my ex boyfriend who is friends with my current boyfriend, told a friend of mine that he still has feelings for me. i broke up with him a year ago because he cheated on me, and his friend [my boyfriend] was there for me during those tough times. i got with my boyfriend and my ex got with the girl that he cheated on me with. my ex knows that im happy right now and i only consider him as a friend. i dont want to tell my boyfriend that his friend, my ex, flirts with me everytime he gets a chance to. this guy comes and visits me @ work and stays flirting with me, calling me, and every chance he gets he tries to ask me to go and hang out with him!!! what should i do!!!!??? he's stressing me out, and i dont want any problems with him and my boyfriend!!!
2007-08-01 14:31:56 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Talk to him. Tell him that your relationship is over and that you are happy with your new bf. If he continues to do this talk to your new bf about it. I'm sure he would put an end to it by talking to his friend.
2007-08-01 14:37:07 · answer #1 · answered by parisgleam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one of the reasons why you should never date a friend of an ex. But it is clear that you have not told him your position. First, let your ex know where you stand and inform your current boyfriend. The last thing you want is your boyfriend to find out from someone other than you as it will look like you are hiding something.
2007-08-01 14:46:26 · answer #2 · answered by spencer4571 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U should do what you should have done a long time ago. When you break up with someone and you know that they still have feelings for you, you need to cut it off completely. Staying friends is never a good idea with guys like that. I'm in a situation much like that now. I wouldn't tell your bf that he's flirting with you unless it gets physically dangerous...i.e. he tries to kiss you or something. you might try ignoring his calls and avoiding him at all costs. If him and ur current man are gonna go out, you should stay home. Try not to give him any sign that you might want him back. even if you don't think something is a sign, he might take it as one. A situation like this is rather difficult to get out of or resolve...and it time.
2007-08-01 14:40:23 · answer #3 · answered by Megan J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your ex is not being a friend to your boyfriend; the contrary. Don't talk to your ex; don't answer his calls; tell him to not bother you at work; tell him to leave you alone. If these things don't work, tell your boyfriend and consider getting an order of restraint placed against your ex.
2007-08-01 14:38:05 · answer #4 · answered by What, what, what?? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be strong and assertive. This behaviour is not acceptable to you, your boyfriend, or your ex's girlfriend. Are you confused because you still have feelings for your ex?? Because the solution seems to be crystal clear - tell him to stop having so much contact with you.
2007-08-01 14:36:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, in my opinion you should just tell the thruth to your current boyfriend & tell him everything that's going on & he can help you with this. I know it's tough as they are mates but you need to do this. If your ex coutinues to hassle you (as it were), you need to write down each incident (visit etc) and go to the police. Hope this helps!
2007-08-01 14:37:17 · answer #6 · answered by hcolson2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the dude to leave you alone! Tell him that if he wanted to stay with you, he should've never cheated on you. Tell him to stop seeing you at work. To stop flirting with you. and to stop asking you to hang out with him!
2007-08-01 14:36:48 · answer #7 · answered by bballgurlis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...unless you like him, tell him to stop. Tell him to back off. Tell him that you're both mature, and know that both of you are in a relationship with some one you love. Tell him that you are just going to be friends, and tell him to stop flirting with you because it makes you feel uncomfortable.
2007-08-01 14:36:05 · answer #8 · answered by curious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your really close to your boyfriend then you need to tell him that this is upsetting you.
he probly already knows somethings up.
so talk to him about it.
if they are really good friends he will probly just ask him to back off... that might just be the end of it.
but i know that if you dont confront it it will eventually cause problems for you and your current boy.
2007-08-01 14:36:25 · answer #9 · answered by poets_loss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to stay away or you will call the cops and tell your current boyfriend what he is doing.
2007-08-01 14:33:55 · answer #10 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋