-08-01 14:39:32 · answer #1 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since she works at a bank, suggest that she take some finance courses to learn more about how to handle money.
2007-08-01 14:42:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her exactly what you told us.
2007-08-01 14:38:30 · answer #3 · answered by Appono Astos 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋